Click for full show notes, exercises, and word-for-word scripts from this episodeWhen we love someone we tend to want to pull them closer or hold them tighter. But often, especially with teenagers, this can push them away or cause them to withdraw. In this interview, writer and yoga expert Rachel Scott explains the concept of Aparigraha, meaning non-grasping or non-clinging. She says that parents can embody this principle by creating an open, loving space for teens to talk about whatever is on their mind.Importantly, however, we have to be able to detach ourselves from the outcome. If we want or need for the conversation to go a certain way teenagers will instinctively pick up on our need and will avoid complying. So the idea is to create the proper atmosphere and then detach yourself from the outcome and be OK with whatever happens.Your teen might not say anything at all.Don't let the outcome bother you.But of course this brings up an important question. If you are completely detached from the outcome then you will never be able to talk to your teenager about pre-planned topics like college applications, sports tryouts, dating, or whatever else is on your mind. So the key is being able to find the balance between having some ideas about where you want the conversation to go but being OK with wherever it does end up going.How can you do this?Rachel lays it out on this week's podcast episode...