Compassionate Communication

By Xlibris US

Find it diffi cult to relate to or even care about how other people feel? Th ey seem to
not care about the needs, concerns and feelings of others. Why should you? Th e
beauty of this philosophy is that compassion is universal. It is surface and it is
eff ective. In an overall sense, you can learn to deal with daily traffi c problems without
becoming emotionally involved or having a traffi c jam ruin your whole day.
As they say, we cant control others actions, what they do, or how they feel. Th ey also say
that nothing we individually do can change the world. But what you do can change your
world. Th ese methods and tactics can change your whole outlook on the whole worlds
situation. Individually, we can fi nd peace and make sense of the chaos by being still within
the center of our own universe. Finding, seeing and making the magic happen in your
own world and circles, starts with fi nding your own personal center. Personal center
skill sets are set up in easy to follow chapters in my second book Crusade to Center. Th is
book on Compassionate Communication is a prerequisite to fi nding your own personal
center. First you need to dislodge the myth that the world revolves around you. Once you
see that others are the center of their own universe, you can see how you are barely a blip
on their screen. Look around and see the world in a whole light. Its fun. Who knows?
You may be in need of a change. I call it tweaking. You dont have to change much. Just
tweak your outlook.
Compassionate Communication, Crusade to Center, and Authentic Self Search are all
theories on balancing life and career. Balance family and future. Find purpose and hope
in the rat race of life. Give everyday a meaningful purpose. Blindly following patterns
and habits defeats the purpose and ownership of freewill. Keep the mind free to focus
on the future and personal achievements by following simple skills and tasks that keep
us on Course.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Dec 12, 2014
• ISBN: 9781503518322

Book preview

Chapter 1

Staying Center

~Stay the course

It is funny how going center and staying centered and being centered and being self-centered opens our eyes to the world around us. As self-centered as self-centered people seem, their actions are based on the mere fact that others are watching—the idea that others do care and will judge. Being a perfectionist and having OCD tendencies is having a keen awareness that others are involved and others will notice, i.e. otherness is causing these germs!

Otherness is an empowering sense that we are not alone, even though we may be lonely. Otherness has an empowering sense of community. Recognizing the philosophy of otherness offers us a sense of community. The sense of otherness makes having community feel like a hug. We all need a hug sometimes. One reason why it hurts so much to reach out to others for a sense of approval, appreciation, kindness, or help and be rejected. Otherness has the power to cure loneliness. If connections are made, understanding is had and our sense of community is satisfied.

Staying centered is a good start to getting out of your head and into your heart; finding soul in your actions, giving actions purpose, and making room for spirit. Spirit that can inspire, remind, and instill gentleness and peace in a rushed world. Being centered helps in not feeling so alone, because one has oneself to dream with and be comforted by until community is found or possessed.

Room for emotions that are happy and healthy is given to moments of peace and quiet. Going within is a good beginning to being still and hearing the self speak on subjects like dreams and aspirations. Give reminders of childhood dreams. Mostly, though, going within to get in touch with and used to your personal soul evolution. Evolving into a better person and growing your spirit. Growing our spirit toward light and goodness, as most of us swim in a very big pool of negativity, displeasure, and disappointment.

Get out of the toxic waters and rinse yourself off with quiet. Dry off with stillness and meditation. Rest in an inner peace, and drown—drown in the love of Christ, self, spirit, soul purpose, and dreams, childhood or otherwise. Drown in the love you have for your children, your spouse, or a television show. Give yourself room to breathe. Breathe in the newness of fresh spirit. Breathe in the rest and repose you have worked hard today to achieve, and gear up to do it again tomorrow.

Love can be hard work. But then, we want to give purpose to our rat race, don’t we? When you leave the house and experience/approach others, you will be empowered by the fact that you have yours. And they have theirs. This is very empowering, and it helps to deal with the lady at the counter at the grocery store, at the government building, or at the retail outlet. Whatever your challenge is today or tomorrow, you can approach the world with grace and kindness, because you have your inner peace moments that others either do not have or have not even begun to try to achieve. That alone sets you above the rest. You are trying. You are achieving. You are striving. This can give you compassion to those who have not.

Recognizing you are left of center is the first step in staying balanced and staying in good spirits. Seeing the good in every situation when you tackle every situation as a challenge. Recognizing that you are out of whack helps answer a lot of life’s questions that may currently have you thrown. It is the first step in the discipline of being in Spirit. Handling situations calmly depends on being centered.

Recognizing when you are pissed is key to returning to center before you get left of center. Look at this unsettling emotion. Look at the situation. Look at the opportunity. Look at the purpose/reason for your unrest. Is it a core trauma? A distant memory or a recent memory? Soul recognition? Some challenge regarding a life behavior? Will this situation make you a better person? Will it help you grow to be a better example to someone now or in the future?

Being centered results in personal growth, in a sense of well-being, in improved health, and in personal joy and peace. Being centered is to feel joy about being one with source and not only doing the right thing at the right time but also being in the right place at the right time all the time. Notice that when you feel you are not centered, you are out of whack.