Healing Anger And Depression: Healing Anger, #2
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This dynamic, information-packed book will help you to understand and overcome anger management and depression problems and how they relate to each other. Learn the secrets of how emotions actually work, and how you can become more emotionally healthy in all of your relationships. Overcome any tendencies toward depression or anger problems, when you discover the power of healthy anger and how to make it work for you and not against you.
William G. DeFoore Ph.D.
William G. DeFoore, Ph.D. has been a counselor for over 50 years, and is author of multiple books. His emphasis on the deep inherent value of each individual has pervaded all of his work, bringing his orientation into alignment with a positive psychology approach to well-being.
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Healing Anger And Depression - William G. DeFoore Ph.D.
Healing Anger And Depression
Removing Barriers To Health And Happiness
William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Introduction
Health and happiness are naturally occurring, ongoing processes that are inherent to our existence. So why aren’t more of us healthy and happy more of the time? It’s because of the barriers that block and interfere with that naturally occurring well-being that is our birth right. In this book, you will learn to remove those barriers so that you can live the happy, healthy life that is meant for you.
Emotion is one of the most misunderstood aspects of our human existence. As a result of reading this book, you're going to have a little more understanding of this mysterious realm we call emotion.
We all experience a four-part process when it comes to our emotions. It begins with some kind of oppression from the environment (which happens in some form to all of us), and leads to some kind of suppression, which can result in depression, and leads inevitably to some form of expression. The four-part process is thus oppression, suppression, depression, and expression.
Oppression
There are different kinds of oppression that all of us are exposed to, and other forms of oppression that are less common. The most common forms of oppression we experience when it comes to our emotions are misinformation and the absence of information.
Every culture has its own version of this. In western culture, we got a type of unintentional, unconscious emotional education, and we all learned these lessons very well. And just to prove to you how well you learned in your emotional education, I'm going to give you a two-part test. The first question is, How are you doing?
The socially acceptable answer is Fine.
Second question is, What's wrong?
The socially acceptable answer is Nothing.
I'm fine, nothing's wrong.
That's all you need to know about emotions. Now that is sort of what we've learned, isn't it? It makes sense to say this if it’s someone you don’t know well, but if you’re in conversation with your spouse, close friend or therapist, it doesn’t make so much sense.
So that's the misinformation. The misinformation is, you're supposed to be fine with nothing wrong all of the time. And if you decide you want to tell someone how you really feel, you need some type of vocabulary for talking about your emotions, which leads us to the next most common form of oppression – the absence of information.
The absence of information is demonstrated when we look at how most schools approach the topic of emotion, emotional health, and communicating emotions in relationships. Anybody remember studying that? Did you have any classes on how to build and maintain joyful, loving relationships?
We got our math and our science and our English. Those are important, right? But why haven't we made a study of this powerful thing that we call human emotion that determines the success of our parenting relationships, marriages, friendships, and even affects the ups and downs of the stock market? Many progressive schools are beginning to teach emotional and social intelligence skills, but most of us grew up with little or no guidance about emotions, even from our families, churches, and other community organizations.
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Another form of oppression that happened to all of us in one way or another is a violation of boundaries. Now, that sounds like an extreme thing, but who didn't get some kind of bullying or unkindness at school, or among siblings or peers? Who didn’t have a parent, teacher, or caregiver that got a little short tempered one day and said, Shut up!
or called us names, or maybe hit us a little too hard. It happens, doesn't it? This is what it means to be a human being raised by humans.
Some of us had our boundaries violated in very extreme ways, such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, or maybe a lot of extended verbal and emotional abuse. These are powerful forms of oppression, with significant ramifications.
And we all had some experience with unhealthy role modelling, because we were raised by imperfect human beings, however wonderful our parents and caregivers may have been in some ways. They weren't always giving the perfect example of how to deal with emotions. Maybe they held their anger in too long before it came out one way or the other, or maybe they just held it in all the time and became depressed. Maybe they were consumed with fear, and they had panic and anxiety and transferred some of that to us. They may have had some kind of compulsive/addictive disorder that prevented a healthy emotional relationship. You can see how we were all affected by these types of influences from our environment.
Suppression
This leads to the next phase in our emotional process, most commonly known as suppression.
Because we weren't taught and guided, we learned (unconsciously) to suppress our emotions from early in life. After suppressing your emotions for some time, you start to develop a sort of disconnect from your body. It just starts to not feel so good down there in your gut, chest, and other regions because of all this chronic body tension. So there will be some inevitable aches and pains, digestive problems, and respiratory problems.
So, if you're going to continue to say I'm fine, nothing's wrong,
then you're going to have to start living