MASTER YOUR EMOTION: A Journey to Emotional Mastery and Lasting Well-Being (2023 Guide for Beginners)

By YOLANDA WOOLERY

"Master Your Emotion" is a transformative guide that leads you on a profound journey to unlock the secrets of emotional mastery and cultivate lasting well-being. Dive into a comprehensive exploration of the intricate landscape of human emotions, and harness practical strategies and transformative insights that enable you to navi

• Language: English
• Publisher: YOLANDA WOOLERY
• Release date: Nov 8, 2023
• ISBN: 9783988315922

YOLANDA WOOLERY

Yolanda Woolery, based in New York City, is a renowned psychologist and emotional wellness coach. With a focus on empowering individuals to master their emotions and achieve lasting well-being, Woolery's work has touched the lives of countless people, guiding them towards emotional resilience and inner peace.

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Yolanda Woolery

Master your Emotion

Copyright © 2023 by Yolanda Woolery

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Contents

Introduction:

What emotion are?

Why isn’t it your brain’s job to make you happy?

What exactly is the ego?

The essence of emotion

What influences your emotions?

The Benefits of Exercising

Use your ideas to influence your emotions

How to modify your emotion

Letting go of your emotion

Changing your emotion by changing your behaviour

Solutions for Negative Emotions in the Short and Long term

How emotions can guide you in the right direction

Not being good enough

Being defensive

Acknowledge your significance:

Jealousy

Depression

Fear / Discomfort

Introduction:

We all go through a variety of emotions during our life. I must acknowledge that I went through some ups and downs while writing this book. At first, I was ecstatic at the prospect of giving people a handbook to help them learn about their feelings. As readers learned to regulate their emotions, I envisioned how their lives might improve. My motivation was strong, and I couldn’t stop thinking about how fantastic the book will be.

So, I concluded.

After the initial rush of joy wore off, it was time to settle down and write the actual book, while the excitement faded rapidly. Ideas that were exciting in my head become boring. My writing appeared monotonous, and I thought I had nothing significant or important to offer.

Every day, sitting at my desk and writing became increasingly difficult. I began to doubt myself. Who was I to write a book about emotions when I couldn’t even control my own? What irony! I pondered quitting. Why add another book on the subject when there are already plenty of them? At the same time, I understood that this book provided an excellent chance to work on my emotional struggles. And who doesn’t experience bad feelings on a particular day? Don’t we all experience highs and lows?

What we do with our lows is crucial. Are we allowing our emotions to help us grow and develop, or are we punishing ourselves for them?

So, let’s discuss your feelings right now. Let me begin by asking you a question:

How are you now feeling?

Knowing how you feel is the first step toward managing your emotions. You may have lost touch with your emotions because you have spent so much time internalizing them. Perhaps you said, I believe this book could be useful, or I believe I could learn something from this book.

None of these responses, however, reflect how you feel. You don’t ‘feel like this,’ ‘feel like that,’ you ‘feel.’ You don’t ‘feel like’ this book may be valuable; you ‘think’ it could prove useful, creating an emotion that makes you ‘feel’ eager about reading it. Feelings manifest as tangible sensations in your body, not as abstract ideas. Perhaps the overuse or abuse of the verb ‘feel’ originates from our sensitivity to discussing our feelings.

So, how are you feeling now?

Why is it vital to speak about emotions?

The quality of your life is determined by how you feel. Your emotions may either make or break your life. That is why they are among the most important things to concentrate on. All of your experiences are colored by your emotions. When you’re in a good mood, everything seems, feels, or tastes better. You also have superior ideas. Your energy levels are higher, and the possibilities appear to be infinite. When you are depressed, everything looks boring. You have little energy and lose motivation. You feel trapped (mentally and physically) in a situation you don’t want to be in, and the future appears dark.

Your emotions might also serve as an effective guide. They may notify you to a problem and allow you to make modifications in your life. As such, they may be among the most effective personal development tools you have.

Unfortunately, neither your teachers nor your parents taught you how to deal with your emotions. It’s interesting that almost everything comes with a user manual, but your mind doesn’t.

Have you ever gotten an instruction manual explaining how your mind works and how to utilize it to better regulate your emotions? No, I haven’t. In fact, I had no idea one existed until recently.

What you’ll learn in this book?

This is the instruction handbook your parents should have given you when you were born. It’s the handbook you should have received in school. In it, I’ll teach you all you need to know about emotions so you may conquer your fears and become the person you want to be.

⦁This book will especially assist you with:

⦁Learn about emotions and how they affect your life.

⦁Understand how emotions form and how to utilize them for personal development.

⦁Identify and overcome bad emotions that control your life.

⦁Change your story to have greater control over your life and a more intriguing future.

⦁Retrain your mind to feel more happy feelings.

⦁Deal with unpleasant emotions and train your brain to a direct influence on

your emotions.

⦁Learn how to recognize and regulate your emotions by acquiring all of the

necessary skills

Here’s a more in-depth breakdown of everything you’ll study in this book:

In Part I, we will define emotions. You’ll discover why your brain is programmed to concentrate on negativity and what you can do to combat it. You’ll also learn how your beliefs affect your emotions. Finally, you’ll discover how negative emotions function and why they’re so difficult to understand.

Part II will discuss the factors that have a direct influence on your emotions.

You’ll learn about the roles your body, thoughts, words, and sleep play in your life and how you can utilize them to affect your feelings.

The formation of emotions and how to train your mind to feel more pleasant emotions are covered in Part III.

Part IV will cover how to use your emotions as a tool for personal development. You’ll discover how emotions like fear and despair function as well as their causes.

Let’s start now.

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

I urge you to read this book completely at least once. I welcome you to return to the book after that and concentrate on the section(s) you want to examine in greater detail.

I have several distinct exercises in this book. Even though I don’t expect you to read them all, I do hope you’ll choose a few and use them in your life. Keep in mind that how much time and effort you are willing to invest will determine the outcomes you receive from reading this book.

Make sure to share this book with your family and friends if you think it would be of any use to them. I think it would be beneficial for all of us to have a deeper understanding of the subject because emotions are complex.

What emotion are?

Have you ever pondered the nature of emotions and the functions they play?

In this part, we’ll talk about how your survival mechanism affects your emotions. Then, we’ll define the ‘ego’ and discuss how it affects your feelings. Finally, we’ll study how emotions work and why dealing with unpleasant ones can be so challenging

WHAT EFFECTS YOUR SURVIVAL MECHANISM HAS ON YOUR EMOTIONS

Why do humans have a negative bias?

Your brain is geared for survival, which explains why you can read this book right now. When you think about it, the chances of you being born are exceedingly slim. For this miracle to occur, all previous generations had to survive long enough to procreate. They must have faced death hundreds, if not thousands, of times in their drive for survival and propagation.

Fortunately, unlike your forefathers, you don’t have to face mortality every day. In truth, life has never been safer in many parts of the world. Your survival mechanism, though, hasn’t changed much. Your brain is still scanning your surroundings for potential risks.

Some areas of your brain have grown outmoded in numerous ways.

While you may not be seconds away from being eaten by a predator, your brain nonetheless assigns negative occurrences much more weight than happy ones.

Fear of rejection is one example of a negative bias. In the past, having your tribe reject you would significantly reduce your chances of surviving. As a result, you learned to look for signs of rejection, which got programmed in your brain.

Nowadays, being rejected has little or no impact on your long-term survival. You can be despised by the entire world while still having a job, a roof over your head, and enough food on the table, and your brain is still programmed to see rejection as a threat to your life.

Because of this hardwiring, rejection can be excruciating. While you are aware that most rejections are insignificant, you are nonetheless affected emotionally. If you listen to your mind, you might even be able to develop an entire drama around it. You may believe you are unlovable and linger on rejection for days or weeks. Worse, you may develop depression as a result of this rejection.

A single critique can frequently outweigh hundreds of positives.

As a result, an author who has fifty 5-star reviews is likely to be devastated when they receive a single 1-star review. While the author recognizes that the one-star rating isn’t a threat to her survival, her authorial brain does not. It most likely views the bad assessment as a danger to her ego, eliciting an emotional response.

Fear of rejection can also cause you to exaggerate occurrences. If your supervisor reprimanded you at work, your brain may interpret the criticism as a threat, leading you to wonder, What if my boss fires me? What if I can’t find work fast enough and my wife leaves me? What about my children? What if I never get to see them again?"

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