When we over-parent and rescue all the time, we're depriving our kids from living. Life is truly an active verb. And when we focus on making things easier in the short term, we deprive our kids of the skills they need for the long haul.   In this episode we speak with Julie Lythcott-Haims who is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, Real American, and her newest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way.   She shares with us how parents can sometimes get focused on the short term gains and lose sight of those long haul parenting goals. And in the end, it’s our kids who pay the price. We some of our best “Oh crap! I’m an adult now” moments and how we found strength in them, just as our kids will! Resources We Shared:   Me & My Friendships Book    Julie Lythcott-Haims   How to Raise an Adult   Real American: A Memoir   Your Turn: How to Be an Adult   Leave Us a Podcast Review (How to Video)   Download the Transcripts HERE   The best mom is a happy mom. To better take care of you, download our No Guilt Mom mindset here .  These reminders will help you second guess less, and feel more confidence every day in your parenting.