A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd, LPCC; and it's where we explore the effects of abuse and healing from relationship trauma through intimate discussions.  Quandra Chaffers, LCSW, CSE joins us today to discuss BDSM, kink, sexual fantasies, and trauma. Quandra and discuss the difference between a healthy sex-based lifestyle vs a life-style based in trauma. Quandra also discussed how to determine if a partner is abusive and not respectful of boundaries. She also shares why it's important to explore therapy if you are a trauma survivor and how trauma/abuse may show up for you in the bedroom.  *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.  Visit Quandra Chaffers, LCSW, CSE: www.sasstherapy.com Resources Mentioned: Fetlife  Tashra  Kink Aware Therapists: here Watch the video podcast on Youtube: https://youtu.be/gOI0fW-FGQo Email questions/comments/suggestions to Dr. Jones at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation going via social media: Instagram: A Date With Darkness Twitter: @Adatewdarkness Facebook: A Date With Darkness To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group