Home: What It Means and Why It Matters
By Mary Gordon
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Drawing on personal experience, Mary Gordon examines various forms of abode-from her childhood house in Far Rockaway to apartments in Palo Alto, Rome, and the Upper West Side-as well as the very concept of “home” and how it has evolved over time. Rich in insightful observations from writers and thinkers as diverse as Gaston Bachelard, Le Corbusier, Emerson, Colette, and Edith Wharton, At Home skillfully provokes us to probe our own thoughts about what “home” truly means to each of us. Notions of safety, morality, cleanliness, comfort, and the changing nature of the family are just a few of the colors Gordon uses to paint an intriguing portrait of a place we all thought we knew.
Mary Gordon
Mary Gordon is the author of seven novels, including Final Payments, Pearl, and The Love of My Youth; six works of nonfiction, including the memoirs The Shadow Man and Circling My Mother; and three collections of fiction, including The Stories of Mary Gordon, which was awarded the Story Prize. She has received many other honors, including a Lila Wallace–Reader’s Digest Writers’ Award, a Guggenheim Fellowship, and an Academy Award for Literature from the American Academy of Arts and Letters. She teaches at Barnard College and lives in New York City.
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Home - Mary Gordon
HOME
What It Means and
Why It Matters
9781402783081_0002_001Mary Gordon
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FOR MEREDITH AND JOSH
CONTENTS
9781402783081_0005_001one
What Makes a House a Home?
two
Money, Morals, History, Symbol, Safety
three
What Do We Mean by Home?
Endnotes
About the Author
Home is a name, a word,
it is a strong one; stronger
than magician ever spoke,
or spirit ever answered to,
in the strongest conjuration.
—Charles Dickens
one
9781402783081_0007_001What Makes a
House a Home?
A man to whom I was briefly married said to me one day, toward the end of our time together, You don’t deserve to live in a house.
For a terrible moment I believed him. He thought he was making a point about my untidiness; I understood it as proof of the impossibility of a shared life. We were both right; because house
is a word that sounds simple; it’s one of the first a child learns; the image is one of the first a child learns to draw. And yet what happens in a house is simply: life. And what could be less simple than that.
Food, clothing, and shelter,
the minimum required to sustain a life. Of the three, shelter is the one requiring the greatest investment of resources, and it is the one whose connection to time is strongest and most real. A meal literally decomposes within hours; a dress still fashionable in a decade earns the term classic.
But the places where we live: we expect them to outlive us. They are built with an eye to the future . . . and, of course, the past, both real and fantasized.
We live in houses—why? Not just to keep us from the elements. Survival is only one part of what we do with where we live. We inhabit spaces so that we can be safe to be who we are, so that we are out of the public eye, so that what we treasure is protected, cared for, showcased. We live at home, whether it is a yurt or a skyscraper. We sleep, entertain friends, rear our children, read, listen to music. We work where we live or we escape from work to go there. Our homes are also about display: how much we are worth, what our taste is. They are the source of our wealth and they drain it. They allow us repose and they demand what sometimes seems to be endless attention. For many women, the house is a metaphor for the body: and all important life is lived within its walls. And what is it to be without one? To be homeless is to be outside the web of the civilized.
Where do you live?
This would seem to be a simple question, easily answerable, as the idea of a house would seem simple and almost automatically accessible. But it is, in reality, a complicated question. What is required to provide a proper answer is a thorough consideration of two words in the question: where and live.
In his strange, alternately fascinating and maddening meditation, The Poetics of Space, the late French philosopher Gaston Bachelard asks: "Where is the main stress, for instance, in being there, on being, or on there?"¹ In that vein, we might ask the question, What do we mean by live? What do we mean by where?
As I write this, I am living in what could be called a house, but it has very little in common with anything a seventeenth-century Dutchman would have called by that name. It is not really a house; it is a part of what is called a housing complex, and it is very different from anywhere I have ever lived. It is not, I think, a good place to be living: I will only live here for some weeks . . . and so I make of it what I must. But the differences between it and other places I have lived, places I think of as good places to be living, make real to me some of the important questions that surround our habit of habitation.
. . . home to people like me is not
a place but all places, all places
except the one we happen to
be in at the moment.
—Anthony Burgess
My unease here isn’t because I’m not living in a single-family dwelling. I have been very happy in places that were not houses, but apartments. I