Making Your Dreams Come True: A 21 Day Journey to Your Higher Self

By Dr. Dottie Hager

In Making Your Dreams Come True, transformative coach Dottie Hager shares twenty-one days of breakthrough ideas for creating the life of your dreams. This book has the potential to transform your life and empower you to make life choices that align with your passion and purpose. The ideas and common sense actions are wonderful resources for bringing positive change in your life.

You will discover
Making your dreams come truegrowing into the perfection of you and becoming yourselfis your divine calling.
You hold the key to your joy and happiness.
Nothing surpasses living in harmony with your higher self.
The world needs you. You know you have something great to give.

Remember you are not striving for perfection but progress. Put love into your actions. A little change every day can cause amazing transformations.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Aug 22, 2014
• ISBN: 9781452519890

Dr. Dottie Hager

For thirty years, Dottie Hager, PhD, has been teaching, leading, and inspiring people to live their best lives by moving beyond the limits placed on them. She guides them to live a life more in touch with their passions and purposes.

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MAKING YOUR

DREAMS COME TRUE

A 21 Day Journey to Your Higher Self

Dr. Dottie Hager

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Contents

Introduction

PART ONE – SEE IT – Journey to the Light of Your Soul

1. Taking Responsibility for Creating the Life You Desire

Two. Knowing Your Desires, Passions, and Vision for Your Life

Three. What’s Your Journey?

4. Becoming Conscious

PART TWO – KNOW IT – Know Thy Self-Look Inside

5. What Are You Thinking?

6. What Are Your Limiting Beliefs and Thinking?

7. What Are the Obstacles Blocking You?

8. What is Your Life Reflecting About You?

9. What is Your Inner Wisdom?

10. What’s Driving Your Life?

11. What Roles Are You Playing?

12. What Are Your Shadows and What Are You Hiding?

PART THREE – LIVE IT – Playing in the World

13. Aligning Your Desires and the Way You Live Life

14. Setting Intentions

15. Staying Focused on What You Desire

16. Willingness to Allow Desires to Be Created

17. Showing Gratitude and Appreciation

18. Finding Your Gifts

19. Living on Purpose

20. Making a Contribution

21. Connecting With A World Bigger Than You

Epilogue

Introduction

Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny-he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally-you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you.- Osho

I am honored you will be joining me on this 21-day journey to your Higher Self. It is my mission to awaken thousands and thousands of people to a life of more love, joy, and abundance.

As I wrote my book, I intended this work to empower you to live the life of your dreams and a life of more love, joy, and abundance. The book teaches you to create the life you desire. It allows you to see how valuable you are and how important you are to what the world needs. This work frees you from any angst and disharmony in your life. Finally, I hope it wakes you up to the endless possibilities that are available for your life.

Wake up! Do you know you have the choice to live the life you want and deserve? This simple statement, I can choose to create my life, changed my life forever. This idea was so foreign to me. I had never heard anything like that. When I heard, I can create what I want, how do I know what I want? Life provides you many choices and believe it or not, you are free to choose what you like. Think of life like a buffet. You do not take everything. What you want today will be different than another day or in a year or in a decade. Therein is the beauty: you can choose again and again. Choose what feels right to you at this time in your life. You leave the rest. That will be just like this journey. You will see, hear, and feel things that resonate with you and then you will notice other things which you dislike like or disagree. Pay attention to all of it. Take what is helpful to make your dreams come true.

Dreams are inside of you dying to be shared and played out in the world. Yet, so few people step up and live the life they desire. Why is that? A small number of people believe that dreams really do come true. What is it that keeps you back? What is playing in your head about why you cannot? Life is inviting you to dance. Hidden deep inside of you is this dream, purpose, or passion that was created for you to share. In order for you to live life playing full out, your work is to shed the layers of that which is not the Divine you. You will let go of what is holding you back from your dreams.

Making your dreams come true is your divine calling, to grow into the perfection of you, to become yourself. You are receiving continual feedback about your current version of life. Simply look at your life right now. It reflects what you have been choosing and thinking. That is why it is so important to know what you want. You know what is right for you. You do not need what other people have or be who other people might want you to be. You need only what lies within you. The joy of life comes as you tap into the wisdom within.

You hold the key to your joy and happiness. The purpose of life is to expand happiness. Every opportunity in your life adds to the meaning. Everything will not be bliss, but it is still part of the plan to live in that state of pure joy. Two of my teachers give this advice. Abraham-Hicks says if it feels good, follow it, do more of it, if it does not feel good, figure out a way to let it go. Dr. Dain Heer teaches if it feels light, it is right for you; if it feels heavy, it is not. Those simple guides can help you make your life easier if you trust and use this wisdom to guide you. Nothing surpasses living in harmony with your Higher Self.

This book will awaken you to the limitless possibilities for your life, share tools for you to use to find your passion, guide you to creating the life you desire, and chisel away all that is unlike you so that you may tap into your greatest, grandest version of you to live that dream you have so long desired. As you take this journey to your Higher Self, get ready to trade in your unconscious life to one where you are playing full out that song in your heart.

This book will allow you to take the time to understand your life and to discover all the wisdom you have within. You will learn so much about yourself as you take this 21-day journey. You will notice how you react to situations and learn how to respond and empower yourself. You will see how when you are broken open, you can transform your life. "The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That’s all you have to do. Change is not something you do; it’s something you allow." - Will Garcia

As you begin this 21-day journey to your Higher Self, choose one area of your life that is not going as you had hoped- spiritual well-being, physical well-being, mental well-being, financial well-being, career, or relationships. By focusing on one area, this makes it easier to do the work and follow your progress. It helps you see where you want your life headed. It allows you to feel the changes with one focus of attention. This area will represent the microcosm of the macrocosm of your life. As you align your desires with your actions, the other areas of your life will also shift. Write down your one area of focus. Keep it in mind as you go through this 21-day process. You can go back and work on other areas after you complete these 21 days. It will get easier as you continue the work.

This book contains three segments – Part One - See It - The Journey to the Light of Your Soul. Here you will be reminded of your dreams, to get back in touch with your passion and desires, and to know the deep longing that you have as the vision for your life. It is in the SEEING what you want that you create it. You have to become crystal clear about what you ask for so that you create what you want and avoid what you do not want. This beginning section is a guide to help you become conscious of the life you are creating and become clear about your vision, passion, and desires. You will take time to dig deep within yourself to know for sure what you yearn to be, to have, and to do. In order to make your dreams come true, you will need to take 100% responsibility for your creating your life.

Part Two – Know Thy Self – Look Inside is to show you where work is required so that you are able to allow your Divine Life to unfold. I ask that you come from a place of love and acceptance of where you are. For our mantra should be, My goal is not to be better than anyone else, but be better than I used to be as Wayne Dyers shares.

You can only transform your life by being willing to understand who you are and how you play in the world. You will weave the good, the bad, and the ugly of your life into the tapestry of the powerful being you were intended to be. You will take time and steps to clear away that which is no longer needed in your life, like cleaning out a messy closet or garage. Only when you love and honor all of yourself can you be the massive value that you were created to be. The world needs you. It is in the KNOWING of who you are that you can share your gifts with the world. You KNOW you have something great to give. Now, there will be nothing to hold you back.

Part Three – Live It – Playing in the World creates your template for living your best life. In this section, I will share some structures and frameworks that need to be in place to make your dreams a reality. It is when you are living on purpose that you can live life fully. You see how to play and have fun in the world. By aligning your passion and dreams with all of who you are, you will live the life of your dreams and be a contribution to the world.

In summary, in the first section, you create your vision with your purpose. By removing the barriers and obstacles, you prepare to play big in your life during the second part. The third part is living it. Your journey to your Higher Self means you have aligned your thoughts, words, and action with your deepest desires.

You will soon be asked to dig deep and be honest in order to have your greatest life. It is not easy at times. You are here, so that says to me you are ready to open up. You are ready to move away from what is in your life right now and/or move away from any turmoil that you might have to live a life of more love, joy, and abundance. As Anais Nin shares, There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. It is your time to have the life of your dreams.

I know firsthand all the joy you can receive from awakening to life’s possibilities and doing the work on this 21-day journey. When I broke from the small box I had created as the way life was, I was free to experience a world beyond my imagination. When I cleared away the distractions – the negative self-talk, my righteous positions, my limiting thoughts about life and myself, trying to be the controller of the universe, I was amazed at how much life had to offer. As Richard Bach says, "You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true." Once I could trust that life conspires to support me, a new world opened. I was able to set my dreams free. Life became amazing and fun. I saw how I was in charge of creating my life. It is astonishing when you are open and willing to see all that life has to offer you. Every day I am shown a larger universe and more possibilities. It shows me ways where I can share or open my life to more love, joy, and abundance. I learned that by doing the internal work and living in alignment with my Higher Self, I can be, do, and have anything I desire.

I hope to show you how to see these endless possibilities for your life and free you so that you are able to bask in the joy, love, and abundance life has to offer. This book is meant to help you build a structure so that you can step back and reflect upon your life and ask questions like –Is my life going like I want? Am I living the life of my dreams? Am I even enjoying life? Am I following my heart’s desires? How can I make it possible to live the life of my dreams? What do I need to make it happen? Keep asking questions. Questions keep you in possibilities. Be open to asking and to asking what is possible for your life. Be open and ready to hear the answers. Follow them.

What I know is that there are dreams inside of you dying to be shared and played out in the world. Do you know what those are? Do you need to clear away some debris to find them again? You create your best life by making the choices that best support you to perform at your highest potential and by being in alignment with what is right for you. Life teaches you through the adventure of your choices. Some of your choices move you in the direction of your dreams and some choices take you on detours. It is all part of the process of life unfolding for you. As you learn some of these tools of life, you will realize you have the power to make things happen in the direction of your desires. It is an empowering feeling. It is freeing but also humbling. The tools you learn will allow you to tackle where you are off track and how to stay on track. You will begin noticing what is happening in your life rather than building more momentum in the direction you do not want to go. You will learn to have less resistance as you move through the process of creating your dreams. The book will provide guidance and thought provoking questions meant to open you up to greater possibilities for your life. Remember living the life of your dreams is a lifetime process. It takes support and structure to create the success you desire. Surround yourself with people and resources that support you. I have designed this book so that you can feel lifted and guided along the way. I hope this book inspires you and evokes great reflection for your life.

Are you open to a greater plan? You have the opportunity to create and change anything you desire. This journey will help you understand how to walk through all parts of the journey – the good times and the hard times. It is all there exactly as it needs to be to help you evolve to your greatest and grandest SELF. You hold the key to your joy and happiness. You will see how to bring peace, love, and harmony to your life, no matter the circumstances.

Life brings adversity. You will have and have already experienced hurt, fear, and pain in your life. It is the ebb and flow of life. That is important to know because once you have more tools, you can walk through the events of life with greater strength and hope. Every person has specific obstacles to overcome. They will pass. It is what you do with them that make the difference. You are always at choice. Will you be willing to admit the truth about your struggles? Are you able to ask for help or support? Can you be vulnerable? Life has twists and turns that can be frightening and dark. You will have difficulties to overcome. There will be bad days, hurts, and rejections. You will have setbacks. It is all part of the journey of life. It does not necessarily make it easier just to know when you are in the depths of pain and hurt. The information is meant to help you feel there is hope on the other side. Try to begin seeing the trials of your life as things that did not work out rather than failures or mistakes. A lot of the pain is created by the meaning you give to the situations you encounter. Let them have wisdom for you, such as knowing that you do not want what just happened to happen again or that it is not right for you anymore. It is all important feedback. It is when you become conscious of what is happening in your life that you are in choice of changing it. Rather than be in the drama of the situations, or create more of it, you will learn how to observe your life so that you are able to create the life of your dreams.

Eckhart Tolle states, Because of the human tendency to perpetuate old emotion, almost everyone carriers in his or her energy field an accumulation of old emotional pain, which I call the pain-body’" (from his The New Earth Book). What he is saying is you hold on to things that no longer serve you or that need to integrate the meaning of the situation into your life. The pain will stay there until you decide to do something with it and about it on a deeper level. Eckhart does a great job of explaining the physical, mental, and emotional connection.

As you go through this process, try to picture your life on parallel tracks – 1) You as a spiritual being (It does not matter what religion or philosophy you follow, it is having a connection to a Higher Power; it is you in your most loving essence) and 2) You living a physical life. Your quest is to remove all the barriers that block your Divine Essence, so that you can experience pure love and joy in all parts of life. The spiritual path is one of releasing and renewing. You will chisel away all that is not your truth or for your Highest Good like Michelangelo did to create the statute of David. Your physical life allows you to experience the world and evolve to your Higher Self on the spiritual level. For example, if you have a cold. Louise Hay explains that a cold is a guide to allow you to see confusion is happening. On the physical level you have the cold. The universe is asking you to clean up whether that is mental, physical, or emotional, or a combination. You ask yourself what it will take to clean up this chaos so you can move back to being healthy. How is that helping you to evolve to your Higher Self? The cold is asking for your attention. It is asking you to be more in alignment with your being. When you have cleared away the chaos, your life is back in harmony. That is the importance of understanding this work. You always receive feedback, both positive and negative. Now, it is time to pay attention and evolve to your greatest Self. Hopefully, you will be able to see how when something happens in your physical world that creates pain, there is a deeper meaning and message for you. There is a mind, body, and soul connection.

When you are living life as only the human doing, you tend to blame the world for all that happens and the circumstances of your life. Life becomes unconscious. Once you begin living as a spiritual being having a human experience, you can begin viewing everything happening as an opportunity to become the greatest, grandest version of you. This will not happen right away. It is a process. Some things such as finding your passion and giving gratitude are easier to move through than others. Learning to forgive others and own parts of your past that you are hiding from are often harder to get to the other side. Pretty quickly, you will remove much of the stress and pain in your physical world by understanding how you are playing in the world. If you do the work with each lesson and honestly apply it, you will quickly see a life of more love, joy, and abundance. You see how experiences evolve you to be free of the chains that are holding you down from the pain of the experiences you are having. You are more lighthearted and carefree. You begin saying things like, Oh, I wonder what I was to learn from that or I wonder what I might need to overcome? Living your life from your Higher Self allows you not to get caught up in the drama of the situations of life. It allows you to take care of what is necessary without the negative energy. It allows you to move through the experience knowing