Three Doctors: Molding and Developing Exceptional Children

By Roxanne Dawn Pawluk-Frost

Three Doctors teaches parents how to raise successful, godly children. Each stage of childhood and into the teenage years is discussed. Many topics of child rearing are covered including godliness, homeschooling, discipline, and learning to read. Three Doctors teaches parents how to encourage their children to become all that they can be. University education is stressed and encouraged. Parents are given useful guidance to enable their children to become professional members of society who are intelligent, caring human beings. The importance of allowing God to guide and direct the parents lives and the lives of their children is stressed. People who have not yet become parents should read this book in preparation for their future roles. Parents of teenagers need to read how to have young people who are confident and content with who they are. Grandparents can also learn how to be a tremendous help in the training of their grandchildren.

Three Doctors can change the future lives of many of our young people. In todays world we see so many young children living wild and disobedient lives. We see teenagers making grave errors that remain with them for their entire lives. Godly children need to be raised to become useful and contributing members of society. Parents can learn how they can have a vital role in seeing their children become all that God wants them to be as they teach and mold the children God has given into their care.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Mar 24, 2015
• ISBN: 9781490873633

Roxanne Dawn Pawluk-Frost

A born-again Christian, Roxanne completed her Bachelor of Education with a major in English. Roxanne and her husband reside in Saskatchewan, Canada, where she homeschooled their four children, who have all been able to achieve degrees in either law or medicine. To learn more about her, please visit her at www.roxannedawnpawlukfrost.com.

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CONTENTS

Dedication

Chapter 1 Introduction

Before Baby Is Born

Chapter 2 Birth to One

Potty Training

The Soother

So Much Work

Chapter 3 One to Five

Equality

Toys

Teaching the Alphabet

The Power of Books

Sharing

Kindness

Be an Example

Discipline

Day Care

Both Parents Working

Vaccines

Chapter 4 Six to Ten

Listening

Do not Quit

Sports

Sleepovers

Allergies

Chapter 5 Eleven to Fifteen

Impressionable Young Teens

Studying

Praying

Jobs

Chapter 6 Sixteen to Twenty

Giving Our Children More than We Had

Driving

Dating

Chapter 7 Godliness

Chapter 8 Homeschooling

Unschooling

Popularity’s Price

University

Chapter 9 Strive for Excellence

Make Them Fun

Make Them Cool

Integrity

Empathy

Welfare

Voting

Troubled Youth

Prosperity

It Was All so Worth It

Chapter 10 Doctor Paragraphs

Dr. Danielle Frost

Dr. Joshua Frost

Adam Frost (Dr. Pending)

Pictures of University Graduations

DEDICATION

I dedicate this book to my husband and children. Thank you, Robert, for your dedication to our family and for supporting us all these years. Thank you to my children for becoming all I brought you up to be. It is an honor to be your mother, and I thank and praise God for allowing me this privilege. I love you all.

Train up a child in the way he should go (and in keeping with his individual gift or bent), and when he is old he will not depart from it.

—Proverbs 22:6

CHAPTER 1

Introduction

There was a proud excitement in the air as parents, families, and friends of the first-year medical students waited expectantly for the white-coat ceremony to begin. Every year at the University of Saskatchewan in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada, new medical students are presented with a white coat in a classy ceremony, complete with a musical quartet.

My husband, Robert, and I sat holding hands, tears in our eyes. This is our last white-coat ceremony, I whispered sadly to him.

He nodded and squeezed my hand. You’ve done a wonderful job with them, he whispered back.

At that moment, the students began walking in. As our son Adam walked in with his classmates, I watched his face. He was so happy and proud of where he was. He should be, I thought. He has worked so hard to get here.

All my children worked diligently to become professionals, but they did have help. They had my help, and more important, they had God’s help. I thought of my daughter, Danielle, now a medical doctor and a family medicine resident with inclinations toward sports medicine. I thought of my son Joshua, also a medical doctor, working as a resident in psychiatry. Now here was my youngest, Adam, entering medical school with dreams of becoming a cardiologist. I knew I’d figured out how to raise successful and intelligent children.

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Adam walking into the white-coat ceremony (September 2013).

The world needs more young people like these, young people who are intelligent, strive to become all they can be, and are people of integrity. For this reason, I decided to write this book. If I can share with young parents what I learned while raising my children, perhaps they’ll also be able to raise young people who become professional members of society.

So many young people in today’s world are floundering. They have no idea what they want to become, and they have no ambitions to achieve anything. They only care about themselves.

I shared my idea for this book with my children. They were enthusiastic about my writing it. They also decided they would like to give their thoughts about my methods of raising them, so you can read their comments in the last chapter of this book.

Raising children in today’s world definitely isn’t an easy task. The world would like to take our children and have them develop to its standards. I was brought up by a godly mother, who taught me to do things the way God wanted me to. I wasn’t left to the world’s devices, and I made sure I didn’t let the world ruin my children, either.

What I’m about to discuss with you isn’t for the faint of heart. If you care more about yourself than you do about your children, my ideas won’t work for you. You must be willing to invest yourself in your children’s lives. My hope and prayer is that many parents will do just this, and the end result will be successful, professional young people of integrity.

I was brought up in a Christian home where my mother did her best to instill Christian values in her children. My father wasn’t on board with this, but he did come to ask Jesus into his heart in his later years.

My mother did all the work in looking after her children. She got her four children ready for church on Sunday, while my father sat and read in his chair. My mother had a huge amount of work to do as a farmer’s wife raising four children, but she still did her best to plant God’s ways in us whenever she could.

When I was in elementary school, I won a trophy for public speaking. My mother asked me whom I should thank for it. I couldn’t understand what she was getting at, so I suggested I should thank her (she was the one who listened endlessly to my practicing), but she said that I should thank God for my award.

After graduating from high school, I entered the University of Saskatchewan and earned my bachelor of education degree with an English major. I married two months after I graduated, and at that time, my new husband still had two years to complete at the same university to obtain his bachelor of science degree in geology. Our plan was for me to secure a teaching position and work while he finished his last two years of school.

However, I found out I was pregnant a few months after I got married and learned no one would hire me as a teacher because I wouldn’t be able to complete the next year of school due to having the baby. This created a lot of stress for Robert, but by the grace of God, we got a small student loan to make it through the year.

The next summer Robert found a job that paid three times what other students were paid for summer employment. His summer jobs continued to provide for our needs, and after he graduated, he began work as a well-site geologist. He has continued to work diligently, putting in long hours away from his home and family, often working away from home over three hundred days a year.

Because Robert worked diligently to provide a good living for his family, I could spend every minute with our children, teaching and molding them into the people they are today. If I had to find employment, I never could have put the countless hours into my children that I did over the years.

I greatly appreciate the sacrifices my husband made for me to be there for our children. He has continued to work for them, paying for their undergraduate studies and their medical school tuitions and support, so they could enter their chosen careers without student loans and debt. What a tremendous gift this has been for our children, and they are all appreciative of what their father has done for them.

Robert and I went without certain luxuries as the children grew up. We could have gotten more things if I had brought in a salary as well, but our children wouldn’t have become who they are today.

You must be willing to make the sacrifice of having one parent available for the children at all times. Children need the security of knowing the ones who love them are always there for them. You must be willing to give up some of your own fun and make your children’s needs a priority. There’s nothing wrong with a husband and wife spending time together or with friends, but if you’re spending the majority of your time without your children, they’re not going to develop into the people they could be.

I’ve seen parents who work all day long. When they arrive home, they prepare a hasty supper and then the parents go off to their fun activities, while their children or young adults are left to emulate either their friends or the actors they watch on television. Parents must be aware that children become whom they are with. As a parent, you must be aware who’s influencing your child.

Before Baby Is Born

I began teaching and developing my children before they were born. I was always careful about what I let my eyes and ears be exposed to, but as soon as I knew I was pregnant with my first child, I became even more diligent. I knew my little one’s brain and heart were developing, and I wanted only good things going into both. I was careful about what I watched on the television, and I didn’t spend time with crude people. I made sure I was in church, where the Word of God was preached for the baby to hear. I read the Word of God aloud in my daily devotions, so my baby heard God’s Word as well.

As my babies grew inside me, I spent time talking to them, letting them get to know me. I told them how much I loved them and how much God loved them and would always be there for them. Robert put his hands lovingly on my belly and said, This is your daddy talking to you. Daddy loves you. My babies heard this every day before they were born.

My babies knew my voice and their father’s voice before they were born. They knew our great love covered them, and they knew God loved them. Right from the start, I took seriously the responsibility of raising each baby God gave us. I was determined to do the best job I could do.

CHAPTER 2

Birth to One

The moment a baby is born, the learning begins in earnest. The baby takes in everything that’s said and heard in his or her presence. As the baby grows, you see more and more attention paid to every detail of the world around him or her. Now your chance begins to raise an intelligent, loving, godly human being.

Soon after my babies were born, I spent a lot of time talking to them. I held them in front of me so we were face to face, and I talked expressively to them. Their little eyes watched my face, and when they were nine days old, they were already smiling.

I walked them around the house as they grew, teaching them the names of all the objects I could find. I said the names clearly over and over and let them touch the objects. I remember teaching a baby what a Christmas tree was. Of course you can’t let a baby grab the sharp needles of an evergreen tree, so I held the baby and leaned into the tree, until the child’s hand barely touched the needles. Then I pulled the baby back.

I always made teaching fun. As I leaned the baby into the needles of the Christmas tree, I said, Touching, touching. That was how I taught verbs to the baby. I let the tinsel run through the baby’s fingers and let hands glance off the tree decorations, all the time telling what was being touched. My babies took in an immense amount of new information every day because of how much time I spent teaching them.

My babies began speaking when they were four months old. I remember one of my son’s first words was Ma-Mom. He called for me when he woke up in the morning. I made sure even by this young age that the words available to them were many. The babies watched my mouth as I spoke