Summary of Shari Y. Manning's Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

By IRB Media

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#1 Someone you know recently married a woman, but soon began to change. The person was advised to leave the marriage, but didn’t. His wife was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

#2 You’ve just been married to a woman who has borderline personality disorder. You were advised to leave the marriage, but you didn’t. You’re now lost, and you don’t know who you are anymore.

#3 You may find yourself getting overinvolved with your wife’s friends, family, or even her ex-boyfriends.

#4 You’re married to someone with borderline personality disorder. You’re experiencing a lot of the same things Brad is, like getting involved with your wife’s friends and family, and feeling like you’re always doing something wrong.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Oct 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9798350032376

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#1

A friend recently married a woman, but things began to change after the marriage. The wife asked for a significant sum of money to start a business, and my friend didn’t have the money. She became extremely angry and despondent, and eventually drank a bottle of wine and burned herself on the arm with a cigarette.

#2

Brad’s friend, whose name is Brad, is now lost. He feels that everything he does with regard to his wife, Sadie, is wrong. He no longer trusts his social instincts, and friends have started to notice that he often retreats into a corner at gatherings.

#3

There are many reasons we love people with BPD. They are usually kind and generous of spirit, and it can be difficult to judge their character when they are so nice to you.

#4

The relationships of those with BPD are often difficult to maintain. They will often find themselves trying to rescue people with BPD, which can lead to them feeling overwhelmed.

#5

The relationship between a person with BPD and others is typically not characterized by quiet, easy companionship. Instead, there is likely lots of high-intensity behavior that demands attention, accusations that cry out for an immediate defense, and pleas that bring out the Lone Ranger in the least heroic of us.

#6

Borderline personality disorder is a difficult disorder to diagnosis, and to understand. It is often described as a chronic pattern of behaviors that are based in the person’s personality, which affects everything: moods, actions, and relationships.

#7

It may be difficult to not get embroiled in rehashing painful events, but try not to jump into interpreting or blaming your loved one for the behaviors that seem to fit into these subgroups. Just try to start noticing patterns.

#8

People with BPD have fast emotions, which means they come up quickly and change quickly. Their emotions are typically very intense, which adds up to a highly unpredictable experience for those around them.

#9

Emotional lability is what you can count on with people with BPD. They have extreme emotional reactions that are quick to change, and you never know what exact reaction you’re going to get. If your loved one has passed their twenties, you may notice them seeming emotionless sometimes. This is because they have learned that emotions are bad, and they shouldn’t have them.

#10

People with BPD struggle in relationships, and they are intensely afraid that people will leave them. They consider relationships the most important thing in the world, and they are intensely afraid that people will leave them.

#11

Those with BPD often have a difficult time holding on to a job, and relatives and friends may conclude that they are irresponsible and manipulative. However, they actually lack the interpersonal skills necessary to make civil and productive workplace relationships possible.

#12

The third area of dysregulation is behavioral dysregulation, which is what causes people to act impulsively and repeatedly without seeming to learn from the negative consequences. It can lead to your loved one