WOMAN VALIDATE YOURSELF !

By Ayo AkinOni

This book delves into the crucial role of self-validation in women's lives, challenging societal and cultural expectations that have

historically undermined women's self-esteem. Through engaging chapters, AkinOni guides readers on a journey of self-discovery, empha-

sizing the importance of internal validation over external approval.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ayo AkinOni
• Release date: Mar 12, 2024
• ISBN: 9780796150233

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DEDICATION:

To the woman that is not afraid to be her most authentic self.

PRAISE FOR

WOMAN! VALIDATE YOURSELF.

Queenesta - Amazon.com (Verified Purchase)

Reviewed in the United States on May 15, 2023

This book is packed with great techniques and insights that can help all women to discover everything they need in life. I recommend.

Pascy Bless - Amazon.com (Verified Purchase)

Reviewed in the United States on May 15, 2023

This book is all about teaching women on how to value themselves.

I double my confidence as a woman after reading this book. I discovered in this book that as a woman when you focus on your life and differentiate wrong from right, you will never regret your decision what a great book for every woman to have at home.

Michelle Bowie - Amazon.com (Verified Purchase)

Reviewed in the United States on May 6, 2023

The best book I read for teaching a women on how to affirm myself as a lady, no matter what is going on around me. Good job, for writing this book for women, in this time of need when so much is going in this world.

Omosewa - Amazon.com (Verified Purchase)

Reviewed in the United States on May 6, 2023

This book made me realize that as, Women, we need to know that we are made for so much more than we ever give ourselves credit for, find your tribe, discover your strength, don’t apologize for your femaleness or your femininity. Crawl if you must, just keep moving towards your goal,when you do get there, bask in the ambience of your accomplishments. A must read for everyone.

An Introduction

Self-validation is the process of acknowledging and accept- ing your own thoughts, feelings, and actions without seeking approval or validation from external sources. It involves rec- ognizing and validating your own experiences, needs, and beliefs, and trusting in your own abilities and decisions.

At its core, self-validation is about developing a strong sense of self-worth and self-esteem. When we seek validation from others, we are essentially relying on their opinions and feed- back to determine our own self-worth. This can lead to a cy- cle of seeking external validation, which can ultimately leave us feeling insecure and uncertain of ourselves.

On the other hand, when we learn to self-validate, we are able to trust in our own abilities and judgment, which can lead to a greater sense of confidence and self-assurance.

We are better equipped to handle challenges and setbacks because we have an internal source of validation that we can rely on.

The concept of self-validation is rooted in a number of dif- ferent psychological theories, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).

In CBT, self-validation is seen as a key component of emo- tional regulation, as it helps individuals to identify and chal- lenge negative thought patterns and beliefs. In DBT, self-vali- dation is seen as a way to cultivate a sense of mindfulness and non-judgmental awareness.

WHY IT’S IMPORTANT FOR WOMEN TO VALIDATE THEMSELVES

Self-validation is important for women for a number of rea- sons. Historically, women have often been socialized to seek external validation and approval, particularly from men.

This can lead to a lack of confidence and self-esteem, as women are conditioned to view themselves through the lens of others’ expectations and perceptions.

Furthermore, women are often subjected to societal expec- tations and stereotypes that can be damaging to their self- worth.

For example, women may be expected to be nurturing, self- less, and accommodating, which can make it difficult for them to prioritize their own needs and desires.

Women who do prioritize their own needs and assert them- selves may be perceived as bossy or difficult, which can

further erode their confidence and self-esteem. In addition, women may face unique challenges and experiences that can impact their sense of self-worth.

For example, women who have experienced gender-based violence or discrimination may struggle with feelings of shame, self-blame, and low self-esteem.

Women who have experienced infertility or pregnancy loss may also struggle with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt

By learning to self-validate, women can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and self-esteem that is not dependent on external sources.

This can help them to better navigate the challenges and ob- stacles that they may face, and to prioritize their own needs and desires without guilt or shame.

In addition, self-validation can help women to develop stronger and healthier relationships. When women are able to validate their own experiences and needs, they are better equipped to communicate their needs to others and to estab- lish boundaries that are healthy and respectful. This can help to prevent the development of codependent or unhealthy re- lationships.

Finally, self-validation can help women to pursue their goals and aspirations with greater confidence and determination.

When women trust in their own abilities and judgment, they are more likely to take risks and to pursue opportunities that align with their values and passions. This can lead to greater fulfillment and satisfaction in life.

In short, self-validation is important for women because it can help to build a strong sense of self-worth and self-es- teem, to establish healthy boundaries and relationships, and to pursue goals and aspirations with greater confidence and determination.

HISTORICAL CONTEXT OF WOMEN’S SELF-ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE

The historical context of women’s self-esteem and confidence is complex and multifaceted, shaped by a variety of social, cultural, and political factors.

For much of human history, women have been viewed as in- ferior to men and