Improve Your Low Self-Esteem Build Motivators

By Paul Simon

Master Your Self-confidence Love & Put Yourself First for Emotional Peace.

Has your self-esteem taken a hit over the last couple of years? No one is born with self-esteem―we have to build it. Don't let low self-esteem rule your life - overcome it fast with easy practical steps. This book has been written to help you build self-esteem and live every day with confidence. As a renowned self-esteem expert, I hear from many people how they would like to deal with their low self-esteem. But I've learnt that the best way to deal with low self-esteem is to figure out how to build high self-esteem.

If you think of yourself as someone with low self-esteem, that in itself makes it difficult to climb out of. But, if you frame the problem in terms of your capacity to build high self-esteem, you automatically put yourself in a growth mindset and increase your odds of improving your sense of self.

This book is aimed at people with anger issues who are consistently upset not with other people in particular but angry at themselves; it could be as a result of anything from being in the wrong job to family problems. In short, this book teaches you how to concentrate on the things you can control in your reality, such as your thoughts, feelings, behaviour, and character, so you can become less angry and less full of doubt.

Here's a preview of what you'll learn when you buy this book:

 

• What is self-esteem and why it is important to improve your self-esteem
• How to be nice to yourself• How to focus on what you can change
• Doing what makes you happy
• Celebrating the small stuff
• How to embrace your imperfections
• And many more…

 

Wanting to know how to be more confident doesn't mean impressing people or looking cool. It's about living the best you can. So, go ahead. You want to have good friends in your life, first of all be a good friend to others. You take risks when others don't. Be real, be vulnerable when others are not. Be prepared not to have others like you.

As in business, when we say that a product for everyone is not a product for anyone; Trying to be friends with everyone can also scare people. Focus less on making friends and more on relaxation, openness and connection. Learn one of these skills every day. Play with them. As the saying goes, you are not learning unless you are making mistakes. Get out of your comfort zone. Put yourself in new, perhaps a little scary, situations to expand your repertoire of friendly skills.

However, getting rid of all your negative friends, family and colleagues is not enough. It may not be practical or pleasant. But make a mindful effort to limit your time with them, while also increasing your time with people who have positive attitudes. It is at stake how much you help others, your success and even your life span.     
When I was growing up, I was always insecure. Regardless of where I went, I felt like I was doing something wrong. I felt it wasn't good enough. I didn't do many of the things I wanted to do because I was afraid. So, when we talk about self-esteem, we talk about life. We speak about the experience. We are talking about having the courage to do the things we secretly want to do. Things like

 

• Talking to nice-looking people of the opposite sex
• Dancing• Getting the raise
• Having a great body
• Traveling to new places
• Quitting the job you hate
• Building a business

 

Don't live life with fear. Don't look over the side of the cliff. Don't stand in the corner. So, go ahead.and get your copy right now

• Language: English
• Publisher: Paul Simon
• Release date: Jan 14, 2022
• ISBN: 9781739978204

Book preview

IMPROVE YOUR LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND BUILD YOUR MOTIVATORS

Master Your Self-confidence Love & Put Yourself First for Emotional Peace

Outlines

ABOUT THE BOOK AUTHOR

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER ONE BE GOOD WITH YOURSELF

WHAT IS SELF-TALK?

Negative self-talk

Positive self-talk

CONSEQUENCES OF NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

WHY POSITIVE SELF-TALK IS GOOD FOR YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

HOW CAN YOU USE POSITIVE SELF-TALK TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM?

EXAMPLES OF POSITIVE SELF-TALK PHRASES AND STATEMENTS

EXERCISES AND ACTIVITIES TO HELP BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM THROUGH POSITIVE SELF-TALK

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CHAPTER TWO YOU DO YOU

WHY DO I COMPARE MYSELF TO OTHERS?

WHY YOU MUST STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE

It's Damaging To Your Sense Of Self

REALISTIC WAYS TO STOP LIKENING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

HOW TO FOCUS ON YOURSELF INSTEAD OF OTHERS TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS

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CHAPTER THREE GET MOVING

HOW CAN FITNESS BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM?

WHAT ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO EXERCISE TO BOOST SELF ESTEEM?

HOW FAST CAN YOU BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM WITH EXERCISE?

LIST OF PHYSICAL EXERCISES TO IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM

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CHAPTER FOUR NOBODY IS PERFECT

ACCEPT YOUR FLAWS: NOBODY IS PERFECT

WHY YOU MUST EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS

8 WAYS PERFECTIONISM RUINS YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

PERFECTLY IMPERFECT: 7 WAYS TO ACCEPT YOUR DEFECTS

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CHAPTER FIVE FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE

CAN WE CONTROL OUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS?

THINGS YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL IN YOUR LIFE

THINGS YOU HAVE NO POWER TO CONTROL IN LIFE, SO LEARN TO LET GO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE

PRACTISING MINDFULNESS: CONTROLLING WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL

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CHAPTER SIX DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

REASONS TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

HOW TO FIND OUT WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

6 REASONS WHY YOU DON'T DO WHAT MAKES YOU REALLY HAPPY

14 THINGS THAT MAKES US HAPPY AND ENJOY OUR LIVES MORE

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CHAPTER SEVEN CELEBRATE THE SMALL STUFF

WHAT IS SMALL STUFF?

THE LOSS OF DRIVE AND MOTIVATION

THE SUCCESS CYCLE

SO WHY SHOULD YOU CELEBRATE SMALL STUFF?

11 GREAT WAYS HOW TO CELEBRATE SMALL STUFF

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CHAPTER EIGHT BE A PAL

HOW BEING A PAL IMPROVES OUR SELF-ESTEEM

IMPORTANCE OF BEING A PAL (8 BENEFITS OF ACTING SELFLESSLY)

9 WAYS TO BE A PAL THAT WILL BRING YOU TO SUCCESS

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CHAPTER NINE SURROUND YOURSELF WITH A SUPPORTIVE SQUAD

WHY YOU MUST SURROUND YOURSELF WITH A SUPPORTIVE SQUAD

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH A POSITIVE SQUAD?

SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU BETTER

7 WAYS TO MAINTAIN CONNECTIONS WITH OTHERS

FINAL WORDS

CONCLUSION

ABOUT THE BOOK AUTHOR

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aul Powell is a renowned self-esteem and branding expert, speaker, author, and multimedia resource. His personal and professional development expertise and the ability to inspire others to make permanent positive changes have made him a sought-after consultant.

He has been married for 20 years with four girls. He has worked his whole life, and he doesn’t believe in taking breaks or gaps from work because he feels life without earning means you are not a productive member of society.

He doesn’t know everything, but what he does know, he will put it on paper and in a book. Paul Powell is 50 years of age. He doesn’t drink or smoke. He exercises regularly and tries to spend as much time with his family as possible.

The books he has written so far are from his personal experience, where he has learned from many different people and continues to learn from others, especially from his family and friends. He always wanted to do this but never had the time or the courage to do something about it.

He would like to think this is a new beginning for him, not the end. His Wonderful wife, Sandra, has supported him in every endeavor wholeheartedly and made him believe that he is capable of everything that she sees in him, being his rock through all the highs and lows of our life together.

INTRODUCTION

It is impossible for anyone to go back and start a new beginning, however anyone can start today and create a new ending.

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an't get rid of the feeling of not being good enough? If you constantly worry about how you look, second-guessing how you behave, and questioning how others perceive you, you may be suffering from low self-esteem.   

It is completely normal to feel a lack of self-confidence in situations that are outside your comfort zone or to question your abilities when faced with a new task. Low self-esteem affects us all from time to time. But if your confidence is so low that you have trouble functioning, it can negatively impact your mental health and your daily life.

We use the term self-esteem to describe an individual's general subjective sense of personal value or worth. In other words, self-esteem can be defined as how much you value and love yourself, regardless of the circumstances.                  

Self-confidence is the opinion you have about yourself or how you feel about yourself. We all have that time when we feel a little depressed or have a hard time believing in ourselves. If you have good self-esteem, chances are you have a positive outlook on your abilities and generally take a more optimistic approach to life. While if you have low self-esteem, studies link low self-esteem to a variety of issues that can affect everything from how you approach your career to how you manage your relationships.

There are multiple reasons why we may have low self-confidence. However, it often begins in childhood, perhaps with a feeling of not having lived up to expectations. It can also be the result of adult experiences, such as a difficult relationship, personal or professional.      

If your feelings of low self-esteem are rooted in your childhood, coping with your problems might seem like an impossible task, but there are things you can do to boost your confidence and improve your mental health. First, you should know that this book has been written to help you if you experience one or more of the following signs:

Self-hatred. While there are times when everyone of us dislikes who we are, hating your thoughts and actions is a classic sign of low self-esteem. Self-hate is characterized by feelings of frustration and anger about who you are and inability to forgive yourself for even the smallest errors.

Perfectionism. The desire to be perfect is one of the most destructive aspects of low self-confidence. A perfectionist is an individual who lives with a constant sense of failure because his successes, no matter how impressive, never seem good enough.

Negative body image. A negative body image is usually associated with low self-esteem and vice versa. This means it can affect everything from how you behave in relationships to how you project yourself to work. It may even prevent you from taking care of your health because you feel unworthy.

Feeling worthlessness. We all doubt our abilities in some area of our life, but a deep sense of worthlessness comes from believing that somehow, we are not as valuable as others. If this sounds familiar to you, it is important to understand that feeling worthy is not something that others will give us, but something we have to build for ourselves.

Excessive sensitivity. One of the most painful characteristics of low self-esteem is excessive sensitivity. Whether you're irritated by criticism or literally feel overwhelmed by comments directed at you, it's important to desensitize yourself.

Fear and anxiety. The fear and belief of not being able to change anything in your world are irrefutably linked to low self-confidence.

Anger and rage. Anger is a usual emotion, but it is distorted when you have low self-esteem. When you don't see yourself as good, you start believing that your thoughts and feelings aren't important to others. Repressed pain and anger can build up, so something seemingly small can trigger outbursts of anger.

People pleasing. One of the most common signs of low self-esteem is the feeling of having to please other people so that they like you, love you and respect you. As a result, many people who like to please people end up feeling damaged and used.

Taking a great, hard look at the darker areas of your life, and your own self, will allow you to deal with the things in your life that destroy your confidence. Then, and only then, your strengths can emerge and be used. The causes of low self-esteem can be difficult to identify; there is not a cause for everyone and some people suffer for a variety of reasons. But here are some common situations that affect confidence, and familiarizing yourself with them can help you identify at least some of the causes in your life.                                

Uninvolved/Negligent Parents. In many cases, and especially when we are young, our feelings about ourselves are strongly influenced by how others feel about us and treat us, especially our guardians or parents. Everyone deserves a caring and loving family, but some young people are unfortunate enough not to receive adequate support in the home.

Negative peers. Being part of a social group that discourages you - by not respecting you, for putting pressure on