Christina Jaloway joins me co-hosting this episode where we interview Dr. Deborah MacNamara.  A wealth of knowledge and passion, Deborah MacNamara has beautiful and sensitive insights into the hearts of our children.    We discuss her work and her book, Rest, Play, Grow: making sense of preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one).  Deborah walks us gently, graciously through the layers and depths of building connection with our children, and helps us to understand the instincts and gifts we innately carry to give the safe environment that they crave.  Deborah's insights and gift to us can be summarized in the following quote ~ "The secret to [developing relationships] is  helping a child see that it’s not their job to strive to hold on to us but to take for granted that we won’t let go of them."5:38 - Why are rewards and consequences so prevalent today?10:00 - Why is anxiety related to separation based discipline?15:48 - What do we do with the fear of judgments of others?22:50 - What does attachment actually mean?33:12 - Is it too late if we didn't practice attachment parenting in the early years? 44:20 - What are the fruits of attachment? 46:05 - How is it that a child matures? Where does maturity come from?1:00:21 - Becoming your child's answer1:02:52 - How should parents deal with the unreasonable child?Deborah's website:http://macnamara.caNeufeld Institute:https://neufeldinstitute.org/Video on anxiety in children:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hymwvaZ9oKg&t=4sDr. Deborah MacNamara on Facebook here:https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=dr%20deborah%20macnamaraAnd on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drdeborahmacnamara/