Ghosting the Argument (Empty Boats)

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Ghosting the Argument (Empty Boats)

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Aug 25, 2021

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In this episode Martha and Ro talk about the “ultimate spiritual lifehack” for dealing with other human beings. Conflict is everywhere, and you can’t win enough arguments to ever escape the culture of argument itself. So Martha and Ro suggest a process of “ghosting” this part of the culture. The solution? It’s all about empty boats! Listen for insight, giggles, and a guest appearance by Buffy the Vampire Slayer’s stake!

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Aug 25, 2021

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Ghosting the Argument (Empty Boats)

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