Caring for Caring: An Enriching, Kindhearted, Ethical Journey with Our Elders
By Jane Edwards
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No one wants to relegate our wisdom-rich elders to the demeaning borders of our society. Still, the idea of caring for our elders in their own homes can sometimes become overwhelming, especially without proper guidance from those who have been there. In a thoughtful guidebook tailored for just this purpose, seasoned caregiver Jane Edwards offers philosophical reflections, poignant stories, and practical advice that will help anyone respect, empower, and treat elders as complete beings with the right to live their lives as independently as possible.
Edwards, who possesses forty-five years of experience in caring for elders, shares wisdom accompanied by touching real-life stories that support her desire to ensure that those who wish to can remain in their homes in their later years. Through concise advice presented from the perspective of an outside caregiver, Edwards provides gentle guidance regarding many delicate topics that include navigating family dynamics, creating end-of-life plans, and meeting emotional and spiritual needs. Included is a list of family resources followed by a compilation of real-life stories that provide a glimpse into the challenges, joys, and fun that accompany caring for an elder.
Caring for Caring shares advice, stories, and reflections from a caregiver who has made it her lifes mission to help elders remain as independentand cherishedas possible.
Jane Edwards
Jane Edwards has lovingly cared for elders for forty-five years and founded a home health care agency more than twenty years ago. She lives with her dog, Miss Pippi Longstocking, a rescued bichon frise, in a tiny converted barn in the heart of Rockport, Massachusetts. Caring for Caring is her first nonfiction book. I’m ninety-four and live alone but I have left strict instructions that should I ever need assistance no one can be called to help me unless they have read this small gem from cover to cover. – Suzanne Seller
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Caring for Caring - Jane Edwards
CARING
for Caring
An Enriching, Kindhearted, Ethical Journey with Our Elders
Jane Edwards
29141.pngCARING for Caring
An Enriching, Kindhearted, Ethical Journey with Our Elders
Copyright © 2016 Jane Edwards.
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iUniverse rev. date: 7/14/2016
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part 1: Reflections
1. Family Dynamics
2. Perspective
3. Preserving Wisdom
4. Priceless Pearls
5. Planning Last Moments
6. Two Steps beyond the Physical
7. Establishing Trust
8. Joyful Moments
9. Elder Sight Line
10. A Different Kind of Exile
11. Holding On to the Webbing
12. Confinement with Honor
13. A Dream for Today
14. Adaptable Caring
15. Tweaking Nutrition
16. From Hopelessness to Hope
Part 2: Journey Stories
1. In the Beginning
2. The Power of Music
3. The Power of Stories
4. The Power of Laughter
5. The Power of Poetry
6. The Power of Simplicity
7. A Promise between Friends
8. Transitions
9. The Power of Organization
10. The Power of Puppies
11. A Selfless Man
12. The Power of Gratitude
13. The Power of Creation
14. The Power of Preparation
15. The Power of Friendship
16. Agreeing to Disagree
17. Bunnies in Autumn
18. The Power of Choices
19. Bunny’s Closet
20. The Power of Prayer
21. The Power of Patience
22. The Power of Acceptance
23. The Power of Seeds
24. A Happy Ending
25. The Power of Memory
26. A Strong Sense of Humor
27. A Light in the Darkness
28. A Small Loaf of Bread
29. The Power of Laughter
30. The Third Pair of Boots
31. Church Flowers
32. In through the Back Door
33. Over Yonder
34. Always There
35. In the Kitchen
36. The Best Approach
37. Calling the Shots
38. A Close-Knit Life
39. The Blessings of a June Fall
40. The Language of Friendship
41. Through the Walls of Memory
42. The Power of Fun
43. Carry On
44. Pleasant Surprises
45. Visits from Angels
46. Like It Is
47. Granting Wishes
Final Note
Author Biography
For my grandchildren, Tatum, Micah, and Isaac,
who encouraged me and laughed with me.
dedicationpage.jpgDrawing by Tatum, age nine
For my dear friend Margaret Lockwood, who inspires me in all ways.
Acknowledgments
AcknowledgmentspageZentanglebyIsaac.jpgZen tangle by Isaac, age nine
Thanks to those people who have helped and encouraged me along the way. It is a privilege to hold you in my heart.
To Suzanne Seller, who lifted me up and enabled me to finish this work.
To Dianne Souvaine, who has always encouraged me.
Thanks to my friend Linda Hoey, who started doing the rough drafts eons ago via e-mail. Linda encouraged me and gave me a sense that I really did have something important to say.
My kudos and thanks to my coworkers, who are too many to name. You gave your loyalty to push respectful care forward. You helped to grow Caring for Caring by your insistence on walking the kindest path with our elders.
To the elders whose stories are told here posthumously, thank you for being the greatest people on earth; you are now saints in heaven.
Thank you to my dear, dear family, who helped me and pushed me forward with note cards and words of encouragement: Alex, Micah, Tatum, Isaac, Eve, and Arnold.
To everyone who enquired about my progress over many years, thank you.
I also extend my gratitude to all my readers, from those who hold this book in their hands now to those who helped proofread the many drafts of the work.
I send gratitude to my pastor, Anne Deneen, whose graciousness and holy walk inspire me.
Gratitude also goes to Claire MacMaster, who guided me to Renee Nicholls, my copyeditor and collaborator, who then worked her magic and saw that this book was more than I could have made it alone. Thank you, dear Renee.
Special gratitude to Claire MacMaster, who saved the project in the end phase with her knowledge and many talents, not to mention her friendship.
My dream group has helped me blossom. Thank you, Joan, Jan, Peggy, Bev, Linda, Helen, and Liz.
Lastly, I send my gratitude and praise to God, who blessed this effort.
Introduction
It was always about the elders—my life, that is.
I grew up in a large farmhouse that housed my immediate family of four, two grandmothers, and oftentimes a great-aunt. I have no idea how my mother managed, but she did a masterful job of overseeing a small farm with my dad, working full-time as a registered nurse, and supervising our diverse family, which often included two young cousins.
This complex lifestyle raised in me a rich respect for my elders, which has carried me along from early childhood through adulthood. I was taught to honor my elders and to accommodate their needs cheerfully, regardless of what I thought about any requests. As a result, I find myself able to this day to respect and love our elders for who they are without needing to have an agenda of improvement.
I hope that this book will raise in you a new