The Ties That Bond: Reflections of a Defining Relationship

By Yvonne M.P. Lee

The Ties that Bond, restoring a defining relationship.

The ties that bond, is a compilation of thoughts, feelings and experiences of the girl inside all daughters. It reveals honesty, reflections and challenges of the profound mother daughter relationship.
This tribute recalls a retrospective account of mothers contribution; she who rocks the cradle rules the world. Its a daunting job, a complex role, having no instruction manual, but she loves and nurtures unconditionally.
Years ago, the norm was for mothering to be modeled in the home. Mothers were fully supported within her circle of care. Motherhood was honored for its selflessness, commitment and wisdom. We have obedience training for pets but have yet to formally prepare young women for this role.
We need a fresh look at this relationship, from the outside in; understanding that mothers come to us as they are, giving all they know and what they learned.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Nov 16, 2012
• ISBN: 9781479714483

Yvonne M.P. Lee

Yvonne Lee is a Caribbean native who, in 1985 migrated to New York, later she settled in south western Connecticut. An avid reader, she fell in love with the art of expressive writing and credits her Alma Mater, Westwood and Wolmer’s Girls’ High Schools in Jamaica, for her early foundation in a love for writing. Yvonne studied Child Development in Jamaica and received a graduate degree from Springfield College, Massachusetts, where she majored in Community Psychology. A concentration in Women’s Studies led her to issues in Domestic and Sexual Abuse of women and children. Working with families traumatized by violence led her to focus on the complex relationship between mother and daughters. Passionate about women’s issues, Yvonne, volunteers as a Court Appointed Special Advocate and writes poetry. She previously published, Timeless Anecdotal Wisdom, a collection of motivational and cultural inspirations gleaned from childhood experiences of adult women.

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Contents

Preface

Thanks

Introduction

Epilogue

This book is dedicated to:

– All my friends who have modeled positive examples set by their mothers.

– Those without positive examples but committed to breaking the cycle.

– Others who had doubts about the mother they would become but tried.

– The countless women who have had turbulent relationships with their mothers, but found the mother in someone else, an aunt, godmother, sister, foster mother, or even a stranger.

– Every female because we are our mothers ourselves!

PREFACE

Over the last fifty years, we have seen the family evolve, the definition and responsibilities of motherhood have changed in both role and meaning. More mothers work outside the home juggling time management, parenting, professional, and family issues, while also being a life partner and colleague. Single mothers have an all-encompassing job of trying to be everything in the face of great hardship, many with little support.

Extended families live further apart; therefore, connections are often infrequent, while the options to communicate have increased (telephone, email, video-cam, text messaging).

The world has become more complex, so family life became more challenging. Divorce rates have increased. More females in the workplace are head of the household.