Emotional Intelligence 2.0: A Practical Guide to Master Your Emotions. Stop Overthinking and Discover the Secrets to Increase Your Self Discipline and Leadership Abilities

By Theresa Williams

Why are so many people with high IQs and excellent academic achievements unsuccessful in life?

Why do some people build social relationships with ease while others seem incapable of doing so?

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where anxiety and fear overwhelm you to the point that you freeze up or are unable to make the right decision?

The secret? EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE!

 

In today's society, it is believed that a person with great academic achievements and a high IQ has it easy and will certainly be successful in life. But in many cases, getting good grades in college or having a high IQ is not strictly linked to success.

 

Does this seem strange to you? Either way, this is the reality of things.

 

Think about it.. the vast majority of successful people didn't do so well in school.

 

There is a type of intelligence that few know of, yet it is one of the most important for our well-being and that of others, and it is Emotional Intelligence(EI).

 

With the methods explained in the book, you will be able to train and develop this type of intelligence, thus changing your life! You will finally understand how to relate to others in the best way possible by always making the wisest decisions in every area of your life without letting negative emotions take over.

 

This book is for:

• Those who want to increase work productivity, with a greater capacity for leadership;
• Those who want to reduce anxiety and stress as well as the risk of suffering from disorders such as depression;
• Those who would like to know themselves better and make better decisions
• Those who want to more fully enjoy their relationship as a couple and beyond;
• Those who want to use empathy to better understand others' moods
• Those who want to improve social relations and control anger;
• And much, much more…

 

 

Don't worry, it's not your usual academic textbook full of complex terms. This book will give you the right strategies in a simple and challenging way.

 

If you want to discover the power of Emotional Intelligence and finally control your emotions, Get This Book NOW!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Theresa Williams
• Release date: Oct 30, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201013899

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Introduction

Nowadays, everyone is in a race for success. But no one is willing to take the right steps towards achieving it.

First of all, we have to understand the core points of success. Emotional agility or emotional intelligence? Though they may seem similar in meaning, both have a huge role in the process of our success.

We can define EI (Emotional Intelligence) as the ability to understand emotions in ourselves and others, understand their importance, and use that knowledge to better manage our thoughts and behaviors.

This is why you should start learning more about this interesting subject.

EI has grown in prominence over the past years. Everyone is talking about how important it is for personal and professional success.

Many studies have revealed how EQ (emotional quotient) is far more important than IQ (intelligence quotient) when it comes to achieving success in social and personal relationships.

The best part is that the emotional quotient can be constantly enhanced, unlike the intelligence quotient.

Yes, we can continue to increase our emotional intelligence through regular exercise. Research undertaken in multiple universities across North America and Europe has indicated that while the intelligence quotient accounts for only 20 percent of our success and accomplishments, emotional intelligence plays a staggering 80 percent role in it. 

This means that if you are not able to deal with, identify and manage your emotions and the emotions of other people, you are less likely to succeed in many aspects of life. All technical skills, experience, qualifications, and even intelligence are important. However, people who have the ability to deal with their own emotions and other people’s emotions are the type of people who quickly rise to leadership roles. 

Two psychologists, John Mayer and Peter Salovey, coined the term 'emotional quotient' in 1990 as a social alternative for intelligence quotient, which fundamentally dealt with a person's cognitive abilities.

News spread widely around the globe that human beings had two types of intelligence—the original one related to rational, logical, and cognitive functions, and the newly discovered one related to processing feelings and emotions.

Suddenly, emotional intelligence was the buzzword that got everyone’s attention, including large corporations around the world. It became one of the most crucial parameters for employees or workforce selection for hiring managers. 

In a startling study, top leaders of 200 of the nation’s biggest companies were carefully studied. 

It was found that they did have some characteristics in common. Corporate leaders were exceptionally good at academic knowledge, technical skills, and the ability to manage their own emotions. Surprisingly, emotional intelligence contributed twice as much to their success as all the other three factors put together. This clearly shows that intelligence alone doesn’t take us too far in life unless it is backed by the ability to understand and manage our own (and other people's) emotions.

While intelligence and technical ability can determine if you will be a good fit for a particular industry or role, it is your ability to manage emotions that will determine how well you perform in that role.

Another study conducted on students at the Yale University Center for Emotional Intelligence concluded that adolescents who possess high emotional intelligence are less anxious, are seldom bogged down by depression, and are less likely to resort to addictions (alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, etc.). They are also less aggressive and less likely to display signs of becoming a bully.

Their attention spans are longer; they tend to be less hyper and are known to display leadership skills. These students excel not only academically but also in their ability to cope with related challenges. It is remarkable how emotional intelligence can impact social skills, academic performance, and gaining knowledge.  

Does this mean that we should focus only on emotional intelligence and not on cognitive or rational intelligence? No, not at all because both are important. However, intellectual prowess without the ability to manage emotions won't lead us on a path to success because at the end of the day, we have to deal with people all the time.

Similarly, emotional intelligence without technical skills and IQ will not lead us in the right direction. If anything, emotional quotient and intelligence quotient complement each other to ensure overall success in different spheres of an individual's life. 

Contrary to what some mistakenly believe, emotional quotient is not the rival of intelligence quotient. It is an ally. Our lives are intricate social constructs with complex and intricately woven social dynamics. How far do you think your cognitive ability can take you?

EQ covers several areas of our mental well-being, such as social relationships and interpersonal dynamics, among others.

Emotionally intelligent people demonstrate better mental health and well-being; they are more inclined to lead, inspire others, and derive enjoyment from both the little things in life and bigger achievements.

Therefore, the ability to resolve conflicts and manage relationships more efficiently is strictly correlated to success in life.

The benefits of possessing a high EQ aren't limited to our personal life alone. Emotional Quotient is applicable to our professional life as well.

It is well known that people with average intelligence often surpass those with very high intelligence to achieve unimaginable professional success.

We often wonder how some individuals are quickly promoted into leadership roles over others who, perhaps, are more technically knowledgeable and intelligent.

The answer likely lies in one's ability to navigate both their own emotions and those of others.

According to a study by the Center for Creative Leadership, 78% of careers derail due to emotional incompetency, an inability to handle interpersonal issues, insufficient leadership skills in conflict or crisis management, and failure to inspire trust.

The great news is that your EQ (emotional quotient) isn't innate. It takes lots of work but increasing it is pretty attainable if you are willing to work hard to achieve incredible things. EI can significantly impact all aspects of your life, enhancing your happiness and well-being.

In this book, we'll discuss solid strategies that you can immediately apply to enhance your social skills and emotional quotient. It will help you to build more productive interpersonal relationships.

CHAPTER 1 - What Is Emotional Intelligence?

In simple terms, Emotional intelligence involves recognizing emotions and leveraging emotional information to make informed choices.

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to recognize our emotions and regulate them, discern the emotions of others, differentiate between various emotions, and use this information to guide thoughts and behaviors to achieve desired outcomes

Since emotional intelligence involves recognizing emotions, it's important to understand both what emotions are and their various types

What Are Emotions?

These are mental states or feelings that arise spontaneously, not by intention. Physiological reactions often accompany these feelings. These reactions are based on our perceptions of events or what we see and hear at any given moment.

Emotions help us understand our experiences. We would never know that the death of a loved one is a sad experience if we have never felt sadness. We would never know that someone destroying our lawn is an annoying experience if we have never felt angry. Feeling emotions helps us categorize our experiences and react accordingly.

Positive emotions indicate that an experience we are having, or are about to have, is positive and worthwhile. When we say we look forward to an experience, it's not the experience we anticipate per se. It is more the emotions associated with that experience that we look forward to having.

Conversely, negative emotions alert us to unpleasant or potentially unpleasant experiences. We know we should do certain things or not do certain things if we want to avoid such experiences. For example, when we are faced with a sudden threat, we feel fear of loss or pain. The emotion of fear triggers a fight or flight reaction. What we truly aim to avoid is the loss or pain, not the event itself.

Without emotions, there would be no emotional intelligence. Without emotional intelligence, we wouldn't be able to accurately determine which experiences we seek and which we'd rather avoid.

According to author David G. Meyers, 'Emotion comprises three components: physiological arousal, expressive behaviors, and conscious experience.'

Physiological arousal means the person feeling a particular emotion will become physiologically alert. At this point, the sensory organs are stimulated for perception. A part of the brain that primarily controls physiological arousal is called the reticular activating system (RAS).

Expressive behavior denotes the behavioral response to perceptions, including what is seen, heard, or thought. This often involves verbal and non-verbal communication of a person's emotions.

Conscious Experience pertains to an individual's awareness of their environment, encompassing what they see, hear, feel, and think.

Robert Plutchik proposed that there are eight. He grouped these eight into four pairs of polar opposites: joy and sadness, anger and fear, trust and distrust, and surprise and anticipation

Primary and Secondary Emotions

Emotions are grouped into primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions.

Primary emotions are the initial emotions felt in response to a perception. These emotions are fear, anger, sadness, joy, love, and surprise. These are emotions you experience instinctively. They are intuitive feelings that arise spontaneously. Imagine you are walking down the road in the company of a friend, and a reckless cyclist runs into your friend. The emotion you likely instinctively feel is fear. Fear that your loved one may get hurt.

Primary emotions are often termed transient because they dissipate quickly. They can be replaced by secondary emotions or even transform into secondary emotions.

Secondary emotions are an offshoot of primary emotions. These emotions replace primary emotions. The emotion of fear you felt when you saw your loved one getting knocked down by the reckless cyclist may be replaced by the secondary emotion of anger. You

Reviews for Emotional Intelligence 2.0

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Awesome. Nice book that teaches you to better manage your emotions and make rational decisions in difficult times.

[Holye · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A very useful book. A particularly clear and deeper approach to how one can improve relationships e how to manage anger.

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A beautiful book. It is well written and it helps to understand yourself and others! I am using it for leadership development for myself and my team!!