Inez is a 32-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married with children, and monogamous. Inez is dealing with chronic illness and is in a currently sexless marriage. Topics covered in this interview include: recovering personal pleasure after abuse/trauma, body image, chronic illness and its impact on sexual activity, and how a partner's mental health diagnosis impacts the relationship. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 5:40 - How it felt as an adult to tell her father about childhood sexual abuse 8:50 - The culture difference around sex between the Midwest of the United States vs. the west coast 12:33 - Discovering she was pregnant while on drugs 18:00 - How weight fluctuations affect her experience of sexuality 29:50 - How a partner having short stamina can be desirable for a survivor of sexual abuse 31:30 - How her partner violated consent and led to her feeling unsafe and cutting off sexual contact 39:05 - The Quick 5   The Patreon extras for this episode are: At the $5/month level, Inez talks about the difficult relationship she had with her mother and stepfather and the effect that has on how she parents her own children. At the $7/month level, that conversation plus 20-plus Q&A questions in 10 minutes. At the $10/month level, all that plus a monthly Ask Me Anything! If you like this show, please leave a rating and review at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girls-talk-about-sex/id1436501617?mt=2. Want to be on the show? Visit www.leahcarey.com/guest and let me know that you’re interested. I’d love to talk with you! To learn about Sexual Communication Coaching, visit www.leahcarey.com/coaching Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email) Editor – Gretchen Kilby Music by – Nazar Rybak