My Naked Parts: Celibate & 40fied

By BOUQUI Folayan

The struggles of a celibate single woman in her forties. Sex, relationships, and lessons learned from heartbreaks. Journey to wholeness from abuse, detailing everything that led up to celibacy of almost a decade.

Mindsets and strongholds that limit us, we have to identify and intentionally put in the work that freedom from the past require

• Language: English
• Publisher: BOUQUI'S PLACE
• Release date: Apr 14, 2022
• ISBN: 9798886270648

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A Few Good Words

I am super-duper proud of Bouqui, congratulations to her on all the amazing feats she accomplished. For many that may think that she is an overnight success, she has been on her grind since I met her and I’ve known her all her life. And I love her dearly. I wish her all the best.

- Fela Durotoye, Executive Coach, Leadership Consultant, Global Speaker, and Nation Builder,

Forbes Coaches Council member

Bouqui is a trailblazer. Never afraid of taking uncharted courses. She has consistently re-invented herself. From her days as a part of an all-female rap group: G-Vibes in university to become one of the most sought-after solo female gospel rap artists.  She is consistently evolving to many other amazing things life has thrown at her. She has shown consistent strength and courage seasoned with grace. Her authenticity is one of the reasons I believe this new book and any other thing she gets involved in will be exceptional.  Congratulations! You go, girl!!! I’m rooting for you.

- Pastor Mildred Okonkwo, Relationship Coach and Co-pastor David Christian Centre (DCC)

Bouqui deserves to be honored. She maintains her space and is a positive young woman. I was the Mc at her first album launch. I support everything she does and will do so over and over. Her focus and resilience are unparalleled.

- RMD, Richard Mofe Damijo, Award-winning Actor and former Delta State Commissioner for Culture and Tourism, Nigeria.

Bouqui is a trailblazer. I met Her about 20yrs ago and three things stood out immediately - uniqueness, creativity, and audacity, and I would say those have not changed one bit as she continues to evolve. Every young person she has influenced over the years is a testament to her faithfulness. When no one else was willing to do it, she did something wild and crazy. With her rap style and inspirational lyrics, she changed the face of gospel music. We will never forget the impact it had on our perception of Christian music. We love Bouqui and she comes highly recommended.

- PK, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, Relationship Coach. TV host and Best-selling Author.

Bouqui is one-of-a-kind. Her ingenuity and tenacity are appealing. I've appeared on her TV and radio show, Bouqui's Place, a few times. She always asks intelligent questions and is extremely hardworking. I've known her for over two decades, and she's always been consistent. Her story is inspiring, and with her focus, the best is yet to come.

- Dele Momodu, Nigerian Journalist, Publisher of Ovation Magazine, Presidential Candidate.

Thank you for being one of the voices, coming out to share your story. We still recognize Bouqui as one of the pioneer rappers in Nigeria. She is consistently growing and evolving into an unstoppable brand. You came from us and we celebrate you as our own. You are our national treasure.

- Darey ArtAlade, Multi-Platinum Afro R&B singer, Songwriter, Record Producer.

Bouqui is a legend who has influenced me. Her energy and the way she keeps reinventing herself after so many years in the game are inspiring. Everything she does is phenomenal. She has always acted with honesty and respect for others. Life constantly tells you to be wise. But if you're nice to people, they'll be nice to you. Thank you for sharing your story.

- MI Abaga, Multi-Platinum Rapper and Multi-Award-Winning Record Producer.

It's been a pleasure to work with Bouqui. She was daring. She took a very unpopular path despite having all it takes to rule in the popular space. She saw the world system as not the reward she wanted. So for me, Vanity came to mind. The song vanity, which I produced, provided a lot of perspective for what I now refer to as my core values. Her strong desire for God is extremely motivating. I love her dearly.

- Id Cabasa, Multi Award-winning Record Producer and Star-maker.

In a world where ladies are distracted, Bouqui has made a commitment to be focused and yield fruits consistently. She is the epitome of hard work and inner strength. I celebrate her core values and principles. Her story is inspiring and I know it will bless many souls.

- Alibaba, Award-winning Stand-up Comedian, Master of Ceremonies, and Actor.

Bouqui has grown exponentially in my eyes. She is a strong, dependable lady. Her excellence in whatever she does, from creativity to successful implementation, is astounding. Her attention to detail and intentionality are admirable. Her show, Bouqui's Place, came at an opportune time, and the stories she shared helped many people see that the struggle of becoming is a human journey.

- Pastor Godman Akinlabi, Lead pastor of Elevation Church

A Queen, a conqueror, an inspiration, God’s own daughter. You have the voice of God and I am indeed privileged to hear him through you. You are just getting started.

I pray that you Shine so bright because that’s the Glory of God upon you. Your Story is what the world should read. I Dey your back Gidigba.

- Kunle Remi, Actor, Filmmaker, Entertainer, and Entrepreneur.

When BOUQUI relocated to Delaware from California, USA, she shifted her focus from her global platform of influence in the music industry to her passion for youth in VCF. No mountain has been too high, no valley has been too low for her determination to prevail against all odds as she moved out with the conviction to lead the next generation to their God-given purpose. Time and again, her conviction and passion have triumphed. I look forward to BOUQUI's natural love of God and passion to rule, reach, and deliver young people into champions as a result of her raw, unwavering pursuit of excellence. We truly see God's gift manifesting itself on all fronts as she fulfills her calling. My wife, Faye, and I love her dearly.

- Dr. Gary V. Whetstone, Founder of Victory Christian Fellowship and Jesus Experience

B.O.U.Q.U.I!

There couldn’t have been better words to use to turn that brand name into an acronym. Born Oncemore Unto a Quickened Unparralled Image! I'm happy I was a part of the journey, a part of history, and a stakeholder in such a revolutionary brand. Because of BOUQUI, many young girls could aspire to become more than they ever imagined in a predominantly male-dominated society. A beautiful soul, humble, respectful, and as talented as they come, BOUQUI is the real deal and a whole lot more. Thank you for sharing your talent with the world. Thank you for being a good friend, and thank you for being who you are. Love always!

-Femi Aderibigbe aka Kwame, Creative Entrepreneur, MD/CEO Virtual Media Network Limited

At the core of every kind of entertainment or media content Bouqui provides is solid principles. From MC jokes, music, to Tv, radio, and now print. Every conversation with her carries that powerful DNA. You must follow carefully. It's always present. Her dogged persistent tapping on rock finally cracks the boulder to reveal yet again another side to this multi-faceted wonder. When I think about Bouqui sometimes, I muse till my eyes are wet, gleaming with pride. 

What a gift!

What a blessing!

What a baby sister!

Well done Bouqui! Well done!

- Jide Folayan aka MMJ, Producer-Engineer, Singer-Songwriter. Bouqui's Mix Engr and Big brother.

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Preface

I saw a dead snake in our driveway when I was six years old. I rushed inside to retrieve my father's dissecting knife and forceps, as he was a professor of Biochemistry who conducted extensive research and experiments. I dragged the snake to the back of the house and sliced it open, attempting to replicate what I'd seen my father do so many times. I was abruptly yanked from the land beyond, beyond as the soundtrack came to a halt, and I heard my mother yell, BUKKY! I was pulled inside by my ears, but luckily for me, I had another parent who needed to see me before I expired. So instead of being taken to the gas chamber, I was forced to kneel, raise my hands, and close my eyes until my father arrived.

My mother told the story and handed him his velvet case, which contained the medical instruments I had misused. My father was delighted, and he scooped me up and swung me around, finally pleased that one of his daughters was interested in medical science. I didn't dare to look my mother in the eyes for fear that my joy would be short-lived. That was when I got the title my Doctor. He was so proud of me that he told everyone I was going to inherit all his books and equipment because I had performed my first surgery. The title Doctor was nice in theory until I had to perform my third surgery at my uncle's hospital shortly after graduating from high school.

Uncle Tunde is my father's younger brother, whom he adored as if he were his firstborn child. He's of medium height and a polio survivor. He, like my father, is fair, attractive, and enjoyable to be around. We knew he would make up stories on the go because they always wound up with different endings. When confronted, he would remark, Consistency is the virtue of a fool; only a fool can't change his mind. We would scream his name and jump on his neck. We enjoyed his humor, and he was particularly fond of me.

The first surgery was a mole on the finger, and I was like, Easy peasy, mac and cheesy. The excision of fibroids was the second procedure. The third case, which would be my last, ever, was a woman who had been in labor for five days at another facility but was transferred to my uncle's because he was a well-known surgeon. He didn’t want to take the job because of the patient's state but decided to give it a shot since the husband held his ankles and wept bitterly. It was like he knew the end already. In the theatre, my uncle noticed my eyes bulge and said, That's just the body, referring to the baby who died in the womb and was delicately removed by CS but carelessly dumped into a tub. The mother died as well because she was too weak to live.

Outside, her husband and family begged my uncle to wake her up. They didn't have any money for the hospital bill, so they tried to barter their TV and radio, which crushed my heart. My uncle advised them to leave with their belongings. Tears welled up in the sky, in their eyes, and mine. It was a particularly dreary day. As I lay in bed with a fever several days after the incident, it occurred to me that this could never be my life, but I was torn between my sanity and the money my father had invested in sending me to a special science school. I had nightmares about blood and could smell the theater everywhere. Hence, I lost my appetite. When I told my mother over the phone, she said I should never entertain such craziness after all my dad had done to ensure I become a Doctor. She assured me that I would get over it. But I didn’t.

So, without alerting anyone but another of my other uncles, I took an executive decision to switch to Arts. When my father found out, he was devastated, as one could anticipate. By this time, he had already been crowned king, and he was always preoccupied with the town's affairs and on the move. He stopped communicating with me like he used to, and I rebelled by doing the same. But now that I'm older, I believe dad did it in the hopes of waking me up. As if wasting my brains in the Arts, as they described it, wasn't terrible enough, I declared that I disliked Administration, my major at the university and that I wanted to be a rapper instead.

A rapper? my father inquired. And what exactly is a rapper? Male rap wasn't even a thing in Nigeria in the mid-1990s. That was the final straw, and he completely dismissed me. I was the only one who didn't go to see him after they reported he was unwell in the hospital; after all, he doesn't speak with me. My mother was furious with me, saying that I was just like him, stubborn. Uncle Tunde, who lived hours away, came to the house on a cool evening a few days before my birthday and sat in the kitchen without saying anything. He felt melancholy and sad today, contrary to his character.

After asking for a drink of water, he gently stated, Kabiesi (His Royal Highness) is gone. My mother collapsed on the kitchen floor. My sister Tokunbo, whom we recently lost to cancer, was grieving the loss of her first child, who had died a year before on February 10, the same day as my father, could not stop screaming. I was utterly numb watching everything in slow motion. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I didn't get the chance to say my final farewell. I was outraged with him for dying, but even more so because he died indifferent to me. At his funeral, I broke down and sobbed uncontrollably as I apologized and begged for his

Reviews for My Naked Parts

[medandiya · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

One of the most beautiful and real books i've read on singleness in a while. Great story Buoqui