Gender Balancing: An Evolutionary Model for Elevating Relationships from Mediocre to Extraordinary

By Martin Calderon Cohen

“This practical book will make an impact on every one of your relationships. Martin is an extraordinary coach who is in constant demand.”

—Harvey W. Austin, MD, surgeon and author

Gender Balancing: An Evolutionary Model for Elevating Relationships from Mediocre to EXTRAORDINARY shows you how to create a balanced and fulfilling relationship. As a renowned relationship coach, I have helped thousands of people find and enhance their love relationships. Now my book will guide you as you learn to create your own extraordinary relationship.

The steps are easy and doable. You will learn to observe, identify, and balance the feminine and masculine energies within you to empower your relationships with others—and yourself. The discovery of what women and men want and need from each other will surprise and enlighten you. You will discover the five primary relationships and see how you can build on family, friendship, romance, and committed relationships to create an everlasting relationship—one that inspires others.

Throughout the book, simple concepts are illustrated along with fascinating client stories. I have worked with thousands of people. I have watched as women and men have evolved from lonely or bored, taking themselves and their relationships from mediocre to extraordinary. Now it’s your turn.

Humanity has work to do before we transcend gender bias. Extraordinary relationships will one day be established as the new norm. In the meantime, why not get a head start on your own transformation? Throughout the process, I will be there to encourage and support you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Oct 7, 2015
• ISBN: 9781504339582

Martin Calderon Cohen

Martin Cohen is a professional coach and relationship expert who partners with committed individuals, empowering them to achieve unprecedented levels of success, happiness, and satisfaction in their lives. Known as the “Guru of Gender Balancing,” Martin has led programs for thousands of women and men. His unique style and delivery causes breakthroughs for people looking to deeply understand the differences among women and men. Martin is happily married over thirty years and has five children. Website: martincohen.org

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Praise for Gender Balancing

"After reading Gender Balancing, my thoughts traversed the years that my wife and I integrated the principles we absorbed from Martin’s coaching. Our undisclosed secrets, unshared feelings, and unresolved issues are now small glimmers of our past. Martin’s guidelines gave us tangible proof that a male and female bond can exist that is beyond the ordinary. We all have a secret desire to achieve complete happiness in our relationships without effort, and everything we need for that perfection needs no exertion if we let Martin’s essence flow to fully get what we have been missing." —Dr. Alan Shader

With his vibrant coaching and powerful distinctions about women and men, Martin inspires couples to create relationships more extraordinary than they could ever have imagined. He models the sensitivity, loving kindness, and playfulness that couples learn to integrate and cherish in their own relationships. A treasure trove of straight talk and practical wisdom, this book will benefit all who read it. —Dr. Ann B. Gordon, psychotherapist

"In reading Gender Balancing, I went through three emotional stages: intrigued, entertained, and profoundly moved. There were moments where I felt like Martin was inside my brain. It was a most pleasant surprise to find that Martin’s words shifted my outlook on relationships. I had a very idealistic concept of love and men, which mostly came from movies, TV shows, and novels. Gender Balancing gave me a grounding view of who I am, and what kind of relationship I will create with my future partner/husband. I am grateful to have received this gift from Martin before getting into a relationship. I feel a clarity that allows me to be at peace with the circumstances of my love life, while at the same time creating a future that’s way more exciting than my dreams! That’s because I know I am creating something real." —Vanessa Lynn Uzcategui, TEFL educator and writer

"I love Gender Balancing! It is inspiring and absolutely brilliant in its simplicity and application. Martin takes the complication out of relationships. There is a playfulness about this book that places the reader realistically in how we live, love, and create. The cerebral aspects of love, commitment, and romance are rendered palatable for a tantalizing read. We should all immerse ourselves in this book; what we come away with is a fresh perspective on what it means to be in love. Martin has brought together those planetary aspects of our duality so that men and women occupy the same universe; regardless of the apparent illusion, we move and share as one." —Dr. Jim Valentine

"Martin’s work on gender balancing and understanding relationship has had the deepest impact on my life, my relationships, and my ability to know what works and does not work in a relationship. He has empowered me as a woman, as a client, and as a professional partner, and he will always remain one of the people I trust most in my life. Martin’s work is unique, his style is inimitable, and the depth of his heart and soul are evident in every word he writes or speaks. Martin’s work in this book represents a remarkable synthesis of his lifetime commitment to discovering and presenting a new paradigm of possibility for relationships between women and men. Read it at your peril—once you know what relationship is all about, you can never go back to your old, familiar ways."

—Dr. Mara Schiff, author and associate professor at Florida Atlantic University

"In Gender Balancing, I found a way to navigate the most difficult of human (mis)adventures. This book reflected my emotions, hesitations, and fear of commitment. From Martin’s coaching, I have gained an understanding of myself. I am excited by his novel approach to gender balancing. I look forward to exploring what is waiting for me as I go through my transformation. I can only imagine living these principles. I want to change my relationships from mediocre to extraordinary! I can’t wait to sit down and read Gender Balancing all over again. I am committed to altering my beliefs and continuing to work through closing the gap." —Alicia E. Quiroga, MD

"Here is your opportunity to get an expensive seminar for the cost of a book. This practical book will make an impact on every one of your relationships. Martin is an extraordinary coach who is in constant demand. What he does works. When I applied a single instruction from the introduction, my wife fell in love with me all over again." —Harvey W. Austin, MD, surgeon and author of ELDERS ROCK!

GENDER Balancing

An Evolutionary Model

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Elevating Relationships

from

Mediocre to

EXTRAORDINARY

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Balboa Press rev. date: 12/30/2021

Contents

Foreword by Dr. Arthur Phillips

A Message from Martin

Introduction: Why This Book Is for You

SECTION 1—COACHING ORIENTATION

Chapter 1:     Powerful Baby Steps

Chapter 2:     An Ontological Perspective—Standing In the Future

Chapter 3:     What It Is to Be Complete—A New Beginning

SECTION 2—THE GAP: FROM MEDIOCRE TO EXTRAORDINARY

Chapter 4:     Peace Among Women and Men

Chapter 5:     Relationships—Natural or Unnatural?

Chapter 6:     The Fundamental Differences Among Women and Men

Chapter 7:     What Women and Men Really Want and Need from Each Other

Chapter 8:     Five Primary Relationships

Chapter 9:     Falling in Love Is Not Hard, but Staying in Love Is

Chapter 10:   Deal Breakers for Committed Relationships

SECTION 3—GENDER BALANCING

Chapter 11:   Genderless—Before Women and Men

Chapter 12:   The Woman and Man Within You

Chapter 13:   Discovering Your Feminine and Masculine Energies

Chapter 14:   The Impact of Gender Imbalance

Chapter 15:   An Ideal Balance of Feminine and Masculine Energies

SECTION 4—AN EVOLUTIONARY MODEL

Chapter 16:   Communication: Your Pathway to Love

Chapter 17:   Declaring Your Primary Commitments

Chapter 18:   Creating a Power-Source Relationship

Chapter 19:   The Keys to Everlasting Love

Chapter 20:   The New Model for Love

In Closing and Coaching

Acknowledgments

Foreword

Martin Cohen is a powerful motivational speaker and personal coach who has devoted his entire career to the empowerment of others and the fulfillment of their dreams. His passion for his work is always palpably present.

Although the discussion of gender dynamics has been a major topic of the past few decades, his work elevates the conversation to include the reality of the female and male attributes present in all people, both women and men, and the need for balance and harmony rather than victory. This is a message of new possibility for relationships with strong roots in the wisdom of the ancient past.

I recommend reading this book as though you were in the audience at one of Martin’s workshops or in the privacy of a coaching session with him. The book is more than a discussion. It is specifically targeted so that something positive will happen within you.

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