How Did This Happen to Me?
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Finding freedom in our relationships
As humans, we want to be in control. So when we experience a moment where we feel like our world has collapsed-through a broken relationship or traumatic event-we often don't know how to cope.
What if we surrendered control to the Creator of the universe? R
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How Did This Happen to Me? - GR8 Relationships
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First Edition: 2022
How Did This Happen To Me? / GR8 Relationships
Paperback ISBN: 978-1-958585-11-5
eBook ISBN:978-1-958585-14-6
Table of Contents
Hermann and Louie’s Story
Hermann
Louie
Who is to Blame?
What is The Problem?
What is The Solution?
The Flashing ME
Are you Acting Like a Baby?
A Better Question
Will You Be Served by Others or Serve Others?
Love Versus Selfishness
What Breaks Down?
Feelings
Feelings Can Create Problems
Feelings and Behavior
Freedom
Freedom Defined
Irresponsible Freedom
Forgiveness
Guilt is the Problem
Confession
What is the Best ME?
Feelings
Act the Way You Want to Feel
Help Attitudes Change
Thinking/Feeling Principle
Freedom
Freedom – Great for Relationships
Responsible Freedom
Freedom Is Divine
Forgiveness
Forgiveness Pleases God
Forgiveness Imitates God
Forgiveness Escapes Serious Consequences
Your Choice
Forgiveness Process
Step One: Stop the Bleeding – Face Your Humanity
Step Two: Clean the Wound – Overlook Revenge
Step Three: Apply Antibiotic – Renew Your Mind
Step Four: Cover the Wound -- Give it Up, Grasp it No More
Step Five: Change the Dressing Regularly – Apply Your Decision
Step Six: Look for Signs of Infection – Validate and Verify Your Decision
Step Seven: Enjoy Healing – and Freedom
Confession Process
Step One: Choose Humility
Step Two: Own Your Guilt. Do Not Excuse It.
Step Three: Name the Real Offense
Step Four: Feel the Offense as they Felt It
Step Five: Earnestly Repent of your Sin
Step Six: Soberly Confess your Sin
Step Seven: Sincerely Thank God for the Conflict
Epilogue
Study Guide
Scripture Meditation
Who’s to Blame?
What Breaks Down?
What is the Best ME?
Forgiveness Exercise
Tools
How Did This Happen to Me?!
Has your world been rocked by an event you didn’t expect? Are you reeling from a hurt relationship or someone walking out on you? Sometimes traumatic events shock you into action in order to move you toward a corrected or more excellent path in life.
This book and these sessions are designed to:
•Help you discover why your life surprised you. What is it that you missed that allowed the destruction in an important relationship?
•Inform you of the damage caused by misguidance and misunderstanding regarding Feelings, Freedom, Forgiveness and Confession.
•Show you how to use Feelings, Freedom, Forgiveness and Confession in ways that are constructive and life-giving.
Why was the GR8 Relationships Training Born?
The GR8 Relationships ministry started with a painful and poignant tipping point in founder Hermann Eben’s life. Hermann confesses, It honestly took me by surprise. I was not a victim in the scenario, but it was a slap in the face that woke me up to so much about me, my wife, and our relationship. It caused me to look at my relationship with God more closely, too.
Hermann and Louie’s Story
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Every relationship has two perspectives on the story, since at least two people are involved, and they view situations differently, from their own lens. As you observe the perspectives of this opening story, reflect on how you relate to it. What do you identify with and what makes you shudder at the memory of something in your own life that knocked you off your feet?
Hermann
You can categorize moments in your life by looking for times of happiness, sorrow, anger, discouragement, or even peace. Generally, the moments that are the most vivid create the greatest chance for change and learning.
For me, three vivid times where I cried because of a major epiphany marked specific learning events in my life in 1981, 1991, and 1999. Each one of the events are still vivid in my memory.
1981
The event in 1981 is