My Dragonfly: And the Lessons He Taught Me

By Kathy Zengolewicz

Family, relationships, loss, and grief

Dealing with changes throughout life in our own way, through faith and spirituality

When you lose a child, the world stands still. The birds no longer sing, the sun no longer shines. You feel as though you are alone, even in a room full of people. Grief is a terrible five-letter word. It s easier to climb a mountain than to get past grief unscathed. Kathy deals with the grief and with the loss that was the cause of the grief. She has learned to live with the grief but under her terms. It is her passionate hope this book can shed some light on the ways that you can conquer grief, kick it to the curb, and create a new life filled with love, peace, and joy.

Kathy and her husband have been married since 1970. They have raised five children: a police officer, a fireman, a master plumber, and an accountant. One son is in spirit. They have five grandchildren and one great-grandson.

My Dragonfly

My Dragonfly represents the son they lost to drug addiction in September of 2012. Kathy has written My Dragonfly to help others who have lost children, to let them know that their life matters, and to help them find the healing they need to feel whole again. If this book helps just one person or one mother who has lost a child, then it was well worth writing.

Learning to live a conscious life has helped Kathy to move toward her goals of manifesting her true life path and helping others who may be searching for meaning in their lives.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Mar 6, 2015
• ISBN: 9781504328746

Kathy Zengolewicz

When you lose a child, the world stands still. The birds no longer sing, the sun no longer shines. You feel as though you are alone, even in a room full of people. Grief is a terrible five-letter word. It’s easier to climb a mountain than to get past grief unscathed. Kathy deals with the grief and with the loss that was the cause of the grief. She has learned to live with the grief but under her terms. It is her passionate hope this book can shed some light on the ways that you can conquer grief, kick it to the curb, and create a new life filled with love, peace, and joy. Kathy and her husband have been married for forty-five years. They have raised five children: a police officer, a fireman, a master plumber, and an accountant. One son is in spirit. They have five grandchildren and one great-grandson. My Dragonfly represents the son Kathy lost to drug addiction and what his visits in spirit have taught her. He passed away in September 2012. Kathy lives in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, but no matter where you live today, it seems like drugs are readily available to anyone. Kathy grieved for over a year and doesn’t remember anything about that year. She knows that grief can play havoc in anyone’s life. We never get over the grief. We learn to live with the experiences, and what those experiences teach us. Learning to live a conscious life has helped Kathy to move toward her goal of manifesting her true life’s path and helping others who may be searching for meaning in their lives. Each morning when she awakes, she is grateful for another beautiful day. Kathy makes time every day for prayer and meditation; they work wonders. She lives and teaches conscious living through the laws of attraction.

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Balboa Press rev. date: 03/06/2015

Contents

Preface

Changes

Friends and Family

Grief, A Nasty 5 Letter Word

Prayer and Meditation

Strange Happenings

Faith and Healing

Seeking My Future

The Universal Laws

Soul Searching

Finding and Following My Path

About the Author

This book is dedicated to

Walter L. Zengolewicz, My Dragonfly,

For being one of the brightest lights in my life and for teaching me about love and loss.

Through your memory, I have the courage to explore all things Earthly and beyond.

Always in my heart.

Be Happy, Walt!

Preface

IF YOU HAVE EVER LOST a child, whether it was an infant, toddler, teen, grown man/woman, you will understand the things I write about in this book. The pain, and shock in some cases, is rooted deeply inside your being. It is a pain so severe that it eats a hole in your heart. I have been dealt this hand of sorrow and grief and it took me a long time to be able to look inside of myself and find what was needed to help me to go on living. Was I going to be bitter, or better? There was only one choice for me and that is better. I am writing this book with hope that it will help another mother, father, sibling, friend or family member see their way through the stages of grief, and they are powerful stages, and be able to live again. The loss doesn’t go away, but if we want to survive, we must find a way to live with the loss and get through the grief in our daily life. I can say that the grief gets easier as the days go by and there is a way for you to get past it. For me, Prayer was the answer. I was always someone who prayed, not for anything specific, just for the fact that someone, somewhere might need a prayer. I never knew how powerful prayer could be, but I can tell you without any exaggeration, it saved my life. Starting a practice of meditation is another healing method. I do both each and every day and I have seen miracles happen because of these practices. Discovering the Laws of Attraction has helped me to train myself to look at everything through eyes that are filled with love. It took me a long time to get here, it was a bumpy ride, but it was well worth it. I am happier today than I have been in a long time. Writing this book is one of the hardest things I have ever done, especially since the majority of the writing is being done through my tears.

This is the journey that I was destined to make and I hope it helps someone to see the light at the end of their tunnel.

Blessings, Light and Love

Kathleen Zengolewicz

Changes

CHANGE, IT ISN’T SOMETHING THAT happens once in a while, when things start to go stale. No, change happens every day to everyone. Without change, the world and everything/everyone in it would be at a stand still, stagnant. Throughout my entire life, change always seems to have happened for me in slow motion, or maybe I was just too busy to notice when the changes did occur, maybe it seemed insignificant. Change is something that we all live with everyday. I can look back now and notice the very big changes that happened in my life, my wedding, and the birth of my children, grand children and my great grandchild. I’m sure you’ll agree they are huge occasions. Even though they are enormous changes, they are very normal and natural, more like a growth pattern to me.

The changes that have occurred to me in the last eight to ten years have been very powerful. Their very influence has taught me life lessons that I never before considered. I used to look at change as being good or bad, now I look at it as a natural part of life, a learning experience.

Let me start at the beginning. I have always been a very spiritual person, but it wasn’t until I retired, at an early age due to a disability, that I started to pursue my spirituality.

I was constantly wondering why I was here on Earth and what was my purpose? When I was very young I wanted to be a teacher, but that seemed to be a profession that wouldn’t happen for years and years. My first and foremost desire was to be a wife and mother with lots and lots of family around me. When I was a kid I never felt like I belonged anywhere, even though I had a very big family. I guess you could say that I had a good childhood, I really don’t know