The Connection Value: Love Beyond Fear

By Justin Cole

The Connection Value is a book that delves into the psychological value necessary to foster inner harmony, allowing the heart to manifest the divine energy of unconditional love through the mind. This is a contemporary interpretation of what was traditionally referred to as “The Holy Spirit”. It is the physical transformation brought about by the Kundalini Awakening, which balances energy within and initiates a profound connection activation within the self.

Through The Connection Value, readers are invited to let go of past traumas and release themselves from the burdens of conditioning, personal struggles, and generational trauma that weigh on their souls. The book encourages readers to turn inward and seek their own inner peace, rather than seeking salvation or rewards outside of themselves.

This is a compelling and thought-provoking call to action for humanity to pay attention to the transformative power that lies within each of us. The Connection Value is a powerful tool for healing and growth, and an inspiration for those seeking a more connected and fulfilling life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Austin Macauley Publishers
• Release date: Jul 21, 2023
• ISBN: 9798886938135

Justin Cole

Justin John Cole is a dedicated and selfless provider of support for those struggling to overcome various forms of psychological dependency. He also counsels those suffering from various manifestations of psychological disruption, including trauma, abuse, neglect, depression, and anxiety, which are the principal conditions of our mental health. The boundaries of his intentions for helping others are limitless. His purpose here is to help others connect with a higher sense of value in themselves. He certainly values curiously seeking knowledge but believes that the heart and intuition—the felt experience—and how the heart expresses itself through the mind are what allow an individual to treat themselves and others with love, holding the greatest value—the connection value, ultimately leading to their highest self—unlimited intelligence and divine potential. Justin has a gift for encouraging and empowering others to discover and attain their truest purpose. He also retains extensive knowledge of various treatment modalities, from somatic techniques to spiritual and metaphysical understanding, including traditional 12-Step recovery. Additionally, he utilizes various questions related to early childhood experiences and the shadow work of processing psychological fear, challenging the psychological self to release its self-value back to the individual. Of particular use are trauma techniques such as polyvagal methods and energetic attunement techniques designed to calm the mind and bring a balanced relationship between mind and body sensations. But his greatest ally is building trusting connections with others in each present moment circumstance. Justin also possesses knowledge of navigating the systems needed for an individual to find the most appropriate level of care based on their immediate needs. It can be extremely difficult and frustrating to acquire the network resources available to make a beginning at seeking change. There are also many fearful thoughts and uncomfortable sensations that arise when an individual begins to contemplate a decision to alter their current destructive course. He is all too familiar and empathetic towards these profound barriers. These surmountable obstacles do not need to inhibit someone from potentially pursuing meaningful and difficult change. Unfortunately, dependence in many forms still carries tremendous misunderstanding and stigma, yet he continues to navigate ways of superseding these unnecessary and avoidable system limitations. We must never lose faith! Getting a person the help they desire is always of greatest importance. It can be difficult to understand the disruptive reasons our loved ones appear to be deciding to slowly kill themselves, which makes it challenging for close family members to be of much use. In addition, the person with the dependency will likely not listen to close family, regardless of the amount of love intended. It is psychological hell for everyone involved, and our intention with each interaction must be to help provide relief and insight into these disruptions. When the chaos is swirling around the energy of a person who is hurting, their proximity somehow becomes infectious to those around them, especially those who care deeply. Justin has an abundance of experience diving into chaos and helping individuals find pathways out of this deadly vortex. Finding connections with a valuable network of supportive people is absolutely necessary during the initial period of recovery or awakening if you prefer, altering the conversion of energy within their being to balance energy within and elicit activation of connection. Oftentimes, a period of detachment from existing relationships is necessary, even if family has the best of intentions, allowing the person suffering to be given space and granting merciful time to discover their own light hiding within their darkness. Psychological fear is always our greatest foe—the fear of what life will result in, the unknown, the uncomfortable, the disconnected. Those lost in devaluation of themselves, without hope of a brighter and more welcoming journey into the unknown future of their existence. This is where a conductor, a master of disruption, thrives—helping individuals design, construct, and create a beautiful picture of their future life. Undivided – Incorruptible – Balanced.

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About the Author

Justin John Cole is a dedicated and selfless provider of support for those struggling to overcome various forms of psychological dependency. He also counsels those suffering from various manifestations of psychological disruption, including trauma, abuse, neglect, depression, and anxiety, which are the principal conditions of our mental health. The boundaries of his intentions for helping others are limitless. His purpose here is to help others connect with a higher sense of value in themselves. He certainly values curiously seeking knowledge but believes that the heart and intuition—the felt experience—and how the heart expresses itself through the mind are what allow an individual to treat themselves and others with love, holding the greatest value—the connection value, ultimately leading to their highest self—unlimited intelligence and divine potential.

Justin has a gift for encouraging and empowering others to discover and attain their truest purpose. He also retains extensive knowledge of various treatment modalities, from somatic techniques to spiritual and metaphysical understanding, including traditional 12-Step recovery. Additionally, he utilizes various questions related to early childhood experiences and the shadow work of processing psychological fear, challenging the psychological self to release its self-value back to the individual. Of particular use are trauma techniques such as polyvagal methods and energetic attunement techniques designed to calm the mind and bring a balanced relationship between mind and body sensations. But his greatest ally is building trusting connections with others in each present moment circumstance.

Justin also possesses knowledge of navigating the systems needed for an individual to find the most appropriate level of care based on their immediate needs. It can be extremely difficult and frustrating to acquire the network resources available to make a beginning at seeking change. There are also many fearful thoughts and uncomfortable sensations that arise when an individual begins to contemplate a decision to alter their current destructive course. He is all too familiar and empathetic towards these profound barriers. These surmountable obstacles do not need to inhibit someone from potentially pursuing meaningful and difficult change. Unfortunately, dependence in many forms still carries tremendous misunderstanding and stigma, yet he continues to navigate ways of superseding these unnecessary and avoidable system limitations. We must never lose faith! Getting a person the help they desire is always of greatest importance.

It can be difficult to understand the disruptive reasons our loved ones appear to be deciding to slowly kill themselves, which makes it challenging for close family members to be of much use. In addition, the person with the dependency will likely not listen to close family, regardless of the amount of love intended. It is psychological hell for everyone involved, and our intention with each interaction must be to help provide relief and insight into these disruptions. When the chaos is swirling around the energy of a person who is hurting, their proximity somehow becomes infectious to those around them, especially those who care deeply. Justin has an abundance of experience diving into chaos and helping individuals find pathways out of this deadly vortex.

Finding connections with a valuable network of supportive people is absolutely necessary during the initial period of recovery or awakening if you prefer, altering the conversion of energy within their being to balance energy within and elicit activation of connection. Oftentimes, a period of detachment from existing relationships is necessary, even if family has the best of intentions, allowing the person suffering to be given space and granting merciful time to discover their own light hiding within their darkness. Psychological fear is always our greatest foe—the fear of what life will result in, the unknown, the uncomfortable, the disconnected. Those lost in devaluation of themselves, without hope of a brighter and more welcoming journey into the unknown future of their existence. This is where a conductor, a master of disruption, thrives—helping individuals design, construct, and create a beautiful picture of their future life.

Undivided – Incorruptible – Balanced.

Dedication

To Aubrey Rose Cole,

You taught me The Connection Value.

You taught me the value and courage it takes,

To experience and FEEL,

Love (BE)yond fear.

You restored the Feminine Energy,

Of All-Intentioned, outward expressed Love.

Free from expectation, and selflessly given.

You are The Gravity,

Which holds My Course.

Thank You Beautiful

Thank you for teaching me

Thank you for trusting me

Thank you for believing in me

Thank you for, BEING

For you to just BE, is ALL that is required for My Love

I WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR BACK

Love Always, Dad

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Cole, Justin

The Connection Value

ISBN 9798886938104 (Paperback)

ISBN 9798886938111 (Hardback)

ISBN 9798886938135 (ePub e-book)

ISBN 9798886938128 (Audiobook)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2023909677

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First Published 2023

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Acknowledgment

To Sean Davis: An immense amount of appreciation is due to you, for seeing value in me, when I could not. You lifted me from the darkness, loved me despite my disruption, and reassured me when all hope and faith seemed lost. You ARE, and will forever remain, A True Friend and Brother.

To D. A. Sweet: You embraced me when I was at the bottom. You taught me that True Love for Our Children, holds the Highest Value, and is the most reliable course for a man to escape ‘self’. We also share the Natural Masculine Value of INTOLERANCE for corruption and exploitation. We WILL NOT let these greedy self-intentioned motherfuckers, with their sole aim of material reward, destroy The Value of Love! We see through your deception, illusion, and psychological manipulation—YOU DISGUSTING LOVELESS FUCKS!!

To Michael Gillespie (Mr. G): You are the most gentle, controlled, and wise man I have ever known. You are a secret samurai—An Energy Ninja! Thank you for listening with That Third Eye, and only disclosing exactly the right message, at exactly the right ‘time’. The ‘right time’ is always when the student is finally open and willing to listen. I now see the value in patience, quiet open space, and concealing hidden strength—The Value of Knowing Our Enemy and picking Our Battles.

Intro

Meaningful connection with our self and with others is a subtle human intuition many of us disregard or disguise for a multitude of reasons. We all have fear, confusion, uncertainty, and insecurity; fear of being liked and accepted, confusion about the intentions of others, uncertainty in trusting ourselves or others, and insecurity of not getting or maintaining something we desire. There is great temptation for justification and allure of rationalization, in allowing the many complex areas of human existence and daily life, to take precedence over investing time in creating quality connections. This is causing serious effects on our collective intention, felt sense of value, ability to conduct attention, and disruption in our connections. That is, if you’re fortunate enough to have moments of comfortability, safety, and security in your life at all. Let alone, feeling like we have enough time available, in dedication to such considerations as inquiring how our mind operates in connection to our body, how we can solidify our connections with others, or exploring a creative idea that appears too far-reaching. What is Our Ideal Value—at the end of the day, what mean’s the most? Perhaps the value of intrinsic connections, connections within the systems of our mind and body, and extrinsic connections, connections with others and everything within our natural world, should hold the highest of priorities? Or prioritizing the time (T) and energy (E) needed for the discovery of beautiful and valuable connections?

The executive functions needed to live comfortably and responsibly place a great demand on our time and attention. Culturally consumptive conditioning, and the ‘one size’ subjective expectation of success, deciphering what it means exactly to live a happy, or at minimum, a reasonably contented life. The influence of a picturesque status quest, the unblemished appearance of elevated conformity, where everyone is pretending to prance blissfully. While disconnected value and divisive delusions keep us psychologically bound by the chains of artificial security, within the prison of assumed safety. There seems to be a fundamental disconnection between our precious time and the consideration of what we truly value, above all else, when the superficial value is wiped away, and only the deepest depths of us remain. How do we attain this value, or do we already?

Connection is the balancing point between intellect and emotion, mind and body, intention and attention, or value and focus. Its discovery is meant to provide our most valuable psychological resource, time. Connection is the bridge between order and chaos, between light and dark, good, and evil, whichever previously applied meaning you would like to assign is adequate—it is the Balancing Point. When understanding ourselves from the psychological perspective of emotion? Our mental hallway links dark shadowy recesses of everything we fear about ourselves, and the disrupted cognitive signals that devalue Our Being. Once disrupted sensory signals become divorced from emotional meaning, they produce balanced and controllable Connection Energy. That same hallway then joins rooms full of intellectual masterpieces, balanced feelings, and unification of sensations. Filling Our reality with value though connection and rational balanced intellect. The product is intentional sense of self-value that compels one to hold and recognize the same value in others. (Moral Intentionality)

Inanimation (Denial, Self-Deception) puts a concealment over the acute hurt and pain we experience from disruption(s) to our intrinsic connections, which determine self. This is human emotion impeding on time to demand an answer before enough information is available for intellect to decern an answer. We begin to connect with material ideas and pursuits as a substitute due to their reliability and trustworthiness. The real commodity is time, the currency is Our effort of will, and the gain or loss is Connection. The sacrifice we’re condoning is palpable in our daily lives and evidenced by the continued societal division we experience. Everywhere it is unmistakable, and expressed in either a feeling of love or fulfillment (Value), or anger, pain, resentment, and fear (Disruption), depending. I will, but need I explain this further? Do you not already know? Do you not feel it? Are you not experiencing it intuitively by some degree in your daily life? But our mind habitually assigns this deep internal thought and feeling to a different ailment. We then justifiably reinforce these beliefs, and find remedy in lesser, devious, and deceptively dependable connections. These lesser (dependent) connections come in many different forms, but all prove to artificially provide makeshift relief to a misleading condition. This condition becomes chronic and habitual—solidified into our consciousness as we meander needlessly through the daily grind. Perhaps we’ve been mis-defining, misperceiving, and misunderstanding the function of ‘emotions’ all this time?

Our habitual mental conduct weaves the pattern of

Our Destiny.

Emmett Fox

This is to live disconnected from a felt sense of value and importance, divided along the lines of our mind, and fragmenting our attention. This leaves us unbalanced and fractures our sense of self. We become avatars of inanimation inside our minds to quell ‘emotions’. The energy that is meant to supply our intellect and destiny falls into the abyss of disruption. This in turn disrupts the expression when attempting to connect with others. We crave an adequate way of understanding and explaining ourselves, to provide the context and backdrop for productive, moral, and balanced, internal, and external dialogue. Many of us were trained poorly in trusting and being vulnerable. Let alone, being able to understand the confusion within myself, so I may express it to another without feeling inadequate. Lacking confidence required for developing meaningful connection and receiving a felt sense of fulfillment (value). More times than not, we falsely mislabel this felt sense by its disruption, then mistakenly assign the sensation with descriptive emotional language of mistrust, anxiety, suspicion, or insecurity.

The world around us continues to improve the opportunity to distract, find provisional relief, and disconnect. This is an exploitative trick used to prolong the narrative of production and consumption. False relief and forever insufficient in satisfying the thirst for meaningful connection our consciousness craves.