Intentional Conception: How to Bond with Your Child Before Conception and Stay Connected Forever

By Jorge Francis Cassir and Jacqueline Cassir Maese

The Ultimate Act of Conscious Parenting: How to Connect with Your Baby Before Conception 

Learn how to connect with the creative energy of the universe and enhance the love affair with your spouse and your child even before the baby is conceived! Author Dr. Jorge Cassir, MD, guides you in

• Language: English
• Publisher: Capucia Publishing
• Release date: Jun 17, 2022
• ISBN: 9781954920316

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Contents

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1 Awaken Your Inner Child

Chapter 2 Your True Nature

Chapter 3 Open To A New Identity

Chapter 4 Reframe Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

Chapter 5 Connect With Spirit

Chapter 6 Intentional Conception

Chapter 7 Conscious Pregnancy

Chapter 8 Conscious Parenting

Chapter 9 Co-Create The Family And Life Of Your Dreams

Appendix: Practices For Conscious Arenting

Acknowledgments

Notes

Suggested Reading

About The Authors

Preface

When I was five years old, I showed my father my school report card, and he snapped, You are like a crab, always walking backward! I felt devastated, and those simple words were seared into my heart and affected me in a variety of negative ways. As time went on, the image of myself that stayed with me was that I was a crab walking backward. For the next several decades of my life, I was laden by chronic self-limiting beliefs that resulted in unfounded fears and insecurities and a sense of lack and unworthiness. These self-limiting beliefs made me a prisoner in a self-imposed jail. I had no way to release myself from it because I did not know how.

This occasion was not the first time my father acted unconsciously in a hurtful way, and it would not be the last. Three years later, my mother left him because of his gambling addiction. She had warned him, but he elected gambling over family. My mother was not willing to trust the financial future of the family to a gambling table. She took her two children with her; she did not take a penny from him. She did well in the fashion business and eventually relocated to New York City. At the time of the separation, my father’s existence stopped being relevant in my eyes. Ten years later, he took his own life, and I did not feel anything. He had died in my heart a decade before. But my self-limiting beliefs still burdened me. What I did not learn until later was that my father had been weighed down with self-limiting beliefs, too.

The year my father was born in Alexandria, Egypt, his family suffered significant financial losses. He grew up believing that he was bad luck and the cause of his family mishap. When in my late twenties, I flew to the Middle East to meet my paternal family, I realized that they had interests in casinos in Egypt and Lebanon. Then I understood why my father had a gambling addiction; it was part of his culture.

I believe he ran away from Egypt to forget about the pain he experienced as a child. He thought that if he got out of the country, he could start over in a faraway, adopted homeland. What he did not realize is that his mindset was the same no matter where he was; exchanging his clothes, as it were, was not going to change what was inside him.

As an adult, I understood how painful it must have been for my father to grow up believing that he was the cause of his family’s financial ruin. He grew up suffering the trauma of his false beliefs. He had been taught that he was lacking in everything, and self-love was in short supply. Then, with his scornful remark about my report card, he unwittingly brought about the same trauma in me.

Like my father, I, too, grew up not believing in myself. But even though I believed that I was not smart enough, I persevered. I was a good student, and I graduated from medical school among the top 10 percent of my class. I trained as a radiation oncologist and eventually created a successful network of three competing hospitals to join in sharing radiation oncology services. Along the way, I married and reared two children in the traditional manner.

Then two near-death experiences resulted in my becoming a spiritual seeker. First, at the age of fifty-one, I suffered a heart attack, having inherited a lipid abnormality from my father. My children were teenagers then, which weighed heavily in my desire to reverse my heart disease. I gave myself ten more years at most. That was twenty-eight years ago! And I have been free of more heart attacks and now have an excellent lipid profile.

My second near-death experience occurred fourteen years later, while I was driving on the highway. Suddenly I noticed a driver on my right migrating into my lane. To avoid a collision, I headed toward the shoulder of the road at seventy-five miles an hour. As soon as I hit the shoulder, my SUV rolled over—four times, I later learned. When it stopped, the entire roof was flat, except where I was sitting. I felt severe pain in my left upper arm and realized that I had suffered a fracture. I was medevacked to the hospital where I worked, and they patched me up.

I took the fact that my life had been spared a second time as a sign that I was destined to attain a significant goal—except that I still had to discover what that goal was. After the accident, I did a lot of soul searching and doubled down on my yoga and meditation practice. I deepened my spiritual reach and studied under the guidance of the most accomplished mentors of the day. One of the wisest lessons I learned was that I should be vulnerable and learn to trust without needing to control. I learned to be fully engaged in the present moment—now. When you live in the now, there is no past or future. And the ego with its laundry list of self-limiting beliefs and fears ceases to exist.

Dr. Deepak Chopra is one of the teachers whose wisdom I have benefited from over the years. According to him, the universe is a quantum field of infinite possibilities. We are its children. Therefore, we are endowed with the same powers as co-creators of our future. During my long spiritual search, I added the exploration of the principles of quantum physics and depth psychology to my practice of meditation and yoga. I came to see consciousness as the ground of all being, and the human being as a divine entity. And I confronted the trauma with my father that had narrowed and stifled my existence.

As I integrated my life story and incorporated the wisdom I was gaining, I realized that as a healer, before I could help others, I had to heal from the multiple self-limiting beliefs that afflicted me. During that search, I also found my purpose: to teach parents-to-be to avoid contaminating their children by awakening their inner child before conceiving the children that they want to welcome into their lives—and to do so consciously.

When I was eleven years old, I promised myself that, if I ever married, I would always be there for my children so that they would experience a whole family. I am glad to report that my wife and I have been married for forty-nine years and that not only my children but also our four grandchildren have enjoyed stable, intact families.

I have written this book in their honor and to honor all parents-to-be and their eventual children. It is part of my commitment to dedicate the rest of my life to the upbringing of conscious families so that families of the future may enjoy a healthy family life based on love.

I hope that in sharing the insights I gained from my childhood suffering, I can help others. It was many years before I felt that whatever I truly needed was already within me. When I finally released myself from my self-imposed emotional dungeon, I felt freer and more expansive, lighter and full of optimism, and I was able to create a clear vision of what I wanted to accomplish with the rest of my life.

This book is part of that vision. Although the content is written for all parents-to-be, I think it will be especially helpful to parents who have a history of childhood trauma, including the separation or divorce of their parents. Children of divorced parents tend to end their own marriages to a greater degree than do those who grow up in intact families. If you are a parent-to-be who grew up in a household where you experienced the breakup of your parents’ marriage, you may feel constricted, stuck, without confidence, unhappy, chronically stressed and anxious, and even defeated, just as I did.

I hope to help you heal from such childhood wounds, which only worsen over time until you address them—preferably before you conceive your child. I, myself, was not lucky enough to have a book like this to guide me in raising my consciousness before I brought my two beautiful children into this world. My wish is to spare you the same lack. I wish to give you the tools you need to break the pattern of dysfunctionality in which you grew up so that you do not pass it on to your children. Based on my own life and my understanding of my father’s, I have realized that one of the mainstays of evolving spiritual evolution is the protection of children by all means necessary. Rather than remain imprisoned in our psychological past, in parenting, we should be open to welcoming the inner winds of change that bring us new, fresh ideas to help us renew ourselves and nurture children who are healthy in mind and spirit as well as body.

This book is more than pages and ink; it is my heart speaking to you through written language about my vision for a meaningful life. It is one about which I am passionate, and it would be an honor to have you accompany me in this mission. I wish for you to enrich your life and your family’s, just as writing this book and living according to its principles has enriched mine and that of my family. I believe the book has the potential to bring untold benefits to you and your family, especially your children.

Finally, I want to add that I chose to reconcile with my father. Many years after his death, I apologized for not having recognized that he was a wounded child. As a parent, all he could offer me was the best that he had, given his level of spiritual development. I also had to forgive myself. In spirit, we told each other, I love you, and we hugged.

Introduction

If the idea of having a child fills your heart with joy and feels a part of your purpose in life, then it is likely that you are ready for the sacred and powerful experience of becoming a parent.

Parenting is a journey unlike any other experience. It allows you and your partner to mirror each other in loving your child unconditionally and in growing and transforming in ways that no other experience could give you.

The fact that you are holding this book in your hands is