The E.Q. Revolution: Mastering Your Emotional Heart-Print: The E.Q. Revolution, #2

By Michael Vincent Moore

"Wake yourself up, get to know who you truly are, and follow a path to become part of a new revolution, the greatest one!"

 

Reclaim your authentic self, increase love to a life of meaning and purpose, and stop endless cycles that prevent you from being happier and fulfilled... In his second book in The E.Q. Revolution series, Michael blends age old spiritual wisdom with modern knowledge and timely advice to create a renewed understanding of what it is like to be human in today's world.

 

Start dreaming again, things can get better!

 

Learn how, and why, that it all starts from within... And only when enough people take on the most heroic challenge that ever was, to truly and irrevocably become the masters of their own fate, can we see a future beyond all wars and overcome much of human suffering.

 

Life isn't just about choosing a career and making money anymore, or finding a special someone, there is so much more to it than that. Humanity needs to grow beyond the limits our societies have dictated to us, beyond our self-imposed boundaries and programming, to our ultimate nature. We have not become successful as a species yet, not where success counts most; of who we are and what we stand for, and how much we care about one another and ourselves.

 

And the best part of sharing such a journey: Your whole life becomes better in the process, better relationships, more fulfilled, greater opportunities, and more loving, for yourself, and others.

 

So, Mastering our Emotional Heart-Print is about understanding our impact from the inside out, similar to the effect of our carbon footprint, but in love and kindness, and how that relates to the whole world becoming what it is... We are all in this together, and only together can we make this place of ours great!

 

So, will you be one of the people who will take part in the New Era of Social Responsibility towards the best future we can ever dream of?

 

Read the book, and find out for yourself!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Elaquint Publishing
• Release date: Oct 7, 2021
• ISBN: 9781989856093

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Introduction

Human potential is amazing... We have the capacity to create a world that is peaceful... One that spreads kindness and love rather than hatred. If we believe it to be so, it will be our truth, and we will create it... – Kristi Bowman

A new beginning...

I had a vision, of a world without suffering, of a united humanity, people overlooking each other’s external nuances, of widespread happiness and joy.

Individuals allowed to express themselves as they are, fostering a great sense of belonging and trust, of an openness never before seen.

Abuse and poverty things of the past, as with greed and jealousy, helping hands found anywhere helping hands were needed.

A world where women all over were just as free as men to follow whatever paths they would choose, and where children were never mistreated, and were allowed the proper time to mature into a creation of their own making.

One where men were respected, and the struggle for personal dominance and power was over.

A world created in the images of people that had first sought to transform themselves into the world they truly wanted to create before setting out to do anything of importance.

A place where beauty and love was the norm.

A time when conflicts and discord were silenced.

A world were differences were celebrated and uniqueness a pleasure.

Where the landscapes were of peace, and hatred had no home.

It was no longer a matter of when things would get better, that time had come...

In that place shall I put all my efforts to make true!

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Can a world like that truly exist?

I think so, but not without us coming together as a global community and figuring out what is required, to follow through with a plan that works, and be willing to make sacrifices along the way. Without the whole world pulling together, then the other option would be to create a self-sustained community, like a modern version of Atlantis, and re-think what an ideal society would be, and ensure no outside influence. Which would still be quite a challenge and might not be feasible without the input and contribution of all of us.

In regards to our path, our evolution, there are times of rest, when we can allow our efforts to follow their course and maintain gradual improvements, and then there are times when we face extenuating circumstances, when we must endeavor to push harder, when our past efforts are at risk of not being sufficient any longer to coast on, and when the ground that is lost might never be taken back again.

I believe that now is such a time, that is the crossroad we are facing.

Our technology is propelling us forward at an amazing speed, and within us, we are in danger of losing touch with our most valuable assets; our compassion, our love for ourselves and others, our humanity... That is the real battle we face, within us first, as everything on the outside is always a reflection of who we are on the inside. External wars and conflicts are indeed a threat that we cannot dismiss, but those external threats are merely shadows of our inner turmoil and sufferings.

The most important menaces we face are not merely to our physical existence, but to who we are deep within. It is time we acknowledge that life is not only about staying alive and being somewhat physically healthy, but to the deepest aspects of our being, to those parts of us that are at the very intersection of our connections to the world, and to each other. All of our experiences are modified, diminished or enhanced, through whatever it is we know of consciousness, soul and spirit. To make them better, then everything gets better.

Make love the main connecting point between you and everyone else and everything that you do, and that is what your life will become, that is what all of our lives, and our world, will become. Materialism has come, and materialism must go, to be left in the past alongside all the narcissism, polluting fuels, and all other relics of an immature species.

Yes, creating your best life, your dreams, from loving intents while keeping the wellbeing of others at heart can take more time and effort than just through selfish pursuits. But it is vastly more rewarding to you and others, and it is taking responsibility for your impact, just as we do with our carbon footprint, but the repercussions are far greater. To just seek to become rich, regardless of how you do it, might be easier, but can you truly live with that? That is how people end up with chronic stress, heart disease, addictions, burn-outs, regrets on their death bed... On the surface, it can look like the way to go, but when you look a bit deeper, the substance of it fades really fast.

So, the truth needs to be seen and experienced, and it is not always fun. But if anyone wants a dream life, to have an impact, to leave something behind more than garbage and worthless things, it doesn’t come cheap in regards to personal effort and growth. You will need to know what the world, and yourself, truly look like, to open your heart through the fears and doubts, and have faith that your time, and ours, will come.

Keep love as your best friend and partner, and everything takes care of itself...

SECTION 1: In the beginning, there was you

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One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation and compassion... – Simone de Beauvoir

You, yes you!

This, everything, the whole world, all of it, It’s all about you, it is, really!

And, it’s all about me too, you and I, and everyone else as well...

But ain’t it hard though, to make it about us, unless you’re a complete narcissist or sociopath, and even then, no one will deliver the world to you on a silver platter while you just lay back on your comfy sofa. Because even though it’s all about you, it’s all about them too.

It truly is difficult, to make it personal while also considering that’s it’s all about others as well. We’re all in the same boat, trying to find a healthy balance through it all. We often end up pulling, or trying to pull, too many resources our way, or relinquishing too many of our rights, or have too little to get by on. It can be hard enough to dream for our own sake, yet alone to dream for the world itself.

Balance and fairness is key, but they can be so difficult to attain, and sustain.

We make our way through life as best we can, we all do, yet the tools we have at our disposal vary greatly from one individual to another, and one nation to the next. A person that was abused in childhood, often carries very deep scars, and their emotional heartprint can end up being very negative through no fault of theirs. And some people who have had great childhoods, can also end up selfish as adults, and also have very negative heartprints. Yet in similar situations, good or bad upbringings, some people manage to overcome all of it, and have very positive contributions to the whole of humanity, an impact which strikes at the very heart of purpose for this book. Many assume that good upbringings makes for a good adult, but sometimes those become the most selfish of people, success might come easier for them, but what is career and financial success if the whole does not get better for their work?

And I do make references to our childhoods often, as what is an adult if not a person made from the sum of their accumulated experiences, many of which have had the most consequences on us in our formative/younger years.

Although being nuanced, imperfect, is part of being human, the importance is in what we do with who we are, and how we can change, how we grow, and our positive contributions to those around us. As in the quote at the beginning of this section, the best value people can have in life, is to make their lives about helping others. But you also need to care for yourself as well, and the less well we are within ourselves, the less we can help to add value to others, the less we want to, and the more we surrender to our basic survival strategies. And by well, I do mean loving and willing to leave a good impression on this place, and not just well enough for external appearances or a seemingly idealized life.

To be of service to yourself and others, you need to overcome your inner challenges, and a great way to do that, is to know that you are important, humanity needs your help, and also to know what you want to make out of your life, a greater plan, to take charge of your destiny.

Our destinies are not set in stone, we have capacities to develop, we can choose certain aspects of our lives, and with those choices, we can also alter our course, but we must understand what choices are ours to make, and how our thoughts and will can guide us to better places.

So, what do you want out of your life? Not just a job, or career, but as a whole, to have all the elements match up and light your world like the most splendid works of art.

Do you know, or is that something you have not dared to dream about yet? Or have you gotten too busy with surviving that you have forgotten that you actually have the right to a better life, one that is fulfilling and meaningful?

I believe we do deserve better, not just individually, but as a whole. We just need to figure out a better plan for our future, not just for us, but for all of humanity. And that begins with understanding, with awareness, of who we are, what we truly want out of life, and how each one of us has an effect on others, and how to improve it.

That impact is what I call our Emotional Heartprint, and it relates to you as an individual, how you can go about working towards your best life, and how that process involves others. First on a smaller scale, your direct environment, and how it then grows to encompass a larger scale, and even the largest, all of humanity. But the beauty of it all, is that you don’t have to think in terms of changing the world, and burden yourself with global responsibilities. You can keep doing your own thing, as long as you increase your capacity to love, and project that increase of love in what you do, then it will eventually create ripples of that same positive and loving energy into your environment, and it will just keep on growing.

That is how we are made, waves of energy, intent, purpose, and from that energy we create everything. Improve the quality of the individual energy systems, you and I, and the whole cannot do anything more than to comply, to also improve in quality.

A true community is not just about being geographically close to someone or part of the same social web network. It's about feeling connected and responsible for what happens. Humanity is our ultimate community, and everyone plays a crucial role... – Yehuda Berg

And one thing of note in this quote; is the notion of community being beyond distance and perceived networks. We don’t need to keep creating all sorts of groups, organizations, religions, or political parties to feel we belong to something. Those needs can come from humanity itself, as long as we are willing to expand ourselves into it through love and compassion, past fears and judgments. Our recent inclinations to belong to smaller and smaller, very defined and specialized groups is not a good indicator in regards to overcoming our differences. Akin to dividing the planet into 10,000 nations, each with their own flags, their own language, their own needs superseding the needs of other nations, leading to complete chaos, but I digress.

So, the quality of the tools at our disposal will affect how much of a positive heartprint we can have on humanity, and also how much of a better life we can create for ourselves. Those tools, be them intellectual, emotional, physical, financial, our resources and influence, our time, our energy... Even though those tools vary greatly from one person to the next, it is in our intents of how we use the tools we have that count most in the end. What you hold in your heart, and your capacity to express it, the efforts, that goes a long way to determine your personal impact.

Just as with our environment, being careless with pollution, waste and garbage, we foul up our world, our oceans, forests, nature, other living species... And the same goes with what we do in life in relation to our inner pollution, being careless from an emotional perspective, we foul up our own hearts, our capacity to love, and thus decrease our ability to have compassion for the other members of our human collective. And that has repercussions in all aspects of your own life, how good it can get, of how much you can have a life filled with purpose and happiness, or instead merely moving from one struggle to the next, always hoping for a better tomorrow, which never really comes. Either you grow a very strong, and pure, flame in your heart, or you will end up spending your life running around trying to put out all sorts of destructive fires always threatening to engulf you. Just as a pure light casts no shadows and reveals the truth, so does a pure flame nourish your soul and purifies anything that is not of love.

But, something important to keep coming back to as we advance, as I have made a point of many times in my first book "From Emotional Intelligence to Emotional Maturity": Take it easy on yourself!

Life is about love, life is about happiness, and the more of those we have, well, that is what makes for true success and a life well lived.

Again, the truth is necessary to make progress, but it can be hard to take in at times. To understand, and improve, your Emotional Heartprint, it is necessary to increase your understanding of yourself, to understand your fears and desires, the good and the bad of what you leave in your wake, and of what you strive to achieve in life. So, be kind to yourself, and remember that we are not, and never will be, perfect. We are much more united in both our strengths and weaknesses than we realize, and if we build up the courage to look at all of who we are, and what we share with others, then maybe we can learn to accept one another at a much deeper level, and ourselves equally.

Each day we have choices to make, it is never an all in kind of thing when considering the quality of our emotional heartprint, there is no absolute good, or absolute evil, in human terms. But with every passing day we do indeed lean more towards one, or the other, by our actions and goals we undertake, and also with our inactions, and even the thoughts we allow to percolate in our minds. It can be difficult to determine exactly what our emotional heartprint can be, some things are quite easy to see, when we do good, when we have a positive influence in the lives of others, or when we cause pain, but often it is not so easy to ascertain, and our ability to see our impact is not so good. Yet it all adds up whether we see it or not, and every person’s contribution does in fact help to shape the whole world, to make it as it is.

Your impact is important, and keep in mind that if we don’t actively consider how each one of us influences the whole, everyone around us, allowing too much selfishness in our daily routines, not striving to better our relationships, holding on to grudges and resentments, accepting a much lesser life, then the more our heartprint becomes negative, so, the more we start leaning towards sociopathy. Yes, that is an undeniable fact, as that is what it means really, being antisocial, not in a shy or introverted kind of way like many people believe it to mean, as shyness itself is not anti social. True antisocial personality types (and any bit of it we have within us) work against the social order, against humanity in general. Which is very different than just being shy and/or reserved, or having difficulty adapting or belonging to social groups. So when you have a negative emotional heartprint, it means you take part in the destruction of love, even if only on a small scale, your own love, and the love we all share in. That is being antisocial, or sociopathic, in regards to social on a global, collective humanity scale. And the same applies to you, within yourself. Being antisocial also means you partake in your own self-destruction in a way, from the inside out.

Unfortunately people often mix up the notions of true antisocial behaviors with regular shyness, someone just not fitting in, or regular introversion, people who of their own personality prefer calm and solitude. So people that don’t understand those differences, they can be prone to dismiss the detrimental effects of antisocial traits, both in others, and in them as well. We all do have some, just as we all do have some levels of narcissism, which is why it is important to understand it, and limit its effect in us, and from other people.

Sociopaths love power. They love winning. If you take loving kindness out of the human brain, there's not much left except the will to win... – Martha Stout

That’s the sociopath (and other related Dark personality traits), being antisocial, being anti-love, they’re only in it for the game, to win, and to make others out as losers; manipulate, control, dominate, and repeat...

People that score high on sociopathic or antisocial behaviors often show no regard for right or wrong, and ignore the rights, feelings, and freedoms of other individuals. Again, we all do have some of these traits, though some that are very high on the scale are deemed as having an actual/clinical disorder; ASPD, or AntiSocial Personality Disorder. I find it important to discuss this here at the beginning as to know ourselves, and to know the main hurdles we fight against to make this world of ours a better place to live in, best to consider the extreme examples of those who inflict the most harm, who have the highest negative heartprints on humanity. There is no possible understanding of true love, without understanding what works against it most. And also to recognize similar traits within us, to know our limits, and to be able to pull ourselves away from the negative traits, and keep aiming towards the more positive ones.

I know it’s not such an amusing thing to consider, but we do all have some antisocial traits and behaviors, we all experience times when we dismiss the rights and feelings of other people. Racism is a classic example of antisocial behavior, dismissing the rights and feelings of huge parts of our population, so is sexism and hatred, jealousy and greed, and to varying levels, most types of selfish and individualistic pursuits.

And it all has an impact in your personal life, your ability to pursue the life of your dreams, or your ability to even know what that could look like in the first place. To become strong and resilient to face the challenges of life, your ability to make good friends, to find true and lasting love, your social skills, to feel that you belong, to be happy and well adjusted... So many important factors in your life hinge on your ability to pull away from narcissism and other antisocial traits inside of you, out of your ego, away from being too selfish and self-serving in what you do, to being more loving and aware of yourself, and to find your place in the grand scheme of things.

So, the idea again is not to become perfect, as that is not possible and would be too difficult to even attempt, but to understand and acknowledge what is worst in us, and do something about it. To not judge, to not cast ourselves out as a whole just because there are parts that need our attention, to not see ourselves as bad or immoral, but to improve our condition, and by doing that, we also improve our emotional heartprint, then the world becomes a brighter place for you to live in, and for everyone else too!

But, before we get too far

What is an Emotional Heartprint anyway?

Most people have heard of a carbon footprint, but an emotional heartprint?

I believe most can understand the basics of it, but a bit more detail can help in what I mean by it...

Well, it has to do with your heart, so, love, and also print, which is the impact you have, what you leave behind, like a stamp, a mark. And emotions, which is the type of energy that you radiate out through your heart, through your thoughts and actions, and how you affect others with them. All of that put together, over time, determines how you modify things in life, what you build and sustain, how you interact with people, and how it contributes to creating our reality. And this print, your impact, whether is it positive, or negative, not only as an influence in your environment, but on yourself, and what is left behind when you leave our planet, what remains of this world from you being in it for whatever time you had.

Think of a very negative heartprint as with the commercialization of cigarettes, nicotine, chemicals, those that worked on making them addictive, and harmful, alluring, marketing, profits... And we are still struggling with the negative effects so many years later, a tremendous burden on humanity, and all those that participated, and suffered, throughout those many years, and the millions of people that have died from cancer and other related diseases. And a very positive heartprint as in those that worked to end slavery, and are still at it, not only for our current time, but for our future generations. Those are easy to understand examples in considering large scale impact and effects from people and their work, but we all have an impact in lesser ways every day of our lives, and it is not because they are more difficult to see, that they don’t count.

Considering our emotional impact, our heartprint, should be one of our main concerns in life, much more than our success or other achievements, to make it as positive as humanly possible as it is what matters most for what becomes of our world, of humanity. Love is, and will always be, the one main component to a life well lived, and the only real answer to all of our problems, the ones that count most anyway.

So then, to have the best impact in what we leave behind, and how we live our life, is to develop a higher capacity to love.

One of the main things to do for that, is to grow out of our emotional fears and issues, to distance ourselves from all types of antisocial behaviors, otherwise love will remain forever out of reach. Not fully, not completely, but enough to make our worries and selfish behaviors take over our lives, until our impact becomes more of pain and suffering, instead of being positive and uplifting. Then we more or less infect in a negative way everything and everyone around us, like a devastating plague, rather than being a positive contributor to humanity. The world gets shaped by our heart, by our capacity to love, to expand, to make good things, then all becomes more caring, more kind, instead of creating things out from sharp edges and spiny protrusions, such as with greed and jealousy.

We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop... – Mother Teresa

While monitoring our carbon footprint is still important, our ultimate responsibility lies in our emotional heartprint. Get that one right, and every piece of the puzzle starts to fall into place. Loving and mature people consider their impact, whether in carbon footprint, pollution, abuse, anger, anything and everything... That is why our world will see a new beginning once more people realize just how important maintaining a loving/positive emotional state is, in their own lives, and in the lives of others.

NOTE: As I have seen many fads and success schemes, even really good ones, come and go, I felt it was necessary to add this little note right here: Sometimes when a new thing comes along, we might tend to play with it for a while, then move on, especially when it doesn’t provide quick results, such as a child might do with a new toy. But this Emotional Heartprint should not be taken as just another latest fashion to try for a few days, or a few months, like some diet or new training routine. It is, and must be, a way of life that we must all adopt and maintain for a greater future to humanity, for the generations to come. And when you stick with it for long enough, the results will convince you that it is the best way of life for everyone, including you. Love should be the uncontested winner in our lives, what we make of it, what we strive for, to always be part of our main goals and not just reserved for a special few or for romance. I am not meaning this to say that my way, or this book, should stand the test of times as an ultimate reference guide or blueprint for life, but the idea behind it should, that being love as the main foundation to guide our steps with.

But before we get to how to make your life better, to improve your all-important emotional heartprint and all that good stuff, it might be a good idea to start looking at the other end of the spectrum first, what most people would consider the worst in regards to leaving a good, healthy emotional heartprint; the Sociopath and their associates, the people (and those things within us) that are most prone to be selfish and self-absorbed, egotistical, to the extent of working against all that is good in humanity.

What makes a sociopath?

Or what makes a murderer a murderer, a rapist a rapist, a dictator, a scammer, or a narcissist... If not for the lack of love they have in common?

Would a person capable of true love rob people of their retirement income, beat their spouse, declare war on their own citizens, or kidnap children and sell them as sex toys?

No, absolutely not...

Those that are capable of real love would never do any of those things. One cannot have a high level of compassion and also be a strong racist or a con man, those two realities cannot exist within one human being, not as a defining character, unless they would have some sort of psychological impairment that would allow such discrepancies in one person. Sociopaths can play the game, appear charming and caring while harboring ill intents, but their character mainly is of ill intent, the apparent compassion is mostly just an act. Yes, we all have some good and some evil inside of us, humans can have many shades, but generally speaking, the more love we have for ourselves, the less our evil, and the less we become inclined towards acting out from the few bad places that remain within us. And keep in mind I am using the term sociopath loosely, not in the strict psychologically defined sense, but also including any associated traits and behaviors, including narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy (The Dark Triad; you can look it up if you want a better idea of what fights against the betterment of humanity).

This might seem like a harsh start to a book about love, healing, and leaving a positive heartprint, but, think about this quote:

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well, can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity... – Pema Chödrön

Only when we know our darkness well can we be truly compassionate, and also, only when