Why God?

By Melanie Moore MHSc

As Christians, we often are faced with challenges, but there is nothing more debilitating than grief. Why God? is an instrument to be used to face each day and work through the grief that has grasped us and locked us in the deep dark pockets of our mind and soul. Walk through the stages of grief with someone who expresses the journey in raw, true-to-life emotion, holding nothing back. Allow yourself to grieve while working your way through the process with scripture and motivational techniques.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Christian Faith Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Mar 2, 2020
• ISBN: 9781644589144

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Chapter 1

Why?

Why does God always seem to take the good ones and leave behind those who do not contribute to this world? Why does He leave behind those who are dredges on society, commit horrendous crimes, and are leeches on the system, and take the ones who shine bright, infect us with laughter, and are compassionate contributors to this world? These are questions that we may never understand yet resonate over and over again when we are in the thralls of loss and grief.

Growing up Southern Baptist, I was taught not to question God. Not saying all Southern Baptist are taught this; it was just what was instilled in me. When something happens that we don’t understand or someone is taken from us, we are taught it is God’s will and God has a plan. There is a reason… and we are not to question why.

But I don’t believe that! Now that I am older and a mother of six beautiful children God has so lovingly shared with me, my relationship with Him has changed, or rather grown, to a mature Father-daughter relationship. One where I can actually talk to Him, ask questions, and even be upset, cry, and yell. Even that lamp I threw didn’t upset Him as much as it did me.

You see, I’ve learned that my relationship with God is much like my relationship with my earthly father. He loves me, guides me, carries me, cherishes me, listens to me, and even disciplines me when needed. I often see church signs saying fear the Lord, but I don’t believe this is what He wants. Yes, I respect what He is capable of…but He is a loving Father. And just as I loved and respected my earthly father, I love and respect my Heavenly Father. I just can’t imagine He wants us to be afraid of Him.

How can we be assured of this? He made us human just as He made His Son, Jesus, who walked this earth at one time. Jesus experienced all of the same trials and tribulations, feelings and emotions, and had to learn to trust His Father just as we must do now. Jesus experienced free will just as we do. As humans, we are allowed to show emotion: to feel joy and pain. We are allowed to grieve; He expects us to. He expects us to be angry, hurt, and to even express these emotions freely. It is what we do and how we handle this that should be a demonstration of our relationship with Christ.

We experience grief and loss through many different life events, not just death. Whether we’ve lost a valuable friendship, lost a job, or experienced divorce or other drastic changes in our lives, grief is the common denominator. No matter what we’re going through with our individual loss, we all experience shock, surrealism, and that feeling of impending desperation.

If you have ever lost a job, you understand that heavy feeling in the pit of your stomach as your ulcer grows larger and larger at the thought of not being able to pay your mortgage or feed your children. Grief is a natural psychological—and often physiological—response to damage to the emotional aspect, or psyche, of the human being, and we must go through this healing process as difficult as it may be.

Having lost many people