The Empowerment Transplant: How to Reclaim Your Life as a Victim of Workplace Bullying

By Sandra Walden Pearson

Victims of workplace bullying may feel theyve lost control both of their professional future, their emotions, and their behavior on a day-to-day basis. They want to get their lives back but often dont know where to start. theempowerment transplant offers a way to do just that.

This DIY handbook acts as both a source of comfort and a practical, easy way for victims of bullying to reclaim their lives after their self-determination and empowerment have become the first casualties in their workplace war. This guide outlines the process of mindful proactivity, which can help derail the instinctual fightor-flight reaction that most of us feel when threatened. Using a structured depersonalising strategy, you can emerge stronger from the past experience of bullying and intimidation and be better prepared to prevent its impact into the future. You can also gain self-aware leadership in your own life and change your life for the better, permanently.

This self-help guide helps victims of workplace bullying transplant their learned empowerment into situations of perceived threat, reclaiming their self-determination and personal strength.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press AU
• Release date: Feb 15, 2016
• ISBN: 9781504300872

Sandra Walden Pearson

Sandra Walden Pearson is a researcher, writer, educator and lifelong learner, who specialises in developing self-help resources designed to help humanity realise an inclusive world through education. Her distinctive blend of theory, practise, and humour ensures learning is practical, easy, and fun. She is based in Sydney, Australia, and travels at every opportunity.

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the

empowerment

transplant™

How to Reclaim Your Life as a Victim of Workplace Bullying

DIY instructions included

SANDRA WALDEN PEARSON

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ISBN: 978-1-5043-0086-5 (sc)

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Balboa Press rev. date: 02/04/2016

Contents

Foreword

Acknowledgements

PART ONE

Preparing to Reclaim Your Life as a Victim of Workplace Bullying

Introduction

1. Identifying key factors that contribute to workplace bullying

2. Exploring the empowerment transplant™ DIY instructions included

3. Understanding The Balanced View™

4. Changing our minds to change our brains

5. Getting real about compassion

6. Taking inspiration from Buddhism

PART TWO

Reclaiming Your Life as a Victim of Workplace Bullying

1. Exploring our internal and external world relationship

2. Following the empowerment transplant™ DIY instructions included

3. Developing The Balanced View™

4. Growing Your Self-Determination

5. Cultivating Your Empowerment

6. Transplanting Your Learned Empowerment

Endnotes

About the Author

dedicated to

the best parents

and

my greatest teachers

Molly and Bert Willcocks

in my heart and mind

If you want others to be happy, practise compassion.

If you want to be happy, practise compassion.

HH the 14th Dalai Lama

Foreword

Long thought of as limited to the schoolyard, bullying behavior is now found in business and industry settings at increasing rates. Many who self-identify as victims of bullying in these settings: as victims of workplace bullying, feel intimidated, disempowered and alone. It takes emotional as well as practical skill to engage effectively with the situation. It takes skill to approach the issue informally, in an attempt to maintain relationships or to remain self-determined and empowered after following organisational policy, perhaps to no avail. The experience of workplace bullying places self-identifying victims at risk of economic hardship, social isolation and negative psychological wellbeing. It is little wonder it can lead to underperformance at work. And when underperformance symptoms are mistaken for cause, job loss becomes a real risk.

The majority of victims of workplace bullying do leave their job – either because they are performance managed out or they choose to resign and exit, themselves. However, exiting terminates employment. It does not terminate the effects of workplace bullying on arrested career development and personal wellbeing - unless addressed in full.

In this book, the author explores the phenomenon of workplace bullying and provides information that complements that found in relevant organisational documents. Self-identifying victims are provided with a much-needed basis for understanding both the general and uniquely individual victim experience; and the easy-to-follow self-coaching system to reclaim their lives – no matter how recent or past the workplace bullying. This book demonstrates that it is never too late to learn the emotional and practical skills for self-determination and empowerment. It shows the way for victims to redress the past, if that is when it occurred; or to use this self-coaching system as a strategic intervention, if it is happening in the present. Simultaneously, this book demonstrates it is never too early to learn self-determination and empowerment skills for strategic prevention. These skills constitute both the capability development important for self-identifying victims and important for everyone to live a self-determined and empowered life.

the empowerment transplant™ DIY instructions included. provides the know how for a life more readily synonymous with positive economic, social and psychological wellbeing.

In reclaiming your life as a victim of workplace bullying, you can truly reclaim your life.

Richard Knowdell, MS, NCC, NCCC, CM Fellow, CDFI, NCDA Fellow

Author of Building a Career Development Program

Acknowledgements

This book has been three years in the making. However, it began long before. In 1998-1999, I created BESTMe®: self-help training to become our own best friend. It enjoyed success in secondary education and women-in-business sectors. It was a forerunner of what is today termed self-awareness leadership. It was the genesis of the empowerment transplant™ DIY instructions included: a series of products and services based on self-coaching for self-determination and empowerment.

Gandhi was once asked about the behaviour of people. He replied that it was not the behaviour of people but the behaviour of Mohandas K. Gandhi that was his challenge. This reply resonated with me because I, too, was challenged by my own behaviour. It inspired my quest to count myself as one of my best friends – not as my own worst enemy. This quest is my source of priceless return on investment (ROI). Now, even a rare incidence of behaving other than my own best friend idiosyncratically reinforces reasons to continue to invest.

I continue to learn, too, that I am not alone: each one of us has feet of clay. Most of us could do with a little training to help us more often experience being our own best friend. It is not enough to make a better decision, in the moment, than we might have done. That’s not to discount the joy of waking up with no regrets –