When Spirituality and Trauma Collide: A Guidebook for Practitioners of Soul Care
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No part of us is unaffected by trauma. Our mind, our body, and our spirit - especially our ability to experience God as loving and good - are wounded when we face pain, abuse, and suffering.
Yet, as spiritual leaders, we are often unaware of the ways trauma impacts the spiritual life - and how many of our well-intentioned respo
Karen Bartlett
Karen Bartlett lives in Wichita, Kansas. She is married to Rick Bartlett and has two young adult children. Karen is a Licensed Master of Social Work, has a Masters Certificate in Theology, an M.Ed in Neuroscience and Trauma, and a certificate in Spiritual Direction. She currently works as a school social worker during the day and as a spiritual director in the evenings. Her belief is that the holistic approach of mind, body, and spirit is essential in spiritual formation and trauma healing.
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When Spirituality and Trauma Collide - Karen Bartlett
When Spirituality
and Trauma Collide
I would like to dedicate this book to my husband Rick who supported me throughout the writing process and encouraged me to publish, as well as Grace and Tobias, who believed in me as I pursued further education in neuroscience and trauma. I’m grateful for the friends and family who have cheered me on over the past years; none of this would have happened without the backing of those who felt I had something to offer in the realm of spirituality, trauma, and healing. Finally, thank you to Invite Resources for the invaluable help in publishing this handbook.
When Spirituality and Trauma Collide: A Guidebook for Practitioners of Soul Care
Copyright 2023 by Karen Bartlett
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ISBN 978-1-953495-79-2; ePub 978-1-953495-80-8
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1 — When Spirituality and Trauma Collide
Why Does It Matter?
Basic Conflict
Chapter 2 — What Are the Issues?
I’m Not Sure What I Believe
Trauma and God as Parent
Words Matter
Reading the Cues
The Body Speaks, and We Must Listen
Conflicting Internal Narratives
Tag, You’re It!
Three Stages of Recovery
Forgiveness Is Mandatory, Right?
Attachment
And So?
Chapter 3 — The Importance of Attachment
Secure Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Ambivalent Attachment
Disorganized Attachment
Disengaged Attachment
Attachment and the Director
Neuroscience and Attachment
Parasympathetic Nervous System
Sympathetic Nervous System
Stress Response and Spirituality
Brain, Belief, and Behavior
Chapter 4 — Doing Our Personal Best
Knowing Personal Limitations
Building Trust
Language Is Key
Emotional Development and Attachment
Respecting Spiritual Boundaries and Maintaining Neutrality
Moving at the Directee’s Pace
Self-Compassion as a Director
Resources
Introduction
The practice of spiritual direction has been around since roughly AD 300 but has recently made a resurgence in faith communities and is becoming more popular as people seek spiritual guidance in these uncertain times. The title itself can be confusing or misleading as one might think it means someone will tell you what to do or has more wisdom and insight than the directee (the term for those who are seeing a spiritual director). Yet this is not at all what spiritual direction is, in my opinion. It is the practice of helping others discern what is in their soul, examine belief systems, make space for questions or doubts, and discover their own connection with God and faith by asking questions and creating space to interact with spiritual experiences and move toward inner healing.
In my work as a spiritual director and social worker for more than thirty years, I have encountered an increasing number of individuals working with past or current trauma who are trying to make sense of how faith and trauma can co-exist. The questions revolve around God, faith, evil, pain, childhood abuse, abandonment, religion, biblical promises, and much more. How do all these intersect, especially for those with personal experiences of growing up going to church learning one thing—that God is good and all is well—but being subjected to pain and suffering at home where God seems absent? Did God really care what was going on in those horrible moments? Is faith even relevant when examining trauma? These kinds of questions are deep, painful, confusing, frustrating, honest, and necessary.
My main goal in spiritual direction is to do no harm or further damage to the directee by asking insensitive questions, using traumatizing language, or communicating false narratives that increase shame or guilt.
This handbook developed through my quest to understand how to encounter these soul-searching and sacred conversations with grace, acceptance, honor, and freedom. Part of that quest led me to do a Masters of Neuroscience and Trauma through Tabor College in addition to my post-graduate education in theology from Fresno Pacific Biblical Seminary.