Don't Make #GirlMistakes: The Do's & Don'ts In Life

By Grace Amazin

Mistakes are a necessary part of life. While some fail to learn and continue their oblivious trek through life, others take a moment to reflect, figure out what went wrong, and adjust so as never to make that mistake again.

Don’t Make Girl Mistakes: The Do's & Don’ts in Life is more than a mere book. It is a code for girls and women to adhere to in order to grow their lives and become better tomorrow. Compiled from the experiences of a woman who has lived through numerous scenarios and situations, worked with very powerful people, and stepped through all walks of life in her journey, it is the evolution of knowledge and filled with a variety of topics every woman knows. From dating the wrong men, having those frenemies, finding your career, and going after your dreams, Don’t Make Girl Mistakes shows the positive effects of making conscious decisions.

Don’t Make Girl Mistakes is the perfect resource for every woman AND the men associated with them! We are all bound to make mistakes. It’s how we deal with them that determines who we are and who we will be.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Jul 28, 2021
• ISBN: 9781300029267

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Contents

Introduction      1

Chapter 1: Free Your Hustle From Hostage      15

Chapter 2: Move With Logic, Not Emotion      33

Chapter 3: Be the Homie      51

Chapter 4: Don’t Be a Dime Who Ain’t Worth a Penny      63

Chapter 5: You Won’t Change Him!      69

Chapter 6: Beware of the Frenemy      77

Chapter 7: Inquire, Never Assume      89

Chapter 8: Give Without Expectations      95

Chapter 9: You Can’t Take Everyone With You      101

Chapter 10: Pay Attention to the Signs      111

Chapter 11: Be Passionate but Precise!      121

Conclusion      133

Acknowledgements      137

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Introduction

WAS SITTING IN the VIP section of a club in a small town. I had traveled 400 miles from my home in Washington D.C. with a girlfriend of mine to meet up with another guy friend who hap- pened to be good friends with a well-known musi- cian. We were having a great night! After a couple hours, my girlfriend looked over at me and said, "Let’s go take some pictures in the bathroom since

I

we’re killin’ it tonight!"

Ok cool, let me grab my clutch, I said, fol- lowing my girlfriend out of the VIP section.

Just then, I heard my guy friend yelling over the music, Where ya’ll goin?!

We turned and looked at him like What?! Sucking my teeth and rolling my eyes, I said, None of ya business!

Alright! he said firmly. "Be gone too long and

both ya’ll asses gone get left! We’re about to roll out of here in five minutes."

My friend and I looked at each other and laughed!

Haha! He’s tripping, she said while we con- tinued walking toward the bathroom. Why he acting like that? Like we can’t go to the bathroom or whateva.

Who knows, girl? You know how dudes be, trying to regulate or control the situation.

In the bathroom, we started to touch up our makeup, fix our hair, and started taking a few selfies.

Suddenly, a man yelled at the entrance of the bathroom, Yooo!!! We were caught up in our own world taking pictures. We ignored the call. Yooooo, we bout to leave! Ya’ll need to come on! he yelled again.

Wait is that who I think it is? I asked my girlfriend.

My friend replied, Ty?

We’re about to come out now. Chill! I yelled back.

Yeah alright! Ya’ll keep playing doll house in the bathroom, and we all about to bounce like now! Come on!

We ignored him yet again and resumed our photoshoot.

Ooh, let’s go here to this corner. The tiles look pretty, my friend said. Take some pictures of me right here. We took turns trading places with each other and switching poses and positions.

"Yesss girl, this is the one! my friend said about one of her pictures. I’m about to post it now before it’s too late!"

You know, it’s Saturday night and most people aren’t on social media now, I explained.

Yeah, you’re right, but my lil boo is out and about, and I need him to see me come through on his timeline lookin’ all damn fine! She snapped her finger and did a twirl.

Ok, baddie, I see you! I said, cheering her on. Fifteen minutes after my friend had yelled into the women’s bathroom at us, we headed back to

the VIP section. When we got to the section, we

looked at each other and both of our jaws dropped. The section, once filled with countless bottles of expensive champagne, liquor, and a few good fel- las, was empty!

What the hell? Girl, I don’t believe what I’m seeing, I said.

My friend shook her head. Where’d everyone and everything go?!

Your guess is as good as mine, I answered. I KNOW they didn’t leave us behind! Maybe they moved tables to the other side of the room or something?

Your boys would leave us? she asked. That’s crazy!

Nah, I doubt they left us. I’m sure they’re somewhere nearby. I didn’t want to believe that my boy or the entourage would just roll out on us like that despite what we heard in the bathroom.

I mean, what? All we did was go to the bath- room, right? she asked. It ain’t like we did any- thing wrong, did we?

I had to think back at the evening and play the night quickly in my mind, wondering if there was something she or I did that may have called for us to get left. I couldn’t think of anything!

That’s crazy! I can’t believe these dudes left us! I concluded, shaking my head.

There we were, just me and my friend. We had no access to a vehicle and were over 400 miles away from home in the country. I called and texted my boy a few times.

Damn, that’s fucked up. So you’re really just gonna leave us

at the party though?

We not even from here,

that’s crazy!

Hello, I KNOW you SEE my

text messages!

SMDH

This is some bullshit!!!!

My friend didn’t respond to any of my text messages. So I started calling him, and he didn’t answer any of my calls.

Oh, so you’re just gonna ignore

my calls too?

WOW.

Finally, after an unnerving amount of time, my friend replied via text.

I told ya’ll lets go several times. Ya’ll wanted to be hard headed and not listen. That’s the problem with you girls! Always thinkin’ cuz ya’ll are females that ya’ll can get away with everything!

But we didn’t do anything! All we did was go to the bathroom.

Damn. What? We can’t go pee? I never knew it was a crime to use

the bathroom. :-/ Smh.

Nah, ya’ll were doing more than pee-

ing. Ya’ll were in the way.

What? In the way? We weren’t bothering no one. We didn’t cause any fights or drama. How

were we in the way???

Look, you know we were here out of town as someone’s entourage. Tonight is not about ya’ll, nor is it about me. We are on someone else’s schedule, time, and money! That means we have to fol- low their lead. If they say it’s time to go, and they get up to go, then we go with them. I warned ya’ll that we were leav- ing in five minutes. After ten minutes go by, I came to the bathroom twice yelling for ya’ll to come out because we were all leaving the party! But ya’ll didn’t listen. Now I don’t know what to tell ya’ll

cuz we are far from the place.

Wow! That’s crazy! I can’t believe you’d leave us in some random town. How are we supposed to

get back to our hotel?

Ya’ll big girls. I’m sure you’ll fig- ure it out! Next time, don’t make

girl mistakes!

That was the end of our string of text messages that night. And just like that, my friend and I had to put on our big girl panties and deal with the sit- uation we caused! The whole time we were figuring out how to get back to our hotel, I kept thinking about my friend’s words: girl mistakes. Girl mis- takes? What are girl mistakes?

While the situation didn’t end our friendship, it taught me a couple of valuable lessons. Lessons number one and two were to be mindful of other people’s time, especially when I’m on their time instead of the other way around, and of friends who can influence you and lead you astray by being selfish or consumed by their own agenda. It took me some years to fully understand, but eventually I knew what he meant.

He meant that women have some habits, behav- iors, and perspectives that get in the way of their own goals and successes. Just like my friend and I decided that an impromptu photoshoot in a club bathroom was more important than respecting the time and agenda of the musician who invited us out that night, many women make decisions that

work against their plans, goals, dreams, and suc- cesses. That is what he called girl mistakes.

This book is about not making girl mistakes. It’s about how to navigate life intentionally and grace- fully. Note that