How to Help Your Child with Worry and Anxiety: Activities and Conversations for Parents to Help Their 4-11-Year-Old
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As a parent, it's heartbreaking to watch your child struggle with anxious thoughts, or seem overwhelmed by worry. Childhood anxiety is a growing problem and affects children's sleep, mood, behaviour, school achievement and overall wellbeing.
- Through activities and guided conversations based on a CBT framework, clinical psychologist Lauren Callaghan shows you how to help your child manage their thoughts and feelings and build the emotional skills needed to overcome overwhelming anxiety. The book will:
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Help you identify the symptoms and possible causes of anxiety in your child
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Give you activities to do with your child to change their thought process and challenge anxious thoughts
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Arm you with ideas to try in-the-moment, when your child is feeling overwhelmed with worry or anxiety
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Give you the confidence to talk openly with your child and start the journey of overcoming anxiety.
This practical handbook for parents of children aged 4 to 11 years old will give you the knowledge and tools you need to help your child.
Lauren Callaghan is a clinical psychologist who has worked at world-renowned research centres. She specializes in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), family therapy and working with anxiety problems across all ages.
Lauren Callaghan
Lauren Callaghan (CPsychol, PGDipClinPsych, PgCert, MA (hons), LLB (hons), BA) is an innovative clinical psychologist who specialises in CBT and has over 15 years' experience of working with adults and young people, including students.
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How to Help Your Child with Worry and Anxiety - Lauren Callaghan
INTRODUCTION
It is great that you’ve picked up this book. It means you’ve taken a positive step toward your child’s recovery from anxiety and worry.
I understand that, as a parent, it is very difficult to watch your child suffering from anxiety. Your immediate desire is likely to respond in a way that removes the anxiety completely. However, as you read this book, you’ll learn that anxiety is, in fact, normal. It is nature’s way of responding to a threat, and it prompts the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ mechanism (explained in more detail later), which is very useful in difficult situations.
You are by no means alone. Up to 10 per cent of all children experience anxiety problems.
If you’re the parent of a child who is experiencing anxiety, you are by no means alone. Up to 10 per cent of all children experience anxiety problems. For most children, anxiety is only fleeting – a response to giving a talk in class or a trip to the dentist, for example. For others, it is a severe issue; a persistent, chronic problem that negatively affects many parts of their lives.
You may be unsure about how to help your child or how best to approach conversations about anxiety with them. You might have spotted some behaviours in your child that concern you or want to know the signs to look out for when anxiety begins to become a problem. This book will help you to navigate each of these roads and will provide a stable companion as you and your child tackle their worry and anxiety together.
Please do not blame yourself if your child experiences problems with anxiety.
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It is normal, as a parent, to feel guilty for the part you think you have played in causing your child’s anxiety.
However, please do not blame yourself. It is not helpful for you or them, and it won’t help your child overcome it.
Anxiety problems develop for many reasons and they are very common. The best thing you can do is decide to help your child overcome their anxiety problem.
WHAT ARE WORRY AND ANXIETY?
In simple terms:
Worry is when we dwell on things that we believe are threatening to us in some way. We keep thinking about these things and may go over and over them in our heads. Worry is usually based on things that haven’t actually happened, so we often worry about what ‘might’ happen.
Another type of problem associated with worry is when we can’t stop thinking about things that have happened in the past, and we go over and over them in our head, causing us to feel anxious and upset. These past events are usually unpleasant experiences and can lead to worry about them happening again.
Anxiety is a physical and emotional response to worry – to something we consider to be threatening. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. When we feel anxious, this affects how our body responds, known as the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ response. This is a very human, very normal way of responding when we feel under threat.
The words ‘anxiety’, ‘fear’ and ‘worry’ are often used interchangeably, but here are the definitions of how I use these terms in this book:
Worries are the thoughts we have about a future event, real or imagined, that scare us. Or they can be about things that have already happened that we can’t change.
Fear is the emotional reaction to real or perceived imminent danger.
Anxiety describes the emotional and physiological sensations that we have in response to what we anticipate as a threat.
UNDERSTANDING ANXIETY
Anxiety is a perfectly natural response to threatening situations, and we all experience it from time to time. It is a fundamental part of being human; we cannot banish it permanently just because at some points in our lives it misfires and becomes a problem. What we can do instead is manage it so that it doesn’t become a bigger problem than it needs to be.
It is only by understanding anxiety and worry that your child will ever learn to manage them, and stop them severely impacting their life.
The biggest lesson to teach your child is not to fight or run away from worries. Instead, they should know them for what they are, accept they are a normal part of life, and by doing so, learn to manage them.
Children who experience troubling or anxious thoughts can feel incredibly weighed down, isolated and confused. It is only by understanding anxiety and worry that your child will ever learn to manage them, and stop them severely impacting their life.
Think about it like jumping off a diving board. At first, the fear you have as you stand above the drop feels overwhelming, but then you jump and realize that it wasn’t quite as bad as you thought it was going to be. Then you do it again, and again, and each time you do it, you feel less and less fear.
That is how you can help your child tackle anxiety and worry – by taking steps to face it and accepting some level of fear. Following this approach will give your child everything they need to reduce the negative impact of the worries and fears that could dominate their life.
In helping your child learn skills to manage anxiety, you are giving them important building blocks for good future mental health.
If you help your child recognize anxiety and encourage them to learn skills to manage it so it doesn’t become a problem, you are giving them important building blocks for good future mental health.
Everyone experiences stressors in life at different points, so gaining the skills needed to navigate worry and anxiety at an early age provides the resilience and knowledge to face such situations effectively in the future.
THE APPROACH USED IN THIS BOOK
In this book, you will learn what anxiety and worry are, and how you