Every Body Is Talking: Building Communication Through Emotional Intelligence and Body Language Reading

By L. Annette Drain, PhD

This book embarks on a journey of personal development through building the skills of emotional intelligence and body language reading for effective communication and trusting relationships. Mastering communication through reading emotions and behaviors to manage relationships and situations increases awareness and knowledge of how people view and are viewed by others.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Apr 23, 2016
• ISBN: 9781524602611

L. Annette Drain, PhD

Dr. Latrice Annette Drain, affectionately known by her clients as Dr. L., is an international psychologist and licensed clinical therapist. She is also a psychology professor and has taught on emotional intelligence in leadership. As the owner of L3 Group LLC and a psychobehavioral analyst, she works with clients in varying capacities, including mental health counseling, body language and emotional intelligence coaching, professional writing, and consulting to business owners and organizations on growth and conflict resolution. Dr. L. greatly loves traveling, practices yoga, and challenges herself by experiencing new adventures.

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Published by AuthorHouse 04/23/2016

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Figure 6. Leaning body language. Photo credit: © http://www.123rf.com/profile_ljupco’>ljupco / 123RF Stock Photo

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Figure 17. Universal happy micro expression. Photo Credit: © http://www.123rf.com/profile_tan4ikk’>tan4ikk / 123RF Stock Photo

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Figure 25. Bodily maps of emotions. Adapted from L. Nummenmaaa, E. Glereana, R. Harib, and J. K. Hietanend (2013). Department of Biomedical Engineering and Computational Science and Brain Research Unit, O. V. Lounasmaa Laboratory, School of Science, Aalto University.

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Contents

Introduction

What is EI and Why is it Important?

Psychology and Emotions

Fun Facts

Myth-busting Emotional Intelligence

Body Language Reading

What Body Language Reading is Not

Two Become One: Tenets of Emotional Intelligent Body Language Reading

Reading the Body to Detect Truth vs. Deception

Baseline

Yield to Warning Signs

Cluster the Warning Signs

Making Faces: Micro Expressions

Addressing Micro Expressions

Reading is Fundamental

Body Talk

Body Language, Emotional Intelligence, and the Brain

Train the Brain

Hormonal Influences

Do Not Enter: The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence and Body Language Reading Skills

Continue the Communication

References

Glossary of Terms

Dedication

This book is dedicated to those who are interested in learning about themselves and others through emotional intelligence and body language reading to master relationship-management and develop effective communication skills.

Introduction

Communication, when done effectively, is a transactional process that involves listening and speaking. When speaking or hearing someone else speak, sometimes it is easy to become distracted or to forget to listen, and to show active listening, which is attending to the words and the accompanying emotions of the other person. Hearing someone speak is the auditory process of words and vibrations of the sound entering one’s ear, whereas listening to someone speak is the cognitive process of paying attention to such words to process their meaning. To listen actively and with the whole body is to not only pay close attention to that which is said, but also to that which is not said, the nonverbal communication, especially if preoccupied with thinking about one’s own next statement or point to make. Every body is talking. When interacting with others, their bodies are also communicating in their facial expressions, vocal tone and variation, body positions, and kinetics, or body movement. Thus, listening with the whole body also means to feel that which the other person is exuding and to take into context the environment or setting of the interaction. In this book, the power of communication in human contact is explored via emotional intelligence (EI) and body language (BL) reading.

Research on emotional intelligence and