You don’t worry about having a bathtub masturbation addiction. Leah answers a listener’s questions about whether she has a porn addiction, and why she can’t orgasm with her husband. She talks about identifying the function of porn, not taking on shame, and navigating a relationship agreement around it.   Bookmark moments: 2:12 - “Am I normal?” A listener calls in with two inter-related questions: is it normal to be unable to orgasm through intercourse with my husband, and is it normal that I only can with porn? 4:11 - Leah responds to the listener. Difficulty orgasming during is a thing that many women experience. There can be physical or mental causes. 6:17 - How do you identify techniques that deliver pleasure if you don’t know what you want or what is possible? 8:17 - Leah calls back to a recent share about being shamed by our partner. This creates an experience of break in trust. 9:28 - Is there *actually* such a thing as porn addiction? We do a fact check. 10:50 - Check in with how porn functions in your relationship. Is it what you need to physiologically relax? 12:16 - Make a relationship agreement that supports you on how to navigate it—without being responsible for your partner or making yourself small. 15:48- PJ Parties for Grownups!   Podcast recommendation: Title – Decide Balance Host – Yvonne Hernández Apple Podcasts description - A space where anyone of any age can decide balance in their day at anytime with a 5 minute guided bilingual (English & Spanish) meditation. Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/DecideBalance Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DecideBalance   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podcasts   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak