Click for full show notes, exercises, and word-for-word scripts from this episodeParents today know that we're not supposed to act like complete dictators and that kids do better when they have some say over the household policies and are able to negotiate and talk things through a bit. Sure, sounds good.But there's a problem.What if your teenager is a great negotiator and wins the negotiation? Many parents are getting pushed around by teens in these situations and it leaves you in a tough spot. Yes, confidence and the ability to speak up for yourself are important things for teens to learn. But having firm rules and boundaries is also important.How do you make sure that when your teen tries to negotiate something you win?We got some answers from the former Lead International Kidnapping Negotiator for the FBI, Chris Voss. Chris is the author of the hugely popular bestseller Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on it and a leading expert in the science of negotiation.In this episode, Chris walks step-by-step through how to prepare for and triumph in a negotiation with your teen.He reveals:
How to use the "Ackerman Model" to end at the exact result you want while making your teen feel like they won
The science behind Tactical Empathy, and how you can use it during negotiationsA simple, 7-word phrase to instantly disarm your teenager and make them feel understood
What most parents get wrong when they try even a simple negotiation
How to use Emotional Labeling or "tagging" effectively
Why it is so hard for parents and teenagers to get along in the first place, according to Chris
Your teen has probably been giving you the "Fake Yes"--learn what to do about it