Terri is scrolling down her social media timeline and noticed everyone else’s life was lit while hers seemed stagnant. She felt overwhelmed instead of inspired. Dr. Dom reminds Terri of her #BlackGirlMagic but noted a bigger issue...what happens when we don’t reach certain adulting milestones? We tend to engage in negative social comparison (your day 1) based on the highlights of someone else’s life (their day 100). We let other people tell us what we should focus on even if it’s not bringing us fulfillment. Dr. Dom and Terri point out some of the milestones many of us are expected to achieve (the good, the hard, the annoying, the fun) and the strategies we can utilize to be comfortable in our own path. Find your fire and make your own life LIT! Quote of the Day: "Don’t set sail on someone else’s star." - African proverb  Takeaways: Your life is yours to create. It won’t look like anyone else’s and that’s okay. Appreciate the good things happening to you in the moment Revisit Your Why & Your Master Plan Don’t Despise the Days of Small Beginnings Realize Why Successful Black Women Should Be Celebrated Motivate Yourself & Create a Game Plan 4 Ways to Stay Motivated When Everyone Else’s Life is Lit   "Where you will sit when you are old shows where you stood in youth." — Yoruba proverb   Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal Mapping Workbook   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.