Consider This (Revised Edition)

By Grant Jewell and Zion Publications

A close look into the deception within the pharmaceutical industry and the rehabilitation organisation internationally. Addiction explained from personal experience and told truthfully. Witchcraft and demonic influence that grips the planet as governments and secret societies have fooled those who are spiritually blind, if not dead. The separation between religion and spiritual understanding. This revised edition places the cat among the pigeons.

Life is full of surprises in this flesh tempting world, how we grasp these moments depends entirely on how balanced we live. Choices surround us from morning to night, as do nature and the universe. How we engage with our beliefs along the journey is what will get us to the destination, whether that be a smooth or rough path, with light or dark energy.

I have shared my deepest moments in testimonial with honesty while trusting my choices, relaying forty years of real-life lessons. We cannot hide from our past, we cannot relive it, yet we are able to adjust our subconscious thoughts to make perfect conscious decisions moving forward to achieve anything that our soul desires.
You are not alone on this planet or in this universe, only once a human interacts with their basic life structure, will this truly become apparent. A life filled with worldly desires will result in an obstacle of tests that have become our own choice and detriment.

A life chosen to be fulfilled with appreciation and gratitude for the gift of what we have been given. There are signs along the way, what we choose to do with them and how we perceive them all ties up with our choices. Our past and family history has a major effect on what we currently experience, have already witnessed and what the future will unfold.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Jun 13, 2023
• ISBN: 9781447714170

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Copyright

CONSIDER THIS

(REVISED EDITION)

Copyright © Grant Jewell

Second Edition, First Impression, 2023

978-1-4477-1417-0

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Contents

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Consideration

Emotional Mind Games

Substances And Activities

Motivation

Love Letters And Needles

Blessings And Curses

Love

Life

Closure

Acknowledgements

An order of heartfelt appreciation must be made which includes every human being that I have ever met, spoken with or formed an acquaintance. This is because we all matter, and we all have a massive influence on every living soul that occupies this planet.

I would not have been able to pursue my change in career with such ease unless supported by my parents. Through all the moments and trials, their understanding has been tremendously unimaginable to be truthful. Even when I was off the rails and finding my path, they provided stability.

My brothers who provided a combination of financial and family structure for my studies and balance in life. Forty-five years of having a jol and talks. My nieces who remind me how important childhood is and family time.

Christine, my friend and sister who just made our family complete.

Every single party animal, lunatic, madman, and joker that I have met, for the humour and memories that still come to mind which keep me cracked up.

All the narcissists and bad energy individuals who have kept me learning and on my toes, without you all, we wouldn’t be tested to our limits to find peace with mankind and the universe.

My dogs, I love my dogs. They provide me with daily joy, laughter, and humility.

Amen.

I acknowledge most importantly that I am merely a vessel to deliver my personal experiences to as many people as possible. As a certified Transformation Coach and Addiction Recovery Specialist, each client’s personal journey is my focus point. Using Therapies and Techniques during progression and recovery, each person has a different path and future that lays ahead.

In my book, I make suggestion about needing God and share my most personal testimonials, I was indeed sitting on the fence pretending to be a believer for many years of my life, during the most confusing, dramatic, and traumatic stages. At no time ever do I ask any client to suddenly begin believing in anything other than what they currently believe, coaching sessions are based on a person’s subconscious and conscious mind as well as practical behaviour.

Always providing time to listen to someone’s life story and assist them in piecing the moments together to understand and visualise the whole picture. There does however come a stage when every individual will need to make up their own mind and walk their dedicated path with accountability.

As time progresses during sessions, there are many methods to gain understanding of an individual’s personal journey and where they can mend and become their true and amazing self-driven character, full of glory and peace.

Thank you in His Holy name.

Much Love.

Your way forward

Grant Jewell

Introduction

My decision to write this book has everything to do with me, life, and the lessons that I have learned. I started writing the contents eighteen years ago. The story unfolds as my life developed, with goals in mind. The concerning fact about this book is that it is everyday logic which most people will find obvious yet majority of them will not adhere to. Many citizens live with blinkers on, like horses in a race, racing after everything except what really matters.

I am not and never will be perfect. I am not criticizing anyone if you feel that what I say directly affects you, it is merely a guide. We all have our own opinion and that is the most important thing in life, your point of view. It is my intention to help anyone who may benefit from the life lessons that I have learned, as this is the goal here. Life is all about choice and the lessons that come about after the decisions that we make. We make choices, just one chance, yet the repercussions alter our lives forever.

The contents of this book, based on my life experience and studies, are a guideline from the times when I realised the correct and incorrect methods in solving life’s obstacles and receiving messages by trusting my instincts and inner voice. Understanding the difference between correct and incorrect instincts and messages that we should choose from is the key, this comes from faith and trust. Trust in what we believe. It was always intended by the universe for me to live this life deep in emotion, thought and memory. I have been gifted with an amazing photographic memory for certain events. This has also been a struggle in identifying which moments to enhance, capture and delve into, and which ones to rather leave alone and not allow them to upset me. I thank spirit for guiding me, supporting, protecting, and teaching me every day of the way, I am grateful for my health, abilities, and ambition. The experiences and stories are a trip down memory lane, a reality regarding current society and their actions, along with an awakening for what may lay ahead in the future.

I have included thorough detail within deep stories. Serious detail allows the reader to understand my focus and concentration in life moments. To assist humans caught up in dark energy and addiction matters, it is the detail when listening that provides a key to unlock the chains. For the person locked up in the chains, it is the detail within your life that you cannot merely push to the side, to suit your personal preference of what you will and will not accept as truth. That mind set will keep you bound and prevent will power from setting you free. After and greater than will power comes desire power, the next level of determination.

For those who wish to express negative criticism relating to my life experiences, please save your energy and understand that I have no intention to absorb it and will not reply to any form thereof. There simply is not enough time in a single day when saving lost souls who need assistance. There is a certain manner and understanding in which I connect and communicate with people, derived from experience, this allows them to be heard. One should not comment on another individual’s real-life experiences because they have not personally encountered those moments unless their suggestion or opinion is asked for in discussion. We need much less negative talk on social media by bored instigators, it does nothing for the growth of humanity or our planet. Rather put that energy into your own beliefs and follow your path. Consider writing your own book if your values and comments are so worthwhile. There is a lesson and message in here for every reader, stick it out until the end. Far too often, people miss the message intended in life because they have chosen to look for critical and meaningless errors.

A reminder in memory, constantly, goes to my family and friends who have passed away. The special memories and lessons learned from these individuals I think of often and cherish. My skills in carpentry, hand work and faith mission were a gift from God in spirit and physically taught by both grandfathers. Faith, care for people and basic baking skills I thank my grandmothers for. Generational gifts that when acknowledged, really should bring appreciation for what life blessings these talents bring us. To my friends, Brendon, Wesley, Christian, Janeck, Darren, Brian, and Lance, you all had a special connection within music, across the genre spectrum and or audio systems, which progressed for us into a raw passion for underground dance music that ultimately shaped my life. The walk was difficult, as you all passed on and left me wondering at times why we had to enjoy the music and sound systems as the years ticked away, without you guys.

I have made wonderful and terrible decisions in my life, and I am willing to share the basis of these times with you, I am not ashamed because I hope this will teach others not to follow the bad lessons in my life but to rather learn from my mistakes and not have to go through the same struggles. Unless of course, you have already made daft decisions, possibly worse than what I have, it may help you to gather the pieces and start rebuilding yourself. The decision to publish my name was not easy although one must always weigh up the options. Writing a book of this nature could set my future in motion to assist people who suffer from addictions, lack of motivation, a depressive mind set or even dark energy. It also exposes my life and of other people that I have known and experienced, in detail. This, I hope will allow for anyone who reads it, to realise and understand the very harsh dangers of life’s temptations, actions, and substances. No matter your personality or how you have been raised, there are so many dark realities of the very real possibility that you may never be free from substances once you experiment with them. I feel disappointed at this moment as I have not practiced what I set out to do years ago and allowed my personal cravings to upset my mind and revert to frustration and doubt filled emotions, so many times. However, I have been blessed with vision and focus which I hope from the depths of my heart will teach many people how to achieve this for themselves. Stay true to your goals, passions, and dreams, always. The rewards will be worth your efforts. The roller coaster journey and struggle option will always be turmoil, no matter how you try hide it and pretend otherwise. You only fool yourself.

There comes a time in one’s life when no matter how considerate, giving or compassionate you are, you need to look after yourself, find the balance. The contents of this book remain true but look after you.

I am thankful to God every day for guidance, teaching and protection which has assisted me spiritually throughout my life. It was only when I had grounded my soul that I knew how to spread my wings. Every turn I made without the Almighty was a treacherous risk with untold results.

I owe this book to my mom, who put me on the physical path of spirituality, thanks. To my dad, who supported me with my projects and during life changing times. From my mom, I learned compassion and trust in the Angelic realm. I have never known anyone more understanding towards those less fortunate and how to treat people, she knows no negative. From my Dad I learned manners and kindness. I have never known anyone more polite and mannered when talking to people. He in fact was handed the gentlemen’s award at his place of work. They both excel in perfectionism and dedication. My brothers who assisted me with an absolute cracker jack jol during youth. The memories that remain and moments that were had with the two of you make me miss those years but instead I just start laughing. You have all assisted me on a special path in life. Christine, that journey has been enlightening thanks to you, your soft manner and genuine humour is wonderful.

My heart goes out the most to people who have had troubled family times and those who are homeless and struggle. I wish with all my heart that everyone on this earth could have equal opportunities in life. We are all on our own paths and it is for you to know that no matter what you have had to endure, it is your current path. Do your best to make the most of what you have and make worthwhile decisions in life, do not stray away from the Lord God Almighty, ever. Your wheel will turn, even if you wait until your dying day believing in Him, there is peace hereafter. Understanding the energy and frequency of entities both in the positive and negative realms of the universe, requires observation and study which is so deep and intense, that it is not fully comprehendible without personal experiences and researching endless information, which in truth goes back untold amounts of time across various religious beliefs, spiritual beliefs, and cultures.

By referring to positive and good energy that would be of the blessing, healing, protection, and angelic realms. Reference to the negative energy is of the uncomfortable, destructive, and satanic realms. Bad or dark energy can be any feelings of vibration that cause discomfort, evil energy takes on another level of harmful effect on humans while demonic applies more so to curse, witchcraft and poltergeist related matters. Various people in many different scenarios, result in combinations of spirit energy encounters. Humans who choose to be closed off from spiritual activity, generally live a life of one-dimensional thought and pattern. They often do not relate to nature, the universe or other people’s emotions with cause and effect. They may also struggle to move on from complicated life matters as they cannot shift their energy, they remain stuck on a one-dimensional path. They seldom experience supernatural occurrences and display little interest in the topics, or merely ignore the interactions and push them aside as uninterested.

Humans attract whatever energy and frequency they resonate at. When we connect with positive and obedience in life, joy and pleasant daily atmosphere with achievement is attracted and evident within any environment. If we choose to allow dark energy to cause discomfort in our space then we will attract that, along with displaying fear. That however also means that someone else can be carrying bad energy into your space. The same as a person bringing happiness and well wishes along their journey each day. When we tune into God energy and ignore evil entities, we live in spiritual protection. Physical protection is also necessary in the form of prayer and meditation, especially to connect oneself in silence to God.

Encounters with entities create a natural reaction of fear although lost and wondering souls may not necessarily be angry or harmful, each scenario depends on the energy, reactions, and occurrence of the circumstance. Certain lost soul’s do sense and attract humans that vibrate on a higher frequency for guidance to find peace and direction of rest. We have the authority and power to control any entity that may become present, whatever its purpose.

My turn around began in 1999 when I was introduced to Melony and Janet from a Holistic Spiritual foundation. The realignment with myself enabled me to start thinking about my life and that we just may not be solely alone in this world. A belief that supported and taught me the elements of life when I needed it most. Every step of the way, the sisters would provide understanding no matter what my life was evolving through. They were a new outlook for me as to how humans should treat each other.The life tools that were constantly given kept me believing more in my purpose and journey.

There was a constant attempt by dark energy to pull me away from my purpose since childhood, yet those entities would fail.

It was time to start leaving all the negative past behind, ego too and focus on moving forward. Reaching out to help people is not a casual activity. You cannot have good and bad moods when you feel like it when working with someone in need. There are reasons for bad times and grasping that, is to conquer life. To be able to extract the positive from the negative, you are winning.

We all have life issues to deal with at some point along our journey. Be it verbal or physical abuse, broken family homes, poverty, addictions, medical problems, popularity, insecurity, as the list goes on. Any of these matters can occur during childhood or adulthood. I have been dealing with my own issues since childhood. I thank God now that I had to deal with such painful experiences and emotions because it has made me who I am, I am now reaching for a higher freedom than many humans on this earth can even imagine. Yes, I know we all have issues, it is accepting them that builds our personalities. I am not willing to share my deepest personal, darkest life changing moments, I will leave them for you to ponder on.

Since childhood, I had personal matters that caused much anger in my life, my reasons for being isolated in my mind, or at least that is what I thought until I met someone by sheer intervention of the universe. Do not get me wrong though, she caused me much frustration, but by the end of the five years that we had known each other, I had learned that there is a time to let go of our fears and doubts. Sometimes people may not be working out their own issues very well and in the process cause you grief, if you allow it, but that is ok, she still taught me to communicate and believe again. We meet and leave people for good reasons in life, think and grasp those reasons.

We met by a total mistake of telephone numbers, and wow, what a life changing experience. You know exactly who you are and for consideration of your privacy, I will relate to you as Cesca. There was nobody in this world, outside of family, who knew me better than her, yet we may never meet physically. We spoke every day on the phone for three months, she lived only thirty kilometres from me and her friend just five kilometres from me, but we never met. There were two opportunities to meet which were not committed to, perhaps because we were just never meant to. Life is amazing, yes peculiar at times but amazing. I had to decide after recurring visits into my more self-abusive habits, to now let them finally go. I could have handled personal issues between us much better if I were fully in control of my thoughts and words which resulted in us not talking in many stages, sometimes for up to two years, but life goes on. Knowing an issue was raised out of carelessness, just the choice and nature of words can mean such a difference. All because of frustration and anger, my mind was not clear. Whether we are correct or incorrect in any situation, it is how we react that makes all the outcome result. Hopefully by me moving on now and focusing on what matters in life, we can move on no matter what the future brings, her friendship was the most important thing to me. Cesca, you changed my life, and I will forever be grateful to you, bless you on your adventure in Miami.

Those were my thoughts until I wondered that maybe she was just another random stalker type who lied and manipulated her way into getting airtime out of me, who only called me twice in five years of phone contact. These are the decisions whereby a fine line exists in our decision making. You can work with the positive side, or you can get annoyed at the negative side. It really is about setting boundaries in your life, not walls, but boundaries. Not allowing people to dictate how they treat you, while remaining calm and of support to them. If someone is not willing to meet you, then what exactly is it that they hide one must ask, or are their life issues just so tough that they cannot see the light? However, Cesca, you were so special to me, and you know that, although we could not put our differences aside. The fact that you would not meet me and hardly called me, only expecting me to return your miss calls, only left me with an option to move on. Wishing you all the best, perhaps someday we will meet. Many people have known someone in those special life circumstances, certain acquaintances occur in life, and it was truly awesome but there must be an end at some point, or perhaps not. When life does not make sense, do not give up, ever, but stay hopeful for the sake of positive. If you feel in your heart and soul that something is worth your energy, keep going. It comes down to supporting and just being around for others, with boundaries in place. That way shows the universe what you are willing to provide and what you are capable of handling.

Many people in this world are struggling, in different ways. We are all the same, in one manner or another. It is not easy to find the common understanding sometimes but try. These people are searching and are seeking some positive communication, positive uplifting confidence, that is my life goal, to help humans and animals in need. I cannot die one day without doing my best to make others in need feel wanted and confident. I still have many struggles to resolve but I do believe that with giving, it is the way to succeeding. Give back and hopefully the wrongs that we commit will ease up the tension in our lives.

However, be overly cautious who you befriend and trust, some people take to jealousy and even revenge while pretending to be your friend. Trust your instincts and step away from any people and surroundings that you do not feel comfortable in. People can and do drain a person, you can give and give and flipping well give and they will just keep coming. Learning to draw the line between assisting people and being used, is an art.

Ha-ha, true Irish humour, someone once said to me two things you must never be good at is working and fighting so true. Bless you Mat, even though you never contacted me when I left you an unchecked lotto ticket, on the day I left London. You could be sitting on the beach somewhere, retired and I have no clue. In all my years at work, especially construction, the harder you work, the more will be asked of you. In all my years hanging with fighters at school, whenever we went out, they were wanted, what the heck is the point? I know too well that our everyday issues lead us to encounters with people and it is so not worth the loss of energy and possible outcome of fighting physically with someone because of anger. I hope to always be humble and rather look after the needs of others than to have anger, hate and regret.

Mat, my Irish house mate when living in London, was a blessing while I was staying in that house full of inconsiderate dwellers. What you will find is that there are far fewer genuinely good-hearted people than the opposite. This is just life, and it really does come down to upbringing. He introduced me to the infamous car boot sales, a kind of random second-hand goods sale that brings all types of items and people together at one venue, be it indoors or perhaps a car park. The car park was where the dodgy granny could be found who sold empty boxes of brand name razor blades. Perhaps she was ripped off and bought them empty or she just never had any guilt that someone may enquire as to why the box is empty. The thrills of a car boot sale. Like buying a television and just pray that it works. What a biscuit she was with no sign of guilt at all. Once we got back to the house, there he was at six feet tall and weighing in at around 120 kilograms silently swearing about the granny who had just done him in with the razor blades. I picked up a good, working condition television and bicycle there, nice one as I was congratulated by the master of the car boot sales, Mat. But he got sold a box of empty razor blades, so one never knows hey, keep alert people. Think outside the box but also wonder what is inside the box. There were more stories told at the Alice pub of the knackers in London East end, the gypsies who sold brand-new cellular phone boxes with a great bar of chocolate inside, take care people, and listen to the words of a salesperson with the greatest of caution. Not all salesmen are alike though, but neither are all people.

I have character watched, studied people and their reactions all through my life, being a quiet individual, I have always tried to listen a lot and speak when necessary. Studying the reactions of people is fascinating and teaches us about who we are, what we are feeling and where we are going. Those who do not really care about other people’s actions or words ultimately end up in trouble because they simply have no conscience. We begin to feel and record all emotions through energy and frequency vibration when in our mother’s womb. Joyful, confident, and balanced children experience positive emotions early on during prenatal stage. Unsettled and distracted children have felt negative emotions from early on. This stems from their parents who could not balance their home life and emotions during pregnancy or listen and care about their child’s reactions and behaviour. These emotions vary across an entire range of feelings which are stored in the subconscious mind. Until these are released with certain Therapies and Techniques, they plague the human behaviour and conscious mind, sadly sometimes for decades or even a lifetime resulting in anxiety, stress, trauma, illness, and disease.Have you ever really seen the reaction on a child as young as one year old? Have you seen how they instantly go quiet when unsure and look around for understanding? These are the moments when many parents miss the plot, this is when very deep scaring starts and your child steadily becomes detached from you, because you did not show attention. Take care to give them affection and support with real intention, for any answer that they seek. Many parents do not deserve to have children while others are unable to, this is however the reality of life and dealing with difficult situations. This is when we need to turn to belief and trust that we are being guided for what unfolds ahead. Trust in God always, His Almighty faith is the only solution.

Consisderation

So often, so many times in everyday life, people cause frustration, anger, and hurt with their words and actions without ever thinking of the consequences on other people.

I am by no means perfect as I have had verbal incidents with my mother and many other people, where foul language and aggression were fluent due to anger and frustration. A very real part of this book and my life, caused from years of bottled-up anger as well as mental and physical self-destruction. Unfortunately, those close to us, even those we love and hardly ever argue with must be on the receiving end of the fury sometimes, when the frustration becomes unbearable. So often when we are lonely, those closest, such as family members and good friends will bear the brunt, this is not fair but is a part of understanding, when on the receiving end. We all need to vent sometimes and listen to those in need.

Why must certain people be so self-centred and inconsiderate, none of them much wiser than the other and all, of the same mindset. Narcissists, as I would learn many years down the line are merely adjusted mentally without empathy, for control tactics, they just have little concern except for themselves. Yes, the term is a broad one, yet it generally applies to manipulation and control behaviour. A common trait in the behaviour of a narcissist is their inactivity to assist in daily tasks and an absent-minded approach to usual daily routine reality. They can see that the dishes have stocked the sink full, and the floor and home are dirty but will do nothing to clean. They can see that you are running around in circles with multiple tasks, yet they do not offer to help. They often watch and stare at you while you work, instead of finding something worthwhile to do. The grocery list and cleaning detergent is never observed by them, if you do not purchase the items, the household just has none. If you do not suggest what to cook for meals, guess what, there will not be food cooked. All these distracting habits have occupied their mindset because they are studying you and finding ways and thinking of avenues to gain energy from your life and emotions or anyone else that is in their sites. The instructions explain specific guidelines for a product, yet they have their own belief, better than the manufacturer knows regardless of the result it will display, that they know best about what to do. This is a form of entitlement that they feel is their right, no matter how wrong it truly is. They even seem to know what you would prefer to order from a menu or what type of work occupation suits you best or where you should live. All they know is control and manipulation. How to understand and deal with them was to be my quest, with more compassion. The fundamental understanding is that the cause, reasoning, underlying concept of any topic or situation means nothing to them, it is all about how they can influence, change, and get what they desire out of the scenario. Whoever and whatever gets effected is of no concern to them, it is all about their say and actions. Hence, they seldom even listen to what is being said or recall moments because they were so distracted by their desires that the moment and people truly meant nothing. Their reactions to situations not playing out as they anticipated is immediate disapproval, frustration either held within and mildly expressed or verbal and sometimes physical expression thereof. They live in their own world. Have you ever had a narcissist tell you that you cannot do something which has already been done? They wildly assume because it suits their mindset that the task is not to their liking so it must also not be for your liking and sometimes even to their understanding, not possible. You can explain the reasoning as to why you would prefer for them to please not repeat an action or gesture that they know is wrong, yet it merely keeps being repeated. They will even conjure up non sensical reasons again as to why they did it. When a person gets to this stage, one must introduce the possibility of entity involvement as the person is not in control of their mind and purposely wants to create an unpleasant situation of testing the victim verbally and emotionally.

All started by an inconsiderate neighbour, who after three months of having their yapping dog causing all hours of the night wake up sessions, still allows the dog to bark at 7:00 am on a holiday by letting it outside. No, if you want to have a dog in a complex, train it to not bark uncontrollably. That is the duty of a responsible owner. Some people should not even have pets, they themselves need training and this is no joke. After 9:00 pm and before 8:00 am are when other people do not want to hear your dog yapping! In so many cases, it is thought that the person complaining dislikes animals or is stressed. No, inconsiderate neighbour, it is you the owner that allows the dog to be poorly trained and bark at very inappropriate times, which causes the stress. Use common logic, if a dog barks at nothing, stop it or else it will bark at nothing its entire life, when someone may be at your property for the wrong reasons, guess what, it will be barking, and neighbours would not care because it has always barked at everything for no reason!

Why then, write a letter of apology if you continue to allow the dog to be a nuisance, where is your logic? Anyone who abuses a dog to keep it from barking is far from controlling the pet, consider the dog and get yourself some help. If you allow it to pee on your bed mam and then smack it, you should be sent for human training. Have consideration for animals and kids even before adults, they cannot speak for themselves and so thus rely on guidance. What you normally discover is that people who have badly behaved animals and children are badly behaved themselves with unbalanced lives. Well trained animals sense the owner’s frequency of emotions and watch their pattern, even hand gestures and finger clicking for commands. A well-run home results in a well-trained animal.

I lived between London and Dublin for six years and believe me, I have come across all types of people after living in numerous communes. The longest occupied tenant neighbour in Johannesburg, all the way from the UK, arrives next door with her son. Some people’s ignorance can surpass their own daily inconsideration. When you are given a note at your gate saying please stop banging the doors and cupboards late at night, guess what, that means you make a noise, rather accept, and stop it. It is easier to leave a note than try approach the person as the timing is not always right. If you are approached by the person to discuss the matter yet the noise continues, then you simply have not listened or do not even care that you are inconsiderate. Why do people get so offended that they have been asked to keep quiet? Why should they be asked to begin with anyway? If they say, I am sorry and did not realise that we make a noise, why then do they carry on a week later with the same pattern of noise, late at night or early in the morning, until the neighbour is ready to freak out. Can it be possible that you are so inconsiderate to start with, then ignore the requests, get angry and insult me, then continue still to make noise even after being asked nicely to stop. Three years later the same inconsiderate youngster of eighteen years old still bangs the doors and carries on just as he wishes, while the mother does nothing. Usually, people who behave in this kind of manner will ultimately be making trouble and remain annoying their entire lives, all coming down to the lack of parental control during upbringing. Single parent with no control and one must ask, will the pattern repeat itself should he have a family, probably yes. Will he ever find consideration for others in his life, probably no. It is that simple. If she needs to bring in the rubbish bin from the street, up to five days after collection, while he sits inside the house each day, well, that just explains it all, badly raised. What kind of reaction do you expect after years of this, are you that self-absorbed in your twenties that you are so mindless to be totally blank at what you are doing? Parents also need to wake up and create some rules in the home.

He would often have his sidekick mates over on weekends, the type who needs acquaintance support. When he spoke, he had me thinking of a ship docking at harbour, like an airhorn sounding. Shame, maybe some people just are that unintelligent daily that they have zero inclination that neighbours reside next door, sad hey. We must try pity them and find cause and reason to attempt an understanding as to why they are so inconsiderate. I somewhat do feel sorry for him because he has been raised badly and has turned out to be an attention seeker. The cause is simply a broken home and lack of guidance. His future hangs in the balance. After four years and her calling the police numerous times, I used the final moment to get the agreement of the police. They both then understood from that day that they were completely absent minded after the police agreed with me and the noise finally subsided. Some people just have no common logic. How sad, really. Neighbours like these force considerate people to have to move away from them as they make the environment unliveable. When people cannot sleep and have responsible jobs to attend or are trying to find peace in life, you create stress and pressure because you are rudely behaved. It is often people of such character that carry dark, unpleasant energy wherever they reside as they drift and upset people, you are a nuisance.

The conclusion regarding drifting tenants is this. After having seven different ones along with two just as clueless permanent based neighbours to share walls with over twelve years in two complexes, I really can write about it. It is no wonder tenants have a serious reputation of being a nuisance. I start this paragraph laughing because they are so absent minded. I will pin-point certain cases and just go. The old couple who drank like fish, yet she was said to need sympathy for her mental temper disorder. Mam, the only nights you woke me up shouting, banging cupboards and swearing so loud it passed through a wall, at your husband at all hours of the morning were the nights you both came in late after being out, drinking. The first day I ever saw you just days after moving in, during the week, was watching you place empty alcohol bottles in the outside bin. Please excuse mental disorders when humans are in fact alcoholics. The medication is somewhat shadowed in many cases.

Next was the transgender person being, who did not know himself from herself. I had just asked you the morning before at 5:30 am to please not bang the front door, when I got up and approached you in the dark. Next morning it got banged again, I then got up and asked, did you did not hear that, again? No with total confused blankness, was the reply. Lost in its world of inconsideration, self-centred.

Then pulls in Mr party animal, most probably on drugs. I could hear him placing his drink down on surfaces from the kitchen to his bedroom continuously as he walked through the unit all night long until the next morning one time, during the week. Banging his car sound at 9:00 pm on a Wednesday night. His reply was what is the problem, it’s a complex. Yes exactly, it is a complex I explained. It is not your favourite dance floor and these people that surround you are not friends to accompany you, they truly live here and are not hallucinations. Flying high there, pal. Really, not surprising he was evicted.

Next arrives the lady from outside the city. With a shared entrance, after days of looking at her bin outside of the gate, I introduced myself and asked her to please place it inside. She will check the rules of the complex I get told. Oh ok, so after being here less than a week, you suddenly have authority. Here we go again, a prize candidate. All units take in their bins dear. She then asked for the car port to be made available as she had alternate plans with her garage space, you reckon so lady? She just drifts and does what she pleases and whenever she can get away with it, clearly.

Finally, after twelve years in total, the first lady who knows how to behave. Nicely mannered, introduced herself upon visiting the complex prior to moving in. A brief discussion we had, and I could honestly for the first time, completely enjoy my living environment with a tenant next door, since returning to the country. That means a very disgustingly low ratio of ten to one inconsiderate neighbours versus considerate. Anyone still wondering why the world has become a stressful and chaotic planet? It was also because her son had the exact same disturbances that I had, in his previous residence from where he had to move, that they understood my reasons to want to move out. She, although had provided me with peace, I could then truly start living in quiet with knowing that noise would not wake me up that night, but the damage was done, I was stressfully angry. Neighbours and residents as committee and trustee members had drained my energy so badly that I was in depression from lack of sleep, continuous begging and explaining which got blatantly ignored and escalated sessions of drama resulted in an anxiety for noise and being ignored, that I had developed over twelve years. How much upset and chaos do you ignorant tenants cause as you drift through your yearly dwellings?

The new neighbour with all her promises was short lived, it only took three months for her to settle and then start ridiculous patterns of between 12:00 am and 5:00 am noise. After having my unit approached by her instead of invited in, after almost having walked through the front gate already says, can I have a look inside? Well, you are already half-way in, you may as well just continue walking, is when I discussed that I easily hear her operating the windows in the spare room at 6:00 am and up to 11:00 pm, did she not even adhere to the plea to please keep it quiet in the spare room until later. She merely moved on to tell me the history of her curtains and that they are so heavy they need a steel railing. That is marvellous yet I do not care, as I thought, while totally aware that she has listened to sweet nothing about how much noise they make. The initial suggestion by her, to let her know if she disturbs me was only hot air, after texting at 6:00 am on a Saturday morning, she apologised and then continued the same pattern just a few days later. Both of my guests over that two-month period were woken up by her, obviously she never cared, more obviously provoked for reaction. Now, when we are talking about people who need to drink daily and therefore choose to live outside of reality, how many false promises and suggestions are made by those who choose mind-altering substances? She was narcissistic and appeared with a mask of innocence at the first meeting. I could hear every word of her phone chats while in my lounge watching tv and smell her cigarettes wafting through the front door, until it was closed. What a lovely lady upon appearance, the enemy comes well disguised.

The only solution for considerate and empathetic people is to move away from those who are self-absorbed, you cannot live among bad or dark energy people, you will be drained. It was all hot air from the start, as with many people who drink, especially. Be wary of those who offer contact should you have any complaints as that is a narcissist’s set up to fool you from the start, it is a trap to like their false comforting methods. The same applies that it is best to not make happy friends with neighbours as that is when you allow your guard down to being walked over, stay on awareness terms, and do not allow them to think you will be an easy target. That is sadly how neighbourly conduct needs to be made.

Then we have dronkie, who stayed in the other complex some fifty metres away, who got involved in everyone’s business whether he knew them, the situation or not. Typical bar drinker behaviour. Talks nonsense and gets involved for amusement and a sense of control, no surprise he also sat on the committee. His prize moment was starting up his power tools on new year’s morning one year and proceeding to make workshop that day. His second-best moment was slurring to the police one night as he reeked of alcohol and described to the cop how he was trying to catch a tiny cricket when he saw the blue flashing lights. The alcohol took over his senses, he could not resist to come and instigate by befriending the cop and telling him how much trouble I make. The cop then agrees with him. I stood there in total dismay go and have another beer, I said. Then the cop says to me all uptight you are going to have another beer?. Oh, my disbelief, then I had to try and explain to the cop, who was not the brightest, that I do not drink. The cop automatically assumed that because the senseless neighbour phoned the police, I was drinking and causing trouble. He then tries to tell me that I had just said that I want another beer. For the love of sense, I was surrounded by illogical adults.

It is also no surprise a few years later he got divorced. He arranged the body corporate event, which had a lawyer present to represent the migrant lady with her son, she goes around backed by a lawyer as she knows she instigates trouble. What a complete dork the lawyer was, how one defends a person who is wrong, only they will know. Having a title sometimes really puts you right in the spotlight of being a showcase for everyone to see, never forget that. He tried to entice me into rage by calling me a rat. I said to him you will call me that once, so he repeated it, thinking I was that foolish to snap. The only reason you would dare test me in that scenario is you being a lawyer and the people in the room. Never alone would you have the courage to try me, and you know it. I locked my eyes on him and smirked. Years later, after another incident involving my house mate, whereby he made a fool of her on the driveway, not knowing she had extremely dangerous contacts, he opened a case against me at the civil courts after I warned him to be careful, he had overstepped his control tactics. I was summoned and so appeared before the counsellor, after a few minutes she had heard enough, she smiled and said that I may leave as she saw no reason for me to