Cherishing: The Art of Fully Living While Still Loving and Honoring Those Who’ve Died
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Cherishing - Alan D. Wolfelt
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Death ends a life, not a relationship. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there.
— Morrie Schwartz
After the death of someone close to you, you enter a time of deep grief. This is a normal and necessary time of transition.
If you use this period of intense grief to actively, intentionally engage with your painful thoughts and feelings, you find ways to express them that are helpful to you. In other words, you do the hard work of mourning. You share your grief outside yourself—in doses and over time—so that you begin to integrate your loss into your ongoing life.
Essentially, you mourn well so that you can eventually go on to live well and love well. Over time, you come to understand that while your grief is not something you get over,
it has become an integrated part of your life story.
Your love is not something you get over
either. Many people who have suffered the loss of a special loved one continue to feel their love for the person just as much after the death as they did before the death (and sometimes, even more). Is this true for you?
If it is, you may have found yourself unsure what to do
with your love now. In fact, that is the question of this book: After your time of deep grief has passed, how do you continue to love and honor special people who have died even as you fully live out your own remaining precious days here on earth?
It’s a tough question, and answering it in a way that feels right for you can be a difficult balance to find. As one grieving husband, Garrick Colwell, wrote to me, Learning how to love my wife in her absence has been the biggest challenge I’ve had to face as I grieve and mourn her loss.
I am a grief counselor, educator, and author whose life’s work and passion is to help grieving people and those who care for them. I’ve followed this calling for more than four decades now. During these years, I’ve had the privilege of learning from countless grievers. One of the most important things they’ve taught me (and that I’ve learned from my own personal loss experiences) is that honoring and continuing to express love for those who’ve gone before us is a noble, fulfilling pursuit. What’s more, it’s necessary. We continue to feel the love, and so we must find things to do
with that love.
I call the practice of intentionally honoring and holding dear someone who has died cherishing.
The mindset, suggestions, and rituals in this little book will help you build cherishing into your life and your regular routines, or strengthen it if you’re already doing it. They will also assist you in making the most of situations in which you may feel torn, such as