Beautiful Rejection: A Journey of Resilience, Growth, and Self-Discovery

By Tamica Kibonge

No one wants to be rejected, yet we will all experience rejection at some point in our lives. Rejection is unpleasant and can be extremely painful. Rejection and its companions can rob us of our identity, highjack our confidence, as well as lower our self-esteem. Rejection takes our mind and our emotions down an agonizing path of self -doubt and reasoning that appears to be never ending. It can make us feel worthless and so unloved. However, being rejected can actually be a blessing. What if I told you that being rejected could be the one of the best things that could ever happen to you? What if I told you that something beautiful could come from something so ugly? What if I told you that God could be utilizing rejection to transform your life for the better? Would you believe me…?

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Feb 26, 2024
• ISBN: 9798385017782

Tamica Kibonge

Tamica Kibonge is a published author, writer, and entreprenuer who has a heart for people. From the crushing of Tamica’s life and personal hardships, has emerged a confidence that took both time and courage to cultivate. In her writings, Tamica takes readers on an unimaginable journey. She shares her innermost thoughts and feelings, granting the readers access to heart- the very thing God using rejection to purify.

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WestBow Press rev. date:  03/18/2024

N O ONE WANTS to be rejected, yet we will all experience rejection at some point in our lives. Rejection

is unpleasant and can be extremely painful. Rejection can rob us of our identities and hijack our confidence as well as lower our self-esteem. Rejection takes our minds and our emotions down agonizing paths of self-doubt and reasoning that appear to be never-ending. It can make us feel worthless and so unloved.

However, being rejected can actually be a blessing. What if I told you that being rejected could be one of the best things that could ever happen to you? What if I told you that something beautiful could come from something so ugly? What if I told you that God could be utilizing rejection to transform your life for the better? Would you believe me?

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I remember lying in the middle of the bed in the fetal position, completely broken. My emotions were spiraling out of control, and I felt completely empty inside. Drowning in a sea of my own tears, I was attempting to wrap my mind around what had just happened a few days prior. However, it was to no avail. My mind was racing, full of confusion. I couldn’t seem to calm my composure long enough to gather my own thoughts.

Why is this happening? What did I do to deserve this? Why am I being rejected? My anguished soul needed answers.

As I lay there lifeless, swaddled in a blanket of self-pity, wondering why my husband wanted to separate (which would later lead to him wanting a divorce), I heard a voice in my mind say, How long did you reject Me, and how long did I wait for you?

I knew it wasn’t my voice because I was too busy being sad. However, I recognized the voice. It was all so familiar. It was a voice I’ve come to know. It was the voice of my God! Intentionally and with impeccable timing, God interrupted my pity party with a question that caught me off guard, a question that I wouldn’t expect to be asked at that moment. That question would challenge my thinking. That question would be the beginning of an invasive pruning process that would soon cut away at anything and everything that would keep me from becoming who God intended me to be.

When God asked me that question, it was like all the sadness I was experiencing stood still for a moment. I was so taken aback by His question I stopped paying attention to the hurt I was feeling and focused solely on what He had just asked me.

Did He really just ask me that? In a time of such despair, I thought God would have coddled me and told me that everything was going to be all right. Nope. That didn’t happen. At least not initially. Instead, He flipped what I was making about me and made it about Him. At the time, I didn’t understand why He would do that, but later, it would make perfect sense. In the meantime, I pondered the answer to both questions He had just asked me.

How long did you reject Me, and how long did I wait for you? The answer to both of those questions was twenty-seven years. For twenty-seven years, ignorantly, I rejected God. For twenty-seven years, God patiently waited for me. At that moment, I didn’t realize the significant role that rejection would play in my life. God would use the process of rejection to make me more beautiful on the inside. He would soon use rejection to teach me a multitude of lessons. God would allow affliction to do a great work in me—to make me stronger. He would mold and shape me into who He needed me to be. Of course, God didn’t want me rejected, hurting, and sad, but since it was happening, He would use it for my benefit and for His glory—if I allowed Him to. For me