No More Regrets!: 30 Ways to Greater Happiness and Meaning in Your Life
By Mark Muchnick and Marc Muchnick
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Whenever we do something we wish we hadn't—or don't do something we wish we had—we vow it won't happen again. But do we ask ourselves why it happened in the first place?
Because we become prisoners of habit and circumstance, we take people in our lives for granted and fail to be true to ourselves. We stop growing and learning, become self-absorbed and judgmental, and lose touch with our innate goodness. Inspired by his final conversation with a dying friend, Marc Muchnick's No More Regrets! is specifically designed to help you avoid these pitfalls.
Just one or two of the thirty ways to greater happiness and meaning outlined here could potentially change your life. Muchnick's suggestions are straightforward, thoughtful, and easy to implement—often just a matter of shifting perspective and seeing the world differently. No More Regrets! will show you how to live in a way that allows you to confidently move forward rather than constantly look back.
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No More Regrets! - Mark Muchnick
Introduction
You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.
MAE WEST
NONE OF US want to look back on life with regrets or to be that person who reflects on the past and says, If only I would have spent more quality time with the people I love most in my life …
If only I would have taken that vacation instead of working so much …
If only I would have gone with my gut …
If only I could take back what I said …
But how often does that person sound a lot like you and me?
Gary’s Gift
Not too long ago a good friend of mine passed away—he was in his early forties and left a lot of loving friends and family behind. Gary’s battle with cancer lasted several years, and during that time I learned what a true fighter he was. When he was first diagnosed, the doctors told him he had only a few months to live. But Gary refused to give up and remained dedicated to working hard, traveling, and most of all spending quality time with his children in the midst of grueling chemotherapy regimens. Gary had always lived life to the fullest and was a shining example of how to seize the day and live in the moment.
Six months before he died, Gary came to visit me. We sat on the back patio enjoying the beautiful summer day and reminiscing about old times. But when I asked Gary how he was feeling, he didn’t want to talk about it. Instead he asked me lots of questions—what my family had planned for vacation, how work was going, and what my dreams were for the future. Then he asked what my biggest regret was.
"My biggest regret?" I repeated.
Yes. If there was one thing in your life that you could go back and do differently, what would it be?
he clarified.
I need more time to think about it,
I replied, "but since you brought it up, what’s your biggest regret?"
I watched Gary’s tired face grow tormented in the uncomfortable silence that followed. Finally he spoke. There was a girl I dated many years ago … I should have never let her go.
Gary paused, then said, "She was my soul mate, yet I didn’t realize it until twenty-three years later. When I got sick, she started calling me in the hospital. It was then that I realized what a deep connection she and I had, one that I somehow failed to recognize when I knew her back in college. I can’t help but wonder how my life would have been different with her in it, and I kick myself because now it’s too late. When people say that life is short, I literally know what they mean. As my longtime friend, you must promise me that you’ll always do your best to live your life without any more regrets. For that you will always thank me." Gary hugged me, and I knew it was the last time I would ever have the opportunity to spend a quality afternoon with him.
Three things became clearer to me on that day than ever before:
• We all have regrets.
• Our regrets go with us to the grave.
• There is no time like the present to start living life without any more of them.
This wake-up call was Gary’s gift to me and one I now want to give to you. The choices we make in life, as well as the missed opportunities, have a profound impact on our happiness in the end. To start working toward the goal of a life with no more regrets, we first have to understand what regrets are and why we have them in the first place.
What Are Regrets?
My definition of regrets is as follows:
Regrets are the things we do that we wish we hadn’t done and the things we fail to do that we wish we had done, both of which result in unhappiness, disappointment, or remorse.
In other words, regrets are all about our actions and inactions. Therefore, regrets are about our behaviors and the feelings of unhappiness, disappointment, or remorse we attach to those behaviors. For example, if you’ve ever broken a promise, acted inconsistently with your values, made poor choices, or hurt someone as a result of what you’ve said or done (or failed to say or do), it was your behaviors that led to your feelings of regret.
Understanding regret as a product of our behaviors has direct implications for how we make decisions. Typically we bring a number of elements into our decision-making framework, such as timing, context, opportunity, cost, how we’ll feel about the decision after it is made, what the impact will be, and so on.
What this book brings to the table is that for every decision we make, we must also ask the following two behavioral questions as a standard part of our decision-making process:
• Will I have regrets if I do it (or don’t do it)?
• Will I avoid having regrets if I do it (or don’t do it)?
For example, will it cause a fight with my wife? Will I cut it too close to make it to my destination? Will he forgive me if I do it? If I don’t speak up now, will I regret it forever? The takeaway here is that many of the decisions we make need to take into account the regret factor. Be sure to ask yourself these two behavior-focused questions as you make decisions going forward if you want to have a life with no more