Radically Alive Beyond Abuse

By Lisa Cooney

Would you like to know how to transition from abuse and trauma into radical aliveness?

This book will allow you to not only overcome an abusive past, but also propel you beyond anything that has stopped you from full out living thus far. You will get a glimpse into the change that can actually help you move through your limita

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lisa Cooney
• Release date: Oct 22, 2023
• ISBN: 9798868940279

Book preview

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MOVING BEYOND THE INVISIBLE CAGE OF ABUSE

Moving on is a simple thing. What it leaves behind, is hard.

DAVE MUSTAINE

Can you give me the details of your early childhood abuse? There was a long silence after my editor asked me this question.

She had recently reviewed the first draft of my book, Kick Abuse in the Caboose, and wanted to fill in more details of my past abuse. I asked her to give me a moment so I could recall everything.

A full eight minutes later, I began listing the details to her.

During those eight minutes, I scanned my body and was amazed to discover that the two decades of physical, sexual, emotional, financial, spiritual and physiological abuse I had experienced no longer ‘inhabited’ my body – although I could remember the heaviness of all the perpetration.

As I shared the details with her, I felt as if I was sharing a client’s or a friend’s story, not mine. I wasn’t dissociating or disconnecting; rather, I had embodied me beyond my story of abuse.

I smiled as I realized just how far I had come in my journey of moving beyond abuse.

One of the things that helped me immensely was reading self-help books – like you’re doing now – highlighting sentences until the words leapt off the page and entered me, giving me a glimpse of a different reality. Knowing that others understood what I was experiencing gave me hope.

And I discovered I certainly wasn’t alone.

I did other things, too. For example, I tried to hike, meditate, swim and bike the abuse out of me. I sought counseling, and even earned a Master’s degree and a Doctorate in Psychology myself. I was committed to continually educating myself clinically, energetically and psychologically, determined to find a way to move beyond abuse.

As I facilitated workshop after workshop and freed others from their abuse, ultimately, I freed myself as well. And I haven’t stopped. My commitment continues to be to eradicate and eliminate abuse in all its many forms from this planet through the Live Your ROAR movement.

Moving Beyond Abuse: A New Paradigm of Healing

Perhaps you’ve experienced abuse, whether sexual, physical, spiritual, financial or emotional. It may have been a single event or a series of incidents.

You may have already invested a vast amount of time and energy in healing your experience of abuse and, perhaps, not seen the results you desired. That’s understandable. Unfortunately, I’ve found that a lot of tools and practices that preceded the approach I take to moving beyond abuse are about fixing ourselves and defining ourselves by our story of abuse.

I am not of the belief that we must fix ourselves in order to be free. When we adopt this model, we assume that there’s something wrong with us and we look for solutions to fix the problem. It becomes a bottomless pit. And we never get to the end of it because we never feel fixed or whole. Instead, you find yourself going around in similar circles, wondering if it will ever end, waiting for the day when you are finally healed. Healing abuse does occur in layers, sometimes many layers, focusing on what’s right about you is the cornerstone to empowering yourself beyond