Sober On A Drunk Planet: 3 Sober Steps. An Uncommon Guide To Stop Drinking and Master Your Sobriety: Quit Lit Series

By Sean Alexander

How many times have you told yourself, "never again"? If it's more than you can remember, then keep reading.........

 

Maybe you've been stuck in a negative feedback loop of drink > hangover > regret > repeat and have had enough of the damaging effects of alcohol.

Perhaps you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and want a life where you are happy and motivated day to day.

Maybe your hangovers last longer than 24 hours, and you want to start living an extraordinary life with more time, more energy and more money to do what you really want – instead of being hungover and unhappy.

In Sober On A Drunk Planet - 3 Sober Steps, you will be guided through uncommon steps to help you quit drinking and master your sobriety. You will move from being someone who talks about quitting to someone who actually puts the work in to stop drinking alcohol.

Sean Alexander provides powerful insights from his time in rehab, working the twelve-step program, and his professional experience gained as a qualified therapist, strength coach and from running the SOADP community.

In 3 Sober Steps, you will discover:

 

How to become self-aware and why this is the key to understanding your relationship with alcohol

Why dreams without goals are just dreams and how setting goals is the key to finding purpose beyond the bottle

How to take action toward goals and the shocking truth about motivation

Why building intuition will help master your sobriety and how to build it for the long term

How to understand cravings and triggers and how to combat them in any given situation

Why emotions are the portal to a happy life and how to master your emotions to avoid relapsing

How to move past resentment and why becoming present is the most powerful tool you can use

Why your ego is shielding your actual reality and how it can stop you from staying sober

How old ways won't open new doors and how to create a new alcohol-free life

Why exercise and gut health can help you stay sober and how improving your gut-brain axis is key to a happy life

How to understand your vibrational energy and why you will want to protect it at all costs

Why you will want to stay sober on a drunk planet and how doing so will elevate your life

.......and much more.

You will also get access to Bonus Material that will help you in your sobriety journey, including a 10-minute guided self-awareness meditation, podcasts and access to the SOADP community.

Imagine a life without 'never agains', where you feed a positive feedback loop of wake up fresh > make the most of your life > repeat, which replaces the negative feedback loop of hangover > low energy > feel sick > regret > repeat.

If you want to join the millions of people enjoying an extraordinary life alcohol-free, with no hangovers and no regrets, grab yourself a copy of Sober On A Drunk Planet 3 Sober Steps Today.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Sean Alexander
• Release date: Dec 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9781739632076

Book preview

Introduction

3 Sober Steps

How many times have you said, never again! – after a big weekend, a night on the sesh, or just another evening when you gave in and popped the cork on a second bottle of wine?

If the answer is a scarily high number, you’re not alone. Research suggests that the average person endures nearly 2,000 hangovers in their lifetime¹. That equates to spending over five YEARS suffering. And for regular drinkers, the numbers are likely even higher.

At that moment, when you wake up with a banging head, a churning stomach, a horrific taste in your mouth and a crippling feeling of anxiety, you do mean it when you say, never again.

But somehow you end up back there – you wake up with a jolt, the previous evening flashes before your eyes, and the living nightmare repeats itself. So you add to your ever-growing list of never agains, perhaps adding, "I mean it this time!"

Perhaps you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired or have one of many other reasons to at least try a life that doesn’t involve hangovers, poor decisions and regret.

Luckily, you are here. It shows you want to learn how to stop drinking alcohol and put the action in to stay sober. And that’s a powerful place to start.

But don’t be fooled.

Knowing you should quit drinking and ‘doing the work’ to stop drinking are very different things. It’s like knowing that alcohol makes you miserable but never doing anything about it!

The problem is that our brains are hardwired to do the easy things we have always done (drinking!), and anything that challenges the norm is seen as a threat.

That threat manifests itself as lies, manipulation and f*ck it moments to make us believe we can have one drink.

And when was the last time you just had one drink?

Knowing you should stop drinking but not being able to stop can be really damaging to all areas of your life. It often leads to a destructive cycle of self-sabotage that feeds a negative feedback loop of drink > hangover > regret > repeat.

Everyone has their reasons for stopping drinking and wanting to stay sober. They are all valid. Sometimes, many things can happen, and we still don’t change our drinking habits.

Quitting alcohol will directly challenge everything you think you know. But giving up alcohol goes far beyond just changing how you think. It involves changing how you move, how you eat and how you live day to day.

Old ways won’t open new doors.

3 Sober Steps will show you powerful new ways to open exciting new doors that will help you quit drinking and stay sober – if that’s what you want. The 3 Sober Steps will radically transform how you approach your sobriety and allow you to make healthier choices on auto-pilot.

Those healthier choices directly feed into a positive feedback loop that keeps you in a cycle of doing good things with better outcomes, not destructive things with negative outcomes.

Throughout this book, we will reaffirm the 3 Sober Steps: Self-Awareness, Positive Action and Intuition.

Let’s explore them in more detail below:

1. Creating Self-Awareness

Without building self-awareness around how alcohol was negatively impacting your life, you wouldn’t be here now. You would still be blind to the fact that alcohol was the cause of most (if not all) of your problems, and you would still be drinking. That’s a dangerous place to be.

Building self-awareness allows you to discover why you keep drinking the way you do – and it’s the initial foundation to help you stop drinking alcohol and stay sober.

Habits form for all kinds of different reasons. Unravelling why you do what you do requires the type of self-reflection many people shy away from, but it comes with massive rewards.

The reality is that we all make many of our decisions subconsciously – often using mechanisms that developed in childhood. Past events and trauma may have moulded your behaviour in ways you’ve not even considered.

You will have built a lifestyle around alcohol that has been repeated so many times it created its own auto-pilot. Before you know it, you are three drinks in, and the cycle of hangover > regret > repeat starts again. Building self-awareness is about stopping auto-pilot from happening and giving you back control.

This book will give you the tools to take your self-awareness to a whole new level. It will educate you on the importance of the subconscious mind, neuroplasticity and how powerful our thoughts can be for creating our reality.

But having the knowledge to change is pretty useless if you don’t use it.

2. Taking Positive Action

It’s easy to say you’re going to do something. You could say – right now – that you’re going to run a marathon, qualify as a doctor, or launch the next household-name tech start-up.

But the people who do those things must put in the physical training, complete the years of university study, or withstand the highs, lows, and knock-backs of the business world.

Giving up drinking is no different.

It all comes down to taking action and staying sober means continuing to take action. Aside from working on self-awareness, there’s the need to make the right choices and do the work consistently. Doing the work ranges from having the courage to self-reflect and ask yourself challenging questions to having the confidence to follow your own path – rather than following the herd to the bar every Friday night.

The good news is that this all gets much easier over time. As you will discover shortly, the mind is capable of profound change. In time, you can begin to take healthy and rewarding actions subconsciously instead of doing the destructive behaviours you’ve always done – on auto-pilot.

As we go through the chapters, you will read about incredibly powerful tools, from understanding how to regulate emotions to proven tools to combat triggers that require you to take action. These tools will not only help you to quit drinking, but they will also assist you in every area of your life.

At the end of each chapter, there will be a short task to help you practice taking action whilst challenging your subconscious beliefs and raising your self-awareness.

Based on the notion that action is power, you will see that I refer to taking positive action throughout the book. Not all actions are equal, and just like drinking alcohol and taking drugs, not all actions are positive!

Remember: If an action doesn’t move you towards your end goal - to stop drinking alcohol and stay sober - then it’s NOT a positive action.

3. Building Your Intuition

Over time, working on your self-awareness and taking consistent action allows you to build a finely tuned sense of intuition. This creates a positive feedback loop where you subconsciously know the right things to do for your mind, body and soul.

You will learn how intuition is key to replacing the negative feedback loop of drink > hangover > regret > repeat with a positive feedback loop that can run on a new auto-pilot.

Getting drunk every weekend and enduring hangovers every week is a feedback loop too – but it’s not one you want in your life. It’s the exact feedback loop that results in all of those never agains.

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So who is this book for?

If you are serious about quitting alcohol and using tools that will help you live a life you can be proud of – this book is for you.

Even if you have been sober for some time, the tools in this book will increase your resilience and help elevate every area of your life. You will finish the book feeling like a sober Jedi, ready to master being sober on a drunk planet.

It is crucial, at this point, to mention that quitting alcohol cold turkey can be extremely dangerous for regular and heavy drinkers due to physical withdrawal symptoms. These can include nausea, insomnia, shaky hands and headaches, and life-threatening things such as seizures, hallucinations and hypertension.² Therefore, you must contact your doctor before abstaining from alcohol if you have even the slightest suspicion that you may be physically dependent.

The resources section at the back of this book provides more material about physical withdrawals. By reading these, you will become more self-aware and be able to take positive action for your specific needs.

Don’t leave it to chance – if you think you might be suffering from alcohol withdrawals – speak to a medical professional now. This is your call to action.

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This book is a follow-up to Sober on a Drunk Planet – Giving Up Alcohol. However, it is intentionally designed to work as a complementary read or as a standalone work. The previous book makes you question why alcohol was ever part of your life in the first place and provides you with leverage towards becoming sober. This book takes the next step in that journey - giving you the processes and tools to stop drinking alcohol and stay sober.

The guidance in this book is drawn from years of eureka moments from getting sober, which included attending rehab, Anonymous groups, group therapy, and LOTS of individual therapy. Having become obsessed with self-development in sobriety, I have spent over 3000 hours listening to and reading books on the subject.

As a qualified therapist and strength coach, I also take inspiration from my professional experience helping people build stronger bodies and minds. Further pearls of wisdom have been picked up from the Sober On A Drunk Planet Community and the many people I’ve interviewed on the Sober On A Drunk Planet podcast.

I spent many years being self-aware enough to know I should give up drinking. Any pleasure it gave me was far outweighed by the destruction it was having on everything from my finances to my physical and mental health. But there’s a clear difference between knowing you should do something and taking positive action.

Sobriety creates a life-changing positive feedback loop that rewards you again and again. It replaces the negative feedback loop of get drunk > throw away your leisure time being hungover > go to work miserable > do it all again next