FEAR damages your health - LOVE heals

By Gunther Scheuring, Daniela Veit and Ina Kleinod

Erläuterung der Gegensätze Angst und Liebe, denen der Mensch täglich ausgesetzt ist. Erkenne und bewältige Ängste. Du bekommst Hinweise zur Arbeit mit dir selbst und wirst zur Liebe hingeführt. Dieses Hineinfühlen wirkt sich positiv auf dein weiteres Leben aus. Ein Wendebuch, das mit der Angst beginnt und zu Liebe führt.

• Language: English
• Publisher: tredition
• Release date: Dec 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9783347776005

Gunther Scheuring

Gunther Scheuring erkannte, dass jedes Denken entscheidend ist für eine gesunde Lebensweise. Was ich denke und rede, lebe ich. Es gibt keine Negativität im Leben, alles beruht auf Erkenntnissen. Aus 10 Gedanken einen zu machen, ist der bessere Weg.

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WAYS TO HEALING

Our fears are there to help us heal. It may sound crazy, but how can you find your way out of a depression if you have no fear? If you weren’t afraid, you wouldn’t be worried, and you would have no reason to take care of yourself and nurse yourself back to health. Fear is the best healer for everything – our body, our mind and our soul. It is an important helper that shows us exactly what needs to be done, and how we should go about it. Sometimes we have to be patient and listen to it for a long time, and sometimes we have to pay close attention to it and ask a lot of questions. But at some point the situation becomes clear and we begin to understand; we gain a clearer vision of what the problem really is. As soon as we know what is ailing or unhappy inside us, and what we can do to treat it, our fear dissolves into thin air. It has fulfilled its purpose and we can send it off on its way.

So we can say that fear is not our enemy, but our ally. It allows us to gain a better understanding of ourselves, to take care of our needs and to attain a greater level of self-acceptance. We need our fears, because they show us the way back to our life.

Fear is created by thought, and fear is there to help the human being learn how to understand his thought processes, to control them, to monitor them and not to leave things up to the random meanderings of the ego. The ego uses fear to keep us in a state of misery. If we are miserable and bemoan our fate, we reinforce everything deplorable that exists – this is a bad habit that we all seem to have got into. Really understanding our grievances and turning them into knowledge is the only way to open the door to ourselves. And behind this door we will find happiness and contentment – everything we have ever wanted. If we join together in recognition and knowledge, with all our fears, we will experience love. Free of sickness, we will be happy human beings.

In reality, fear does not exist. We as human beings create fear through our thoughts. Our thoughts are directed towards the outside world, the things that happen around us, rather than focusing on what is inside us, in the place where there is no fear. This is where we cause ourselves the most damage. We hide behind our fear, ignoring the fact that we created it ourselves with our thoughts. Only by understanding it and getting it out in the open can we transform it into the healing power of love.

Healing comes with insight. All we have to do is to recognise reality, and all our fears will disappear. The way to healing leads through fear directly to reality.

Fear leads to insight. Insight leads to healing.

WHAT IS FEAR?

Fear is a kind of mental construct. It creeps into our thoughts unannounced, in various ways. The media is at the top of the list as an instigator of fear. Because people believe just about everything they see on television, hear on the radio or read on the Internet or in newspapers, they are literally visited by fear. Media consumption has become so „normal" today that we leave the door wide open to various sources of information 24 hours a day. Fears simply walk into our life without us even noticing that we have uninvited guests. And once they have settled down and made themselves nice and comfortable in our everyday lives, it is not easy to get rid of them. They don’t usually come alone; on the contrary. They bring so many thoughts along with them that they keep us occupied on a continual basis. That makes us feel safe – we somehow think we have everything under control.

If we imagine our fear as something more intrinsic, the following image emerges – it places sentries inside and outside our body to „take care of us. These guards are only thought constructions, which are there to lead and „protect us. At least that is what we believe, because it is what we are familiar with. Although fear is reallyonly an illusion, we have the feeling that our countless guards are there just for us. Unsuspectingly and unconsciously, we are constantly bound to our fearful thoughts, as though they could save us. But save us from what?

Without our fears, we feel deserted and alone. They not only keep us busy, but even pretend to be our closest friends. We actually believe that they are always there for us. We rely on them completely and do everything they tell us to do. We simply give up our selfdetermination. Once we have taken this step, we have more or less given our life away. We are no longer in control of our thoughts and senses, but are simply „driven" through our lives. We lose sight of ourselves altogether. Our fear governs our mentality, and we do not notice that we are giving up our authentic nature.

Of course, we are not all born as scaredy-cats. As children we follow our own free spirits and go through the day fearlessly and courageously. We stand up tall and do not doubt the kindly nature of being. If we did not gradually begin to lose our primal self-assurance on the way to becoming adults, there would probably not be so many fear-inducing guests sitting on our sofa. We would love ourselves and others freely, and enjoy a deep connection with our soul. It would have been worthwhile being born on this Earth.

Love is an almighty power, there is nothing else we need. All the questions that fear poses find their answer in love. Love leads people more safely through life than fear could ever hope to. All it requires is trust. Love is omnipresent, and it is both our helper and our healer. It is the miracle that cannot be influenced by the human being. It is not possible to deserve it or not to deserve it. Love leads to inner balance. Once you have found it, it will last forever.

The path of life is experience.

FEAR DESTROYS

If you are afraid of becoming ill, the fearful thought alone is enough to make you contract an illness. Fear cannot cope with happiness hormones, so it eats them alive. In so doing, it takes away our stability, which we need to heal or remain healthy. Fear is a kind of omnivore – it fights against any positive aspect of humanity, whether it be freedom or love. It is extremely damaging, especially for people who are seriously ill, for example with cancer. Migraine, allergies, depressions, Alzheimer and many more conditions are also connected with feelings of fear. Finally, fear is the most frequent reason for suicide.

Instability, particularly mental imbalance or physical frailty, is almost always built on fear. Without fear, we humans would not be able to perceive the fact that we are alive. Fear keeps us in constant motion, and an overpowering feeling of fear can even result in a compulsive disorder. We rush through our lives and find no peace, because we are always afraid of something. We are worried about our job, our marriage, our children, we are afraid of our boss, of politics and climate change. Fear has become a permanent part of our lives, and it urges us to protect ourselves against everything and everyone.

Fears multiply so quickly that we are unable to avoid their influence. They create the illusion that we must obey their commands at all times. They exercise a great power that accepts no limitations. They more or less force us to capitulate – as though the possibility of freedom did not exist for us. That is why we feel so dependent on the external circumstances in our lives, for example other people or official authorities. We are often under the impression that life is basically hostile and threatening. We convince ourselves that other people are our enemies, and that their intentions are always bad. This applies not only to people we don’t know, for example people from different cultures, or the people standing next to us on the underground, in the department store or at the supermarket checkout. We even distrust those who are close to us, such as our family, neighbours and colleagues. Gradually we give our lives up to the power of our overanxious thoughts, our ego. Unfortunately, this gives rise to even more fear rather than making us feel more secure. Our doubts grow stronger and stronger, until at some point we completely lose our trust in ourselves and in others.

People who are eaten up by fear can be recognised through their facial expression. They usually look sad or frightened, with their shoulders hunched forwards a little and their head bowed. They walk around like that, almost tripping themselves up as they go. Their bodies seem tense and stiff, their movements are robotic. And if you look into their faces, they seem almost absent. If all these people were really in touch with their inner selves, they would feel a violent pain in their chests from their heart trying to free itself.

They would cry because they felt so trapped, caught up in all the fears of life. And if they cried, it would signify the beginning of their healing process.

Fear is a powerful mental force that will never capitulate as long as we continue to entertain a single thought. Fears and thoughts are an established team. That is why it is not possible to conquer our fear patterns through our thoughts. There are many methods that rely on the power of our mental capacity, but in this case „positive thinking on its own does not help. It is as though we were running around in circles. If we chase after thoughts with thoughts, things will only get worse. The problem is that we actually believe the things our thoughts suggest to us, and end up being afraid of being afraid. Believing that our fear has a position of authority, we use „counter-thoughts in an attempt to defeat it. But it doesn’t work, all that happens is that a battle of thoughts arises in our head – desperate positive thoughts fight against desperate negative thoughts, but there is no sign of a peaceful solution.

Under the governance of fear, we are no longer able to assess the situation and ourselves. We lead a tortured existence, convinced that there is nothing we can do about it. If we knew that we had actually made up our fears ourselves in the first place, and then proceeded to believe them, we would have the chance to realise that they have no power at all over us. On the contrary, we have power over them. We would immediately stop thinking fearful thoughts.

We would simply tie up all our fears into a bundle with a piece of strin and set fire to them

Fear is an invention of the human mind, completely unrelated to what is happening around us.

FEAR IS ISOLATING

We are always striving to achieve greater things in our lives, with a strong desire to reach the next step on the ladder of success. On a mental level it doesn’t quite seem to work out that way, so our ego creates a higher status for us. We wish to appear to be of greater value on the outside than we are able to achieve inwardly. Through fear, our ego drives us ever onwards into a masquerade, a solution that is no more than pretence. It envelops us in illusions until we begin to believe that our life is nothing but a career ladder, and all we have to do is climb up it. But in reality, we have our feet on the brakes all the time, because we cannot overcome our fears. They stand in the way of our will to progress in life. They bombard us with thought structures that make us feel we are flying high, even though we were grounded long ago. Too many ego thoughts have built up; there is no longer space for real life, an authentic life of freedom. But our own ego never gives up – it continues to torture us until the very last minute.

We always wish to seem greater than we are. And we believe in this irrational illusion of greatness because our thoughts encourage us to do so. They chain us to an illusion of grandeur that does not really exist, and this ruins our prospects for the future. It would be helpful if we were honest to ourselves, but that is exactly what we find difficult. We prefer to run away from ourselves, because it appears to be easier. We rely on our fears, which continue to lead us astray. We blindly follow this alien power, and it accompanies us up into old age.

Fear makes demands that seem to be minimal and easy to fulfil. All we have to do is follow our fearful thought patterns and remain in the loop, and the same thing will happen again and again – one fear will follow the next, until it has become a habit. The cycle is actually easy to see through – all you have to do is to say „yes to everything that the fear of the ego suggests, and the reward will be the next fear, which will in its turn advise us to say „yes to something or other. In this way, we can comfortably avoid any kind of confrontation. On the other hand, however, we will never find real peace.

If we look at ourselves, we have to admit that we have completely fulfilled our potential for fear. We are so full of conditions, demands and requirements that we have become blind to what we actually are – loving beings. For most people, even love means living in a state of fear. They cling on to their fear, because it seems to be carrying them through life. All the goals they set themselves are shaky ideas that are only valid in the short term, until they are destroyed by the next fear.

Why on Earth have we decided to live according to our fears? All they do is torture us, but somehow we cannot find a way to get away from them. We feel powerless and uninteresting because we constantly fail to succeed at shaping life on our own, without fear.

We invent all kinds of things to distract ourselves, but we are unable to commit ourselves and make decisions. We doubt, grumble and complain. That is the basis of our lives. But as long as we are obsessed with fear, the meaning of life will be lost to us.

Fear is an addiction.

HELPER SYNDROME

In order to escape from feeling fear, many people develop a so-called helper syndrome. They believe that everyone else is automatically more important than them. They then proceed to project their own suffering onto others by being helpful. They set out to do other people good because it seems easier than taking care of themselves. Sacrificing themselves for others makes them feel good in the short term, but soon afterwards they begin to feel even worse than they did in the beginning. If someone unduly wears himself out for others in this way, he will often end up being confronted with his own feelings of emptiness and meaninglessness. In actual fact, all he needs to do is to correct this false conviction, but he has not reached a high enough level of self-recognition to do this. On the one hand there is too much awareness, and on the other too much traditional thinking, which reinforces the idea that someone is egotistical if he takes care of himself first before helping others. Most people believe that focusing on other people’s problems instead of their own amounts to love, but in actual fact they are acting out of fear. As long as they are taking care of other people’s problems, they will have no time to acknowledge the fact that they have their own difficulties in life. They are running away because they are afraid that they will be unable to solve their own conflicts and face up to their own challenges. If they really knew love, they would love themselves and make sure that their own needs were fulfilled.

Nevertheless, everyone is of course searching for love; it is every human being’s deepest wish to find it. But if we are on the path of fear, there is no way we can make contact with love. Because we are full of fear, we cannot feel the love, although it is always there. Instead, we use all our energy in trying to do things that make others appreciate us. By sacrificing ourselves, we believe we can earn love and affirmation. We would give the shirt on our backs to help others, just to receive their gratitude. But our expectations are usually not fulfilled.

The helper syndrome is a skilfully manipulated fear strategy on the part of our ego. If we have committed ourselves to the mission of helping, sacrificing ourselves to others has become our own personal life concept. In reality it is an illusion to think our behaviour is future-oriented and that we have both feet on the ground. Finally, we are just seeking an escape through meaningless activity, in a desperate attempt to find some kind of meaning in life.

We can only truly help someone else if we are not in need ourselves. If you throw yourself into helping others because of your own despair, all you will succeed in doing is to increase your own suffering. Secretly you