Lyah! Lyah! Pants on Fyah!: The Stories, the Lies, and Steps to Sacred Healing for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Lou Bishop
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Survivors of childhood sexual abuse are often unaware of the psychological baggage they carry that manifests in their lives. Some indicators include: the inability to maintain long-term relationships or consistently choosing inappropriate partners. This book speaks to sinister secrets harbored by survivors of childhood sexual abuse. These secrets impact the lives of their loved ones, children, significant others, and their friends.
Read excerpts from the diaries of women who have survived childhood sexual abuse. Explore the lies that many survivors of childhood sexual abuse subscribe to and learn about the steps to sacred healing. Written by life coach Lou Bishop, who is a sexual abuse survivor, this is a must read for abuse survivors and for anyone who loves someone who has survived these heinous acts. Its time to have honest conversations about this subject in order to break the cycle of abuse.
Lou Bishop
Lou Bishop is a New York based motivational speaker who has touched the lives of numerous women. Having been impacted deeply by the soul murder of childhood sexual abuse, Lou encourages spiritual healing and restoration through the power of the Holy Spirit, prayer, and strong community for healing soul wounds. She is dedicated to supporting women and men in thriving in spite of past trauma. Join the movement on Facebook at www.facebook.com/listendaddylisten.
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Lyah! Lyah! Pants on Fyah! - Lou Bishop
LYAH! LYAH!
PANTS ON FYAH!
The Stories, the Lies, and Steps to
Sacred Healing for Adult Survivors of Childhood
Sexual Abuse
Lou Bishop
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ISBN: 978-1-5043-4108-0 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-5043-4110-3 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-5043-4109-7 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2015915913
Balboa Press rev. date: 11/10/2015
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Who This Book Is For
Preface
Who I Am
Hurting People Hurt People
The Reality of Statistics
What Is Child Sexual Abuse?
Types of Abuse
Your Life Is Whispering to You
People Pleasing; Lack of Boundaries and the Rescuer Syndrome
Unhealthy Choices in Partners
Low-grade Depression
Relationship Remix
How Desperate Are You?
The Diaries
The Counting Game
Kidnapped and Brainwashed
Just Three Words
Left for Dead
Trapped
The Call Girl
The Family that Prays Preys on their Own
Mother Dearest
What If?
I Thought You Loved Me
I Am A Mother
The Black Hat
Spiritual Healing
This is my Story, this is not my Life!
Steps to Sacred Healing
Before We Begin
Self-Esteem
Codependency
Toxic Shame
Leave Your B.S. at the Door
You are Not Your Story
So What’s Your Story?
Surrender
The Power of Love and a Supportive Network
Prayer and Meditation
Ten Lies that Imprison You
Lie I I Am Not Good Enough
Lie II I Am Powerless – Nothing Will Change
Lie III It was My Fault; I Am Bad
Lie IV I Have to Earn Love and Acceptance
Lie V I Have to be Perfect
Lie VI Being by Myself Means that I Will be Lonely
Lie VII I Need Someone Else to Complete Me
Lie VIII When I Get ________________, I’ll Be Happy
Lie IX I Need to be Nice Rather than Authentic
Lie X I Am Cursed and Damaged
The Key to Sacred Healing is Forgiveness
Forgive Them – They Had No Idea
A Few Things About Forgiveness
The problem
The solution lies within the problem. The solution is forgiveness.
Acknowledge Your ‘Isness.’
What Is Acknowledgment
Seek Spiritual Counseling
Create a Family Tree (Genogram)
Avoid premature confrontation.
Identify your feelings non-judgmentally.
Avoid making excuses for the perpetrator.
Trust the recovery process.
Affirm the new you.
Make a Daily Investment in Your Growth.
Forgive yourself.
Cultivate Perpetual Gratitude.
Create a Power Playlist.
Reward Yourself. Celebrate Life.
Diet and Exercise.
Set Boundaries.
Renewal and the Transformed Mind.
My Forgiveness Letter
Conclusion
Five Things Never to Tell a Sexual Abuse Survivor
Everything happens for a reason.
That happened a long time ago.
I understand how you feel but …
Everything is going to be all right.
Just Stop Thinking About It.
30 Empowering Affirmations
Our families provide the foundation for our identities by modeling a blueprint which can impact our destiny for better or for worst. A dysfunctional family cannot help but impart a dysfunctional foundation. The offspring in such a family are not afforded the healthy, proverbial wings necessary to soar. The good news is that with knowledge, the right tools and the courage to follow though we can become empowered to change our destiny.
John Bradshaw, The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
This book is for you. This book is for your daughter. This book is for your sister. This book is for your niece. This book is for your girlfriend. This book is for your wife. This book is for your mother and your grandmother. This book is for the survivor of childhood sexual abuse and/or anyone who loves them.
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If you have survived childhood sexual abuse, the following symptoms may ring true for you:
You may have a parent who has been diagnosed as depressed or bipolar;
You blame your parents for your failures;
You over-try yet still encounter repeated and consistent failure or simply stop trying altogether;
You live life on the sidelines;
You are unable to connect emotionally;
You are paralyzed with fear of a God whom you pray to desperately yet cannot summon the courage to follow through with any action;
You are all about ‘faith’ but no ‘works’;
You would rather run into oncoming traffic than fall in love yet (secretly) desire love and true intimacy; or
You find that everything seems to be falling apart in your life particularly when it comes to relationships, due to memories of incest.
PREFACE
Statistics show that one in three women have been impacted by incest. Despite appearing to be successful, my soul was broken and my heart was