Overdate

By Daniel Kinoshita

We live in a time of excess. Learning how to curb our devouring appetites can mean the difference between failure and success.

Everything these days is over. We smoke too much, drink too much, work too much.  This is all detrimental to our physical and mental health.

 

Yet while this produces lasting negative effects, we often overlook one of the most important tasks we should be doing: spending quality one-on-one time with our partner.

 

Overdate: People Overwork, Overspend, Overeat and Overdrink but They Fail to Overdate Their Significant Other is an in-depth examination of what it means to cultivate and nurture healthy, lasting relationships.

 

No matter how long your relationship has been, there is certainty that your level of active participation is slowing down, not from a lack of interest or attraction, but from the slow, natural grind of time and familiarity. This could stem from a variety of reasons, and all threaten the stability of your relationship. Perhaps intimacy has faded. He no longer brings you flowers. The I Love You's lessen.

 

All are signs of dating neglect but can be rectified with a renewed approach to dating your spouse or partner. Just because you're married or have been together for a long period of time doesn't mean you should stop dating one another.

 

There is no better time to rekindle your relationship, give it that boost you know you need, than right now. Overdate is built upon the foundations of a 31- year successful relationship, filled with successes and failures, and provides you the tools necessary to start enjoying your partner the way they deserve.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Daniel Kinoshita
• Release date: Feb 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9798985725506

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OVERDATE

DANIEL KINOSHITA

COPYRIGHT PAGE

While every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this book, the publisher assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions, or for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein. The story, all names, characters, and incidents portrayed in this production are fictitious. No identification with actual persons (living or deceased), places, buildings, and products is intended or should be inferred.

OVERDATE

First edition. February 2, 2022.

Copyright © 2022 Daniel Kinoshita.

ISBN: 979-8985725506

Written by Daniel Kinoshita.

Author’s Preface

Most of my working life has encompassed helping others in need, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Choosing a career as a Marriage and Family Therapist confirmed my desire to see individuals, families and couples thriving in life. I never intended to write a book that was inspired by my own journey of love and marriage; it just developed. Overdate was born through hard work, pain, tears and overwhelming emotions of love and joy. Overdate is not just a concept. It is a lifestyle that, if you choose to embrace, could revolutionize your relationship with your significant other forever. So journey with me as you discover what my wife of 31 years and I have learned to practice, the art of Overdating.

Overdate: The act of dating your partner on a regular and continuous basis in order to keep the romance, adventure and love alive daily, weekly, monthly, yearly and for the rest of your life.

Acknowledgements

For Trish.

Thank you for dating me, following in love with me, marrying me, and then dating me again and again. Let’s overdate till the mountains crumble into the sea! My peerties, my extra, my forever love. Thank you to my daughter Danielle and son Mark, who have brought overwhelming love and joy to my life. I am so proud of both of you! Special Thanks to: Malcolm and Kathy Macphail, our long-time friends and spiritual leaders. Thank you for teaching us about date nights, when we were just kids embarking on the journey of our life. Thank you, Mom and Dad, for giving me an example of what a true relationship is... love, commitment and forgiveness. To all the couples I’ve had the privilege of working with over the years, your stories, hard work and dedication to your partners inspire me daily. To Jay Steele, my good friend who inspires me to keep it real! Love you, man! Keep Grinding!

Contents

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER I: Overdate; The Art of Overdating

CHAPTER II: Attention, Approval & Support

CHAPTER III: The Should Factor

CHAPTER IV: I Just Text to Say, I Love You.

CHAPTER V: Don’t Give to Get?

CHAPTER VI: Lessons from Loved Ones

CHAPTER VII: We Don’t Have Money

CHAPTER VIII: Life Is Like a Vapor

CHAPTER IX: Check-in or Check-out

CHAPTER X: Our Final Destination

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INTRODUCTION

People overeat, overwork , oversleep, overdrink and oversmoke. The list can go on and on. You get my point. Here’s where I believe couples go wrong. The most neglected area that I have seen in couple