Road Map to Happiness: A Life Mentors Life Journey
By Phil C Hardy
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It is for those who are discerning and are interested in understanding how they can add to their existing wisdom and accelerate their evolution into becoming the best they can realistically be.
Phil C Hardy
From a dysfunctional and traumatic childhood, he had a succession of mentors who guided him in his life as an International consultant and life mentor. Then when he battled chronic fatigue syndrome, he applied, verified, refined and reapplied his understandings to himself. He is now retired, living in the Perth hills and is currently focused on writing and presenting his follow-up Roadmap to Happiness life education course. The course notes are free to download with follow-on participation to be made available via Skype at his blog site www.roadmaptohappiness.com.au.
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Road Map to Happiness - Phil C Hardy
Copyright © 2017 by Phil C Hardy.
Library of Congress Control Number: 2017902426
ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-5245-6084-3
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Rev. date: 06/12/2017
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Contents
Acknowledgements And Dedications.
Chapter 1 INTRODUCTION
SELF-EVIDENT LEARNING and HARMONIOUS LIVING - Explanation
PERSONAL NOTE
Chapter 2 OUR LIFE’S FOUNDATION STONES
HAPPINESS IS?
EXPERIENCES, THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & PERCEPTIONS
RELATIONSHIPS
OUR PERSONAL ATTRIBUTES
EGO and INTUITION
DECISIONS and ACTIONS
CREATIVITY
PROGRESS: Change – Balance – Lessons - Wisdom
NOW IS ALL WE REALLY HAVE
WE ARE THE ULTIMATE ENIGMA
LIFE WISDOM: Emotional Intelligence – Understanding – Life Focus
WISDOM TO GUIDE US AND ENSURE BALANCE
MANKIND’S EVOLUTION
OVERVIEW
BEING SUCCESSFUL
TAKING OURSELVES LIGHTLY
REVIEW
Chapter 3 BACKGROUND
IT AND MANAGEMENT CONSULTING
RELATIONSHIPS WERE THE PRIMARY FOCUS
TOTAL TEAM INVOLVEMENT
RELATIONSHIP DISHARMONY
GOOD VERSUS EVIL – A MISCONCEPTION
PROBLEM GENERATORS
NOT JUST FOR THE WORKPLACE
‘MENTORment’ NOT MANAGEMENT
BECOMING TEAM PLAYERS & VALUED EMPLOYEES
MY WAKE-UP CALL
REVIEW
Chapter 4 THIS GUIDE
YOUR CONTRIBUTION
BE DISCERNING
KEEP IT SIMPLE
AM I TOO YOUNG OR TOO OLD?
FOCUS ON POSITIVE INTENT
HAVING A GO
IT’S ABOUT YOU
REVIEW
Chapter 5 SELF-EVIDENT LEARNING
FORMAL EDUCATION
HOW THE SELF-EVIDENT LEARNING SYSTEM EVOLVED.
NO LIFE SKILL TRAINING
FORCED INTO CHOOSING A CAREER
MENTORS, MENTORS AND MORE MENTORS
MANKIND’S PROGRESS
HOW WE CAN PROGRESS
THE WHEEL OF LIFE
REVIEW
EDUCATION by MENTORS
Chapter 6 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS
HOW WE PERCEIVE AND REACT TO AN EVENT IN OUR LIVES
CHANGING HOW WE REACT
‘MIND-EGO-BODY’ RELATIONSHIP
HOW WE HANDLE PERCEIVED THREATS
‘MIND–INTUITION’ RELATIONSHIP
‘MIND–EGO-BODY’ AND ‘MIND-INTUITION’ WORKING IN HARMONY
INTUITION AND MEDITATION
MY MEDITATION
INVESTIGATING FURTHER
REVIEW
Chapter 7 EXPERIENCE
THOUGHT
INTENT AND ATTITUDE
FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS
DECISIONS
ACTIONS
REACTION
REACTIONS AND PERSONALITIES
REVIEW
Chapter 8 ATTITUDE / RESPECT / ENTHUSIASM
RESPECT
HANDLING DISRESPECT
BEING GROUCHY
ATTITUDE
OPEN-MINDEDNESS
ENTHUSIASM
REVIEW
Chapter 9 How and WHAT WE ARE
OUR BODIES
Healthy Food
Beware of Food Additives
Drinking Water
The Value of Mint
Seed Sprouts - regenerative food
Growing Fruit and Vegetables in Containers
Recommended Food Book
Summary
Nutrient deficiency in Local Soil
Feldenkrais
General Health
Reiki
Our Own Stem Cells
Living with Nature
OUR MINDS AND INTUITION
Survival is the Top Priority
‘Mind-Ego’
Past Patterns
Life Expansion
REVIEW
Chapter 10 WHO WE ARE
ARTIFICIAL ROLE MODELS
COMMUNITY OR PERSONAL FOCUS
WHY CONFLICT?
MENTORS AND INTUITION
GETTING TO KNOW WHO WE ARE
UNDERSTANDING HOW WE INTERACT
WHAT MOTIVATES US
WISDOM
ACCELERATING OUR UNDERSTANDING & SELF-WISDOM
IMPARTIAL OBSERVATION
ADDICTIONS
HOW WOULD I KNOW?
REVIEW
Chapter 11 OTHER KEY PERSONAL ATTRIBUTES
AWARENESS (CONSCIOUSNESS) AND APPRECIATION
Being v Doing
Our Potential
RECOGNITION
TAKING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
TRUTH and INTEGRITY
SELF RELIANCE AND SELF DISCIPLINE
BEING SELFISH
BALANCE, HARMONY, CONTENTMENT AND PERSONAL FREEDOM
REVIEW
Chapter 12 TWO OTHER CONSIDERATIONS
INTUITION v EGO
HANDLING EXPANSION OF OUR MINDS
REVIEW
Chapter 13 SEVEN CRITICAL TIMES IN OUR LIVES
CHILDHOOD
EMBRACING BELONGING AND DISCERNMENT
SEXUAL MATURITY
CHOOSING OUR CAREER
CHOOSING OUR LIFE PARTNER
BECOMING PARENTS
MID LIFE and similar CRISES
SUMMARY
Chapter 14 FOUR KEYS TO HAPPINESS
HOW IMPORTANT AM I?
WHY WE ARE HERE
ATTRACTION and DISCERNMENT
True & Sustainable PEACE & HAPPINESS
Chapter 15 SUMMARY of SELF-EVIDENT LEARNING
BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER
CSS Attributes Tool
Chapter 16 HARMONIOUS LIVING – Embracing It
THE STARTING POINT
DRIVING A CAR AND DRIVING OUR LIVES
ORANG-UTANS SHOW US THE WAY
A KEY FINDING
MANAGING CHANGE
WE NEED A VISION
FOCUS
MOVING FORWARD – HARMONY IS THE FOCUS
FOLLOW-ON BENEFIT
HELPING OTHERS
A VISION OF OUR FUTURE SELF
Chapter 17 HARMONIOUS LIVING – Doing It
DOING WHAT WORKS FOR YOU
SELF INSPIRATION BY MONITORING OUR PROGRESS
COMMITMENT
SELF-DISCIPLINE
KEEPING IT SIMPLE
DON’T DO IT ALONE
THE APPROACH I USED
THE BEST CHANCE OF SUCCESS
UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTANCE, COMMITMENT
VISUALISATION
THE IMPORTANT FACTORS
CURRENT MISUNDERSTANDINGS
IMPLEMENTATION - CRITICAL FACTORS
CONFIDENCE
DOING IT!!!
Step one
Step two
Step three
Step four
Step five
Step six
Step seven
Step eight
Step nine
REBUILDING FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
Chapter 18 WHAT ABOUT NOW
HARMONY AND POSITIVE INTENT AT ALL TIMES
FOCUS on EXPANDING my VIEW of LIFE & VIEW of the WORLD
TRUTH, TRUST and FAITH in MYSELF
OPEN-MINDEDNESS
LIVING FOR NOW and…
VISUALISATION – CREATING MIND PICTURES
PROTECTIVE SHELL
EQUALITY for ALL – SEEING the BEST in EVERYONE
SIGNPOSTS EIGHT to FIFTEEN
MY DAILY ROUTINE
PROFESSIONS RELIANT ON CRITICAL ANALYSIS
Chapter 19 WHAT ABOUT OUR WORKING LIVES?
Chapter 20 BEING SUCCESSFUL
FREMANTLE FOOTBALL CLUB
SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
Chapter 21 HARMONIOUS LIVING
The END RESULT
Chapter 22 BEING a WORLD CITIZEN
HOW CAN WE POSITIVELY IMPROVE OUR WORLD?
FOR THOSE of US with BUSINESS ACUMEN & DRIVE
Chapter 23 WHAT ABOUT GOD AND RELIGION
MY BAHA’I EXPERIENCE
Chapter 24 SUMMARY
APPENDIX I WISDOMS
THE TEN INDIAN COMMANDMENTS - revised
DESIDERATA
APPENDIX II SPECIFIC TOOLS TO CONSIDER
SWOT-CSF Analysis
CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS (CSF)
COMMUNICATION STYLE SYSTEM (CSS)
WORK MOTIVATION INVENTORY (WMI)
THE FAMILY VIRTUES GUIDE
DOWSING – TAPPING INTO OUR INTUITION.
APPENDIX III COMPLETING the QUESTIONNAIRE
EXAMPLE
APPENDIX IV ADDITIONAL SUMMARIES
SEVEN STEPS to leading a QUALITY LIFE
THREE OVERALL TYPES of COMMUNICATION
FIVE SIMPLE STEPS to MINIMISE CONFLICT
SIX KEY POINTS towards Positive CONSULTATION / Formal Discussion
APPENDIX V MEMOS (to us) from CHILDREN and Troubled ADULTS
APPENDIX VI Regular REMINDERS
Being a WORLD CITIZEN
The Power of JOY
The Value of EDUCATION
Our EVOLUTION
Guiding our YOUNG
APPENDIX VII Daily REVIEW - Positive Personal ATTRIBUTES
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS AND DEDICATIONS.
This guide is dedicated to the many wonderful mentors who have inspired my life with their wisdom, guidance and shared experiences. Your love educated this uninformed, rebellious child. You all contributed to what is contained in this guide. It allows me to pass on to others what you so generously gave to me.
After my father died when I was 11, Peter Couchman became my first true mentor (especially positive life values, equality, being yourself, open minded discussion and discernment) at a time I was confused and vulnerable. His wisdom and life example as a mere 17 year old school prefect led to his setting the standard for integrity in current affairs reporting in later life. This guide reflects his central influence on my life.
I wish to also make special mention of the many ‘diggers’ (returned Australian and New Zealand soldiers) who opened my mind to positive living when I was thirteen years of age. It is particularly appropriate that we recently honored the 100 year anniversary of the ANZAC Gallipoli landing – lest we forget
their kindness, wisdom and sacrifice.
My granddaughter Kahlira also turns twelve this year. She was born and remains a bundle of positivity with endless inquisitiveness and enthusiasm for life.
This guide was initially written to give her something meaningful throughout her life. Suggestions about making it available to everyone through the internet have made it a longer, more complete task but it remains focused on guiding my grandchildren.
I wish to thank my direct and extended family for their support through the tough times, especially my greatest friend and wife Kathy whose love and understanding has enabled me to focus on becoming the person I wanted to be.
To my constant and loyal companion Karma and all my other animal and bird friends who inspire me every day - may people everywhere learn to treasure the gift you give us by just being in our lives.
Finally, to people everywhere who are taking responsibility for, and positively impacting their own lives and the world generally, may all your aspirations be rewarded with confidence to keep expanding your lives and happiness at all times no matter the circumstances.
The included photos show my favourite meditation spots on our property.
February, 2017
chapter2.jpgCHAPTER 1
INTRODUCTION
Living on a rural property, I wake up to the sound of kookaburras announcing the sunrise and then the magpies serenading me with their wonderful chortle.
This is a great way to start each day feeling on top of the world
.
At other times life interferes with an unpleasant experience that causes an attendant feeling of negativity. We then start to feel under the circumstances
.
My working life was about working with organisations to overcome their Under the Circumstances
and get back On Top of the World
. Given that organisations are really only their personnel; this was then really about getting the individuals working as an effective team – working in harmony.
Then when I contracted chronic fatigue syndrome which laid me low for several years, I had to expand what I’d learned to my own situation and rebuild my life.
So this guide is what (with the help of many mentors, friends, colleagues, client staff, family and doctors) I learned, applied and improved over many years.
Everything written has been experienced, lived and proven to be self-evidently beneficial to my life, and reflects what and who I have been as well as who I am now. However, they are my perceptions - to be balanced against your own.
I believe it is entirely practical and can be of assistance to anyone with an open mind. It’s about getting understanding of important life education and skills (that are rarely taught) so we can live more of our lives On Top of the World
instead of Under the Circumstances
.
It does not require any faith or previous education on our part. Merely read what is written intuitively and take on board that which has personal applicability.
However, it contains facts that address the most personal subject we know (ourselves) and therefore there will be some issues we feel uncomfortable with. These feelings are positive questions our minds are asking for clarification on - so continue reading on and be discerning about all questions raised. But we need to firstly put aside our egos or this guide will cause upset, not provide another positive view of how to make the most of our lives.
At the end of appropriate chapters, I added a ‘Review’ section. This is an extra for those who wish to make the most of this opportunity – to hopefully assist in their understanding, acceptance and making use of the information in that chapter.
SELF-EVIDENT LEARNING and HARMONIOUS LIVING - Explanation
If there was only one thing in our society I could change, it would be our education system. We spend the 12+ most receptive years of our life being mostly taught subjects that will have little effect on our lives, while learning little about life, what and who we are, and how to gain practical wisdom so we can make ever evolving choices in becoming a positive, happy person - being the best we can be - understanding the limitless opportunities available to us.
This is what self-evident learning is about – being discerning and intuitive in gaining knowledge that gives us our best chance to be the best we can be.
We can then understand how and why we would strive to live harmoniously with everyone, especially ourselves.
This guide explains how vital both of these heading points are - how we can practically and realistically overcome our lack of life education, especially the importance of understanding and fully embracing our intuition.
This book is a LIFE EDUCATION guide focused on each of the following:
• Learning to understand HOW & WHAT WE ARE and how to maintain excellent overall HEALTH.
• Learning to understand and accept WHO WE ARE NOW and our incredible POTENTIAL FUTURE by fully utilising our INTUITION and the wisdom we have learned through our life.
• Understanding and Optimising our Personal ATTRIBUTES, especially ATTITUDE; TRUTH and DISCERNMENT; EQUALITY; RESPECT; UNITY; BALANCE; HARMONY.
• Recognising and Utilising Life’s OPPORTUNITIES.
• Embracing quality RELATIONSHIPS throughout our life.
• Being SUCCESSFUL - making a positive CONTRIBUTION and gaining increased WISDOM every day of our lives.
• Being TRUSTED and LOVED by our family and friends.
• Being a wonderful FAMILY, COMMUNITY and WORLD Citizen.
The OBJECTIVE
PROVIDING KNOWLEDGE that is:
• Proven and meaningful to the reader so they can easily comprehend how it can positively expand their lives
• Presented in a manner that allows them free will to use as they see fit, being mentored not lectured to.
LEADING US TOWARDS BEING THE BEST WE CAN REALISTICALLY BE EACH DAY OF OUR LIVES.
We will then have a wonderful life - respected for being the best we can be - focused on equality, unity and justice.
PERSONAL NOTE
This guide has been proof read by many people from many backgrounds, age ranges and professions. The feedback was largely included in this final document but several points were raised that I feel need responding to.
• How I used ‘you’ and ‘we’ throughout this guide. Because I have travelled this journey myself, I refer to ‘we’ (you and I) mostly because I feel it is our journey together. But when I have something specific for you personally, I then use ‘you’.
• Humility. I was quite concerned when this was raised because I feel one can’t be happy without humility. However, as a consultant I learned that truth must be faced and understood if we are to evolve in life – whether in our jobs or as people. It is therefore a balance between being sensitive to people’s reactions to new information, and stating the facts that need to be understood. I avoid telling anyone what to do – I try to explain in a way that leads to self-evident understanding. The other consideration is that we all respond to writing that is written from the heart, not sanitised information trying to please everyone.
• My ‘judgements’ and ‘harsh criticisms’. I have spent a lot of time reviewing this and would make the following observations. I don’t believe I make judgements because I am in no position to do so. Neither do I set out to criticise because