Design the Life You Want

By Anna Corry

This book teaches a philosophy of change, a revision of life, and a paradigm shift in thinking.

It encapsulates the essence of amendment, providing a baseline of adjustment to thinking.

It stirs analysis of thinking and reeducates on the effectual influence of thought. It teaches the science of thought and its phenomenal effects.

It teaches facile strategies to goal setting and a realization of your lifes design. It will clearly cause the reader to design the life they want.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris AU
• Release date: Jan 30, 2017
• ISBN: 9781524520861

Anna Corry

Anna Corry is an educator, she has lectured at several universities and mentored a variety of students. She has a masters of education and numerous post graduate courses in education. Anna also is a trainer and master practitioner in neuro-linguistics. Her extensive research, work experience with students and life experiences inspired this book.

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INTROSPECTION

Accepting ourselves is the defence to self-comprehension and self-elevation. This gives us the capacity to be informed of ourselves, our character traits, virtues and vices, and the capacity to remove denial, prevent projection, and thus make positive changes. This subsidises us with the motivation and assistance to want positive change. People who do not accept their faults have little self-love and hence little capacity to love another and make positive changes.

This can direct a habit of projecting blame, criticism and even hatred towards others if their own faults are evident in others. This robs the individual of peace and serenity, and makes it difficult for them to relate to others.

The first exercise is to examine oneself on a daily basis, or when negative emotions occur to see what really is subsequent to the feeling and what lessons can be extracted from these emotions.

This will reveal some of our faults, which we can—instead of denying—release, accept, acknowledge and move towards change.

This can cause a paradigm shift towards humility, which is an attractive virtue, which reveals emotional maturity. This requires a frequent and lifetime of practice that achieves a lot of small resolutions that can generate daily achievements and motivation to change.

Self-love is self-acceptance and self-care, and nurturing of oneself. This eliminates any need to destroy oneself through harsh self-criticism, spiritual deprivation, or bodily harms through addictions or harmful habits. Thus it can lead to more positive health outcomes, positive self-talk and spiritual connectedness and following natural law.

Whenever a situation, person or event occurs that evokes negative emotions, the person needs to name the negative emotion; for example, anger or sadness. The person needs to admit to self or another person that they feel angry and this naming of the emotion assists in accepting it, processing it, and perhaps extracting learnings from it and letting it go, leading to greater emotional maturity, rather than repressed emotions that can reoccur.

Most people have a habit of fighting their feelings or supressing them, rather than facing them, which removes them.

Upbringing has a tremendous impact on our personality types and traits. No matter how profoundly good or perversely destructive children were raised, they will always have some healing required; this is where there may have been moments of feeling rejected, abandoned or alone, oftentimes through no fault or intention of the parent. Other traumas as a death of a parent, relocation, major changes or anything significant to that child causing trauma can lead to adverse effects as a low self-esteem, feeling unloved and unimportant; or not deserving of happiness, or any other complex blocks to our peace.

This can manifest in many areas of life, which can lead to a life-long struggle of forever trying to prove to others that they are worthy and important, which ultimately deprives the individual of a sense of security, serenity and peace. This can express itself in the form of anxiety or depression, or a life-long search for happiness. It can also manifest itself in activities, material goods or achievements for the sake of proof rather than the happiness of achieving.

A key point here is to examine one’s state occasionally, and detect whether we are happy, content, and enjoying life most of the time.

If we are working excessively or suffer from procrastination, or are constantly trying to prove ourselves, or need the constant approval of others, then we should require urgency towards healing.

An effective and efficient way is to find a trusted person, and develop an inventory of events that the subconscious may be storing that are negative emotions. These events can be painful, but will resurface if we allow them; we need to feel the pain experienced by them in order to resolve and process them.

This process can be done with a trusted friend or therapist, but has a tremendous healing process for the mind.

Sometimes when negative emotions are felt in the present, our reaction to them can be intense or severe, due to unresolved past analogous emotions that were suppressed and when they do resurface, we try to further repress them by excessive activities or creating dramas, or establishing addictions.

All on the behalf of the fact that we have limits in our capacity to cope with the pain of experiencing negative feelings, some people feel—and are convinced—that these feelings will strangle them. We need to release, stir and encourage the feelings—and not annihilate or silence them. This action may initially cause pain, but always releases the antagonistic emotion.

Contrary to what one may perceive, the pain is not nearly as intense as one may have thought.

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