Mind It... Realizations & Solutions

By A.T. Rajkumar

This book is about overcoming depression, negativity, anxiety, emotional disturbances, stress and how you can make your life very simple. Mind techniques- first of it's kind, are explained and it's implementation is also explained to overcome depression, negative thoughts, anxiety, suicidal thoughts etc. The author A T RAJKUMAR has also explained how to accept things easily and explained how the life is so easy. Ultimate purpose of life, overcoming overthinking, balancing the happiness and suffering, visualizing to win, how to remember things are all explained very well in this book. Beauty of this book is the explanation of how you can overcome various day to day problems very easily.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Pustaka Digital Media
• Release date: Jul 17, 2021
• ISBN: 6580546407291

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MIND IT...

Realizations & Solutions

Blanking the (Thinking) Worries…

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A.T. Rajkumar

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PREFACE TO THE BOOK

If one is born amongst a lot of siblings, it seems but natural that one has a complex mind filled with negative thoughts and insecurities due to the constant comparisons. In my childhood, I was affected by the presence of my many siblings. It made me suffer a burning sensation in the head in difficult times.

Parents play a very important role in the lives of children, especially during the teenage and adolescent ages. It’s important not to be a normal parent - pressuring children to study well, pursue extra curricular activities etc. As a parent, it’s important not to force our desires and tasks on them. They are individuals with their own sense of freedom. The worst thing is to compare them with other children. It’s good to be a friend, give them importance, spend time with them and create opportunities for them to learn and know things. It’s also vital that children get educated on hormonal changes. Teenage and puberty add to the complexity and confusion due to the sudden changes happening in the body and mind.

As a teenager, I wanted to overcome these complex feelings I was having. So one day, I suddenly stopped at a Ganesha temple in our colony and prayed. Until then, I had never ever prayed sincerely nor had the belief. When you start having problems, only then are you are able to start believing in something. It gives you a perspective, a realization, belief and solutions. It makes you stronger as well. I trusted in Lord Ganesha to overcome my mind troubles. My unsuspecting belief in Ganesha, amman helping solve many things. I used to also visit some temples everyday like the virudhunagar mariamman temple. I believed that things will happen well for me due to this. From this i learnt that belief and complete trust bring wonders.

At the age of 18, I started learning meditation to solve my mind problems. In 1987, there was no internet. I looked through the yellow pages of the telephone book and found a meditation center in Annanagar. I used to travel by multiple buses from Tambaram to Anna nagar to be at the center. I overcame my problems, found solutions and became stronger in my life.

There were still many questions lingering in my mind regarding God’s existence. But, belief and trust made certain things happen. I didn’t believe in astrology until an astrologer told me exactly what had happened in my past. This made me believe in good times, bad times and astrology. Although I still believe in astrology and time, I don’t go to them , as life won’t be interesting and exciting. If our life is predicted ahead of time, it reduces excitement in living...

I was termed nothing by certain people until I was 22 years old. Things turned suddenly in my life, clearing showing the effect of good time or that visualizing good, brings positivity, motivation, sources, opportunities etc. But, we don’t need to wait for good times, we can try to make every moment good.

At the age of 20, without a penny in my pocket, I used to look at the business offers in the Hindu newspaper and try to see whether any business can be started. It sounds stupid but I wanted to be an entrepreneur. I didn’t want to work under any one. I felt like a slave working under someone. It was here that the visualizing and law of attraction worked. Good times came ... opportunities came .. I started a business and became an entrepreneur. This made me believe in visualizing and law of attraction.

My wife was my best support always. It is very rare to see such an open and genuine woman. I am blessed with two beautiful and intelligent children. They have made us proud to be their parents. My mother was an inspiration for me. Her attitude taught me to be egoless and have good relationships with people. My father was an inspiration for me becoming a disciplined person to some extent. i am very lucky to be born in a big family with two sisters and five brothers all being nice ones.

My experiences with exploring things and the subsequent results made me believe. All my experiences have taught me to become what I am today. When you have good thoughts, good vibes,an empathizing character and care for others, people get attracted. I must thank Maharishi Mahesh Yogi and Shri Shri Ravishankar for giving me all the beautiful meditation and kriyas practices. Using all these practices and learnings, I have realised that…

Right from the moment we are born, a race begins... This race includes getting admission into a good school, securing good marks, finding admission in a good college, getting selected in a well paying job, getting married, having children, owning a big car, beautiful house, doing social service etc. But, it is often seen that even after we have fulfilled all these materialistic things, we feel dissatisfied - it feels as if something is missing. What is the reason for this?

While achieving all these things, we may have undergone lot of stresses, challenges, struggles, negativity, depression, anxiety etc. We overcome all of it in order to achieve our goals. We carry the fear that all the negative stuff will be back in our life again. We are anxious that we may face these bad situations and tough times again and do not wish to experience the negative emotions again. We seek to lead a calm life while achieving all our goals.

We may think that we can lead a calm life only by becoming a swamiji or spiritual guru. It seems easier for them since they do not have families, emotions and other attachments. We can definitely lead a calm life, if we are devoid of all these. But even spiritual people need to practice some form of pranayamas and meditation regularly to achieve calmness.

The Almighty designed human life with families, attachments and emotions. This is, in a way, the essence of human life. The ultimate purpose of human life could then be seen as - the ability to live harmoniously within families, with emotions, attachments, money and service - while maintaining a calm mind.

Understanding this, I have set the ultimate goal in my life as - to get a calm and realized mind, free of any emotional disturbance, while leading a wordly life. I have lived my family life to the fullest while simultaneously practicing breathing based kriyas and meditation regularly. With consistent practice, I have now managed to achieve a calm and realized mind. These practices have helped me with realizing the mind and creating mind techniques. I love to share these realizations and techniques with all those who are seeking answers on this path.

This book has been published in continuation of my earlier book - Mind it... you don’t have to be a Swamiji. In this book, I have shared some more of my understanding and realizations in answer to questions received from seekers like you. I hope you find this helpful and it inspires you to practice the techniques, which will help you achieve a calm and realized mind. Live a happy and blissful life!

Best wishes

A.T. Rajkumar

Table of Contents

UNDERSTANDING OUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS

REALIZATION OF THE MIND

REDUCING FOCUS ON

UNNECESSARY THINGS

CREATING FOCUSED THOUGHTS

CONTROLLING EMOTIONS

AVOIDING EMOTIONAL DECISIONS

RIGHT USE OF EMOTIONAL AND RATIONAL MIND

POWER OF THE EMOTIONAL MIND

DESIRES AND HAPPINESS

KNOWING THE SECRET OF HAPPINESS

COPING WITH MOOD DETERIORATION

OSCILLATING BETWEEN

HIGHS AND LOWS

CLEARING MIND’S SABOTAGE

TO HAPPINESS

REDUCING ANGER

DEALING WITH JEALOUSY

CONQUERING ENVY

OVERCOMING WORRY AND ANXIETY

RIGHT MINDSET PROTECTS FROM DEPRESSION

FEAR OF SHARING

OUR DEPRESSION WITH OTHERS

OUR MIND, OUR THOUGHTS

AND EMOTIONS

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

FOR OUR THOUGHTS

NATURE OF THE MIND - UNNECESSARY THOUGHTS

INFLEXIBILITY TO IMPLEMENT CHANGE

QUANTIFYING THE STATE OF MIND

OVERCOMING DEPRESSION

FEELING UPSET FOR

UNKNOWN REASONS

LIMITED USE OF NEGATIVE THINKING

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME

LOOKING AT OUR STRUGGLES DIFFERENTLY

COMPARING OURSELVES WITH OTHERS

HEALING ANXIETY RELATED

HEALTH ISSUES

EXPERIENCING DEPRESSION

FEELING DEPRIVED AND SAD

STAYING CALM IN THE FACE OF BLAME

OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE FUTURE

EXPERIENCING SWEET OUTCOMES

OF BITTER THINGS

WANTING TO EXPERIENCE SILENCE

CONTROLLING BAD HABITS

OVERTHINKING AND CONTRADICTING ONE’S OWN THOUGHTS

CULTIVATING BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

EGO AND RELATIONSHIPS

UNDERSTANDING EMPATHY

DIFFERENTIATING INTELLECTUAL AND EMOTIONAL EMPATHY

BEING EQUAL

FEELING HAPPY FOR OTHERS

UNDERSTANDING ANGER

OVERCOMING FEELINGS OF

BEING ALONE

EMPATHIZING WITH PROBLEMS

PATCHING UP AFTER A BREAK

FEELING POSSESSIVE

POLARITIES OF HAPPINESS

AND SADNESS

CONTROLLING OTHERS MIND

OVERCOMING INHIBITIONS

PERCEPTIONS OF BEAUTY AND UGLINESS

BREAKING A RELATIONSHIP

EXPRESSING EMOTIONS HONESTLY

CONTROLLING EXPECTATIONS

SEEKING REVENGE IS DETRIMENTAL

OBSESSION WITH UNRESOLVED CONFLICTS

OBSESSION WITH A LOVED ONE

TAKING EXTREME STEPS

HANDLING SUCCESS AND FAILURE

QUITTING OVER-ANALYZING PEOPLE

SHARING SECRETS

CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK

HAVING DOUBLE STANDARDS

DISCUSSING DISTURBING NEWS

YOUNGSTERS SUFFERING

MENTAL ISSUES

NURTURING A MARRIAGE

STAYING SINGLE TO

CONTROL EMOTIONS

HEALTHY PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP

NOT LISTENING TO PARENTS

COPING WITH EMOTIONAL PAIN

MISUNDERSTANDING

IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

OVERCOMING DEPRESSION

AFTER LOSS OF LOVED ONE

CHANGING OTHER’S VIEWS ABOUT ME

BEING A CYBER-CHONDRIAC

FAN FOLLOWING

MINDSETS OF RICH AND POOR PEOPLE

PHOTOGRAPHS MAKE US

HAPPY AND SAD

LOVE AND RESPECT FOR

SPIRITUAL GURUS

YOUNGSTERS IN RELATIONSHIPS

SOLVING DISCONNECTION

IN RELATIONSHIPS

SPENDING QUALITY OR QUANTITY TIME

COMMUNICATING WITH EMPATHY

LETTING GO OF ATTACHMENTS

OVERCOMING ANGER OF BETRAYAL

OVERCOMING ANGER AND

HURT AFTER BREAKUP

COPING AFTER A BREAKUP

CREATING EFFICIENCY IN WORK AND STUDIES

FOCUS ON IMPORTANT THINGS

CHOOSING A FOCUS AREA

REMEMBERING TASKS

SUSTAINING INTEREST IN ACTIVITIES

REDUCING BOREDOM IN

REPETITIVE WORK

FORGETFULNESS OF THE MIND

DEALING WITH BIASES

BEING SELF DISCIPLINED

REDUCING STRESS OF

BEING DISCIPLINED

COMPARING CONFIDENCE VERSUS DISCIPLINE

CULTIVATING HABITS FOR SUCCESS

FINDING ENOUGH TIME

SECRETS TO STUDYING WELL

DEVELOPING FOCUS IN STUDIES

PERFORMING WELL IN AN EXAMINATION

DOING GOOD WORK

ELIMINATING FRUSTRATION

DUE TO BEING JOBLESS

INSPIRING ONESELF TO WORK

CONTINUING TO WORK

IN TIMES OF CRISIS

ELIMINATING ANXIETY OF

MAKING MISTAKES

DOING YOUR DUTIES IN

THE SOCIETY

ACHIEVING GREATNESS

DISCOVERING EXCITEMENT IN EVERYDAY LIFE

IMPORTANCE OF MENTAL HEALTH

IMPORTANCE OF PRACTICES TO CALM THE BODY-MIND

REAPING BENEFITS FROM MEDITATION

PRAYING EFFECTIVELY

PEACE IS A JOURNEY

TAKING STEPS TO CHANGE ONE’S LIFE

STAYING HEALTH CONSCIOUSNESS

ACHIEVING GREATNESS

CHANGING ATTITUDE - CHANGING CHARACTER

OVERCOMING IN TOUGH TIMES

PRACTICING POSITIVE THOUGHTS

AND VISUALIZATION

REDUCING MENTAL STRESS

THROUGH FOCUS

UNDERSTANDING OUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS

REALIZATION OF THE MIND

Q

How can we control our thoughts and emotions?

To control our thoughts, we must learn how to control our mind. Once we gain control over our mind, we can easily avoid negative or unnecessary thoughts that lead us into trouble. In order to control our mind, it is important to be aware of our thoughts.

There are two types of thoughts - one is a direct, negative thought born out of negative situations or out of your mind’s weakness. The second type is thoughts that start out as positive memories of the past or imagining yourself to be superior to others when you achieve big things and receive appreciation. Allowing your mind to be in these thoughts for too long could lead to negative memories of