Click here for full show notes, exercises, and word-for-word scripts from this episodeDo you ever have trouble getting kids to listen to you and do what you ask them to do? How to deal with teenagers who won't listen to the rules is the most common question parents have when they find my website.The problem, according to neuroscience, is that around age 12 kids stop listening to you merely because you are their parent. They want a better reason. Getting kids to listen is a whole lot tougher after this point.The "I'm counting to three" technique becomes completely useless by this age unless you back it up with some extremely heavy consequences. But that just backfires and creates resentment that is hard to undo.Here's how to deal with teenagers who don't respect your authority: you have to sell them on whatever it is you want them to do.This episode of the podcast is all about how to get kids to listen to your requests and follow them.I spoke with Chris Smith and worked through a step-by-step plan that will teach you exactly how to get kids to listen. Chris is the bestselling author of The Conversion Code, and the Co-Founder of Curaytor, one of the fastest-growing companies in America. He's an expert at selling products over the phone and he's trained thousands of salespeople around the world how to do this.In this episode, we go through an in-depth, step-by-step example of how to deal with teenagers who don't want to clean their room. And Chris reveals some actual word-for-word scripts he's used on his own daughter to get her to clean her room too.The first step in getting kids to listen is to find something they want, Chris told me, and to uncover both the logical and the emotional reasons they want this thing. He uses a technique called "Digging Deep" to achieve this.Once you know what they want, here's how to get kids to listen: start the conversation with a Pattern Interrupt statement that grabs their attention and subtly establishes your dominance without making them feel threatened. Chris gives examples during out interview.Next, use the Five Yes technique followed by a Feature-Benefit Tie-Down and follow Chris' simple strategy for locking down the terms of the agreement.With this system, you sell the teen on what you want them to do rather than expecting them to do it because you are the parent and you told them to. This is how to deal with teenagers.The 29-minute public version is free to listen to, and the 46-minute extended version, packed with extra goodies, is reserved for site members. Log in or sign up to access everything our site has to offer!