What Damages Relationships?
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Recognizing Our Own Faults
Everyone loves to play the blame game. We point at the other person in the relationship as the problem. They must change their behavior and attitude-it's not our fault there are relational wounds and scars.
However, Romans 2:1 would disagree. It says, "You, therefore
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What Damages Relationships? - GR8 Relationships
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First Edition: 2023
What Damages Relationships? / (GR8 Relationships)
Paperback ISBN: : 978-1-958585-19-1
eBook ISBN: 978-1-958585-20-7
Contents
Introduction
The Flashing ME in Business
Unknown Judgment for Women
Three Elements of Woman’s Judgment
Pain with Children
Desire for Her Husband
Ruled by Her Husband
How Judgments Play Out
Unknown Judgment for Men
Adam’s Curse
Followed Didn’t Lead
The Ground is Cursed
From Dust to Dust
The Battle Between Design and Judgments
The Real Issue—The Flashing Me
Alternative Structure
Women—Judgment Versus Design
Men—Judgment Versus Design
Battle Between Designs and Judgments
Women’s Battle
Men’s Battle
Judgments and Marriage
God’s Solution
Summary
Study Guide
Tools
Introduction
Relationships become complex because of what we at GR8 Relationships call the Flashing ME . Essentially the Flashing ME describes a focus on your ME , that is, always looking to fulfill what you want and the way you want it, rather than focusing on what is the highest and best for someone else. Worse yet, relationships are further complicated because of the judgments God placed on men and women. We’ll look at how this Flashing ME and the judgments fuel different behavior for men and women. Since men are designed to work with the role of provider, protector, and preserver and women are designed to relate w ith the role of helper, nurturer, and supporter, the Flashing ME shows up in different ways.
What is the Flashing ME?
When you have problems in a relationship, don’t you typically point your finger at the other person? Do you find yourself thinking or saying these phrases?
You need to do it my way.
You need to make me happy.
You need to change.
(I am okay, you aren’t!)
These phrases are indicators that your ME is flashing. Your ME is flashing? Here’s the concept, in case it is new for you.
You might be wondering what Flashing ME means. More than likely, it’s your biggest problem, and exactly what it sounds like. Your ME is your focus. It demands that you serve yourself, demand your way and focus on yourself more than focusing on or serving others.
The fact that you may not see how often you focus on yourself (that is on ME) is a sad thought. When other people are selfish and self-absorbed, you notice, but not when you do it. Is that true for you? It is for me.
When others are selfish, it is like they have the word ME flashing on their forehead. But when I do it, I cannot see it, because it is on my forehead above my eyes. I can be totally selfish, not interested in serving others, which means my ME is flashing brightly enough to light a house, but I do not see it. I can look at this another way and ask myself if I am acting like a baby.
Flashing ME—Different for Men and Women
Since men and women were intentionally designed by God for different roles it makes sense that the Flashing ME manifests differently in them. Women are designed to relate, so they