Beauty and the Beast: Unleashing the Beauty Within!

By Gail Kuppan

In an almost failing marriage, Gail Kuppan desperately cried out to the Lord for him to show her his view on the role of a wife. The revelations she received from the Lord astounded her as she realized that for almost twenty years of marriage, she had had a worldly view that was based on selfishness rather than Gods view, which was based on laying down her life. She set her heart to apply her newfound knowledge, which resulted in the beauty being unleashed in both her husband and herself, thus saving their marriage. Her desire is to see every marriage succeed. She believes that if God can do it for her at a time when she was almost giving up, he can do it for you too.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Apr 25, 2017
• ISBN: 9781512781311

Gail Kuppan

Gail Kuppan is an accomplished author, lawyer, prophet and co-founder of Rhema Faith Church, UK. She is an international speaker, with several academic publications and has lectured in various universities. She has also established Ginosko International Bible School and Ginosko Academy of Inspired Learning of which she is CEO. Gails most profound success was learning to love as Jesus loved and to forgive as Jesus forgave. She loves being a wife, mother and grandmother and is passionate about seeing families restored and people finding their purpose in life.

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First published 2013

Second publication July 2016

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

DEDICATION

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

FOREWORD

ENDORSEMENTS

PREFACE

1   INTRODUCTION

KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR?

MARRIAGE AN EYE-OPENER

A PRICE TO PAY

2   IDENTIFYING THE UNDERLYING THREATS

EXPECTATIONS OF RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES

MINDSETS – ROMANCE, SUBMISSION AND RESPECT

ACTION POINT

3   SUBMISSION

QUEST FOR TRUTH

DEFINITION OF SUBMISSION

CONCEPT OF BIBLICAL SUBMISSION

WHAT KIND OF SUBMISSION IS INVOLVED?

AS TO A KING, EMPEROR OR GOVERNOR

AS A SLAVE TO A MASTER

REACTION TO OFFENSE

APPLICATION OF WORD

BATTLE AGAINST POWERS AND PRINCIPALITIES

THE MIND OF CHRIST

ACTION POINT

4   CONDUCT

PRINCIPLES OF CONDUCT

SUBORDINATE YOURSELF TO YOUR HUSBAND

BE DEPENDENT ON YOUR HUSBAND

ADAPT YOURSELF TO YOUR HUSBAND

ESTEEM YOUR HUSBAND

CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

BREAKING FALLOW GROUND

SOWING SEEDS OF RIGHTEOUSNESS

HOW TO SOW SEEDS OF RIGHTEOUSNESS?

PRIZE YOUR HUSBAND

DEFER TO YOUR HUSBAND

DO NOT JUDGE

CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS

EXHORT YOUR HUSBAND

ACTION POINT

5   DRIPPING LOVE

LOVE IS A DEBT OWED!

THE WILL OF THE FATHER

LOVE DEFINED

LOVE IS PATIENT AND NEVER GIVES UP

LOVE IS KIND

LOVE TAKES NO ACCOUNT OF THE EVIL DONE TO IT

FORGIVENESS - THE KEY TO FREEDOM.

ACTION POINT

6   BEAUTY FOR ASHES

REFINING PROCESS

EMOTIONAL ICEBERG

LEARNING TO LOVE

FORGIVENESS THE KEY TO HEALING

BEAUTY UNLEASHED

ACTION POINT

PROLOGUE

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

DEDICATION

I dedicate this book to my husband,

Brian - my Prince,

the one whom God has used to bring out the Beauty in me!

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I would firstly like to thank the Lord Jesus Christ, without whom this book would not have been possible. He answered when I desperately called out to Him. He was my cheerleader when my strength was failing me and patiently taught me how to love. I love Him so much!

I thank my husband for his wisdom, love, and constant encouragement. You are the best – my hero, my source of strength, the Love of my life! Thank you for being you! I discovered who I am because you challenged me and believed in me! I love you so much, my Prince!

Thank you to my precious children, Meralda, Luke and Gaby for their amazing support, prayers and understanding. You guys have been my inspiration! The three of you have cried with me, prayed with me and encouraged me. This book is part of your heritage and evidence of our miracle working God! You are all so special to me. I love you all dearly.

Thank you to Sasha Ramsey for her editorial assistance and for challenging me to draw out the depth of the book. You are special!

And finally, thank you to my dear sister, Wendy, for putting pressure on me and demanding more copies of this book! I love you!

FOREWORD

I have known Gail for more than 25 years. Gail has always been most consistent and fervent in her walk with the Lord. She has accomplished much as a lawyer, lecturer and through her legal publications. I feel very honoured and privileged to welcome her current contribution to the Christian arena.

God has been stirring Gail’s heart over a period of time prompting her to release this message to His body, the church. She patiently waited on the Lord, as God began to download His plan. He conveyed specific instructions, giving her a strategy, urging her to publish this book. Her sensitivity and ability to discern the move of The Holy Spirit has resulted in the church being enriched with this amazing gift. We thank God for her obedience and embrace the fragrance of Christ poured out through her earthen vessel.

Gail has become bold and vulnerable, even unafraid, to reveal her deep struggles in life’s most challenging journey. This testimony of her real life encounter will bring hope to the hopeless and light where darkness is imminent.

After much tears, prayer, study and meditation, I believe this book is not just a one time read. In fact, it is a handbook to help weather the most violent storms that relationships encounter. Her labour and invaluable effort is a gem in all believer’s hands. I resolutely believe that this book will help turn any situation around from failure, and transform them into what may look like a fairy tale relationship. God certainly did this for Gail and can undoubtedly do just the same for you.

As a husband, Gail has reached into the deepest parts of my heart and brought out the best in me. Just when you may feel like giving up, this book will certainly turn your mourning into dancing!

Yours in Christ

Reverend Brian Kuppan

Senior Pastor: Rhema Faith Church, UK

ENDORSEMENTS

I have known Gail for many years now and when you read this book you will know why I regard her as a servant of God with deep insight into relationships.

Gail speaks from two powerful perspectives in that she has a testimony that has been guided by the Word of God. You will be blessed by how this comes out from the very beginning of the book. This is an author who has lived the truth of which she writes.

Even though Gail has a trained legal mind capable of comprehending complicated arguments, she has written this