Manifest the Perfect Mate: Find the Love and Respect You Desire
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Is Your Track Record Less than Stellar?
Then This Book if For You!
This book is about you, your past and present relationships, and more importantly, your future relationship. Traditionally, far too much emphasis has been placed on “finding someone to love” and far too little has been understood about the strength and joy to be found in learning to love ourselves first. This new, holistic approach explains how to avoid the traps of unhealthy relationships. It is a clear, practical guide for those who are in lackluster, disconnected relationships or are seeking to create a healthy relationship from the start.
Paula Langguth Ryan shares anecdotes and examples drawn from her extensive counseling experience plus lessons learned about the psychology of love during more than 25 years as a communications and conflict specialist. This powerful guide offers a profound yet easily applied message to very individual. You can conquer personal fears, overcome adverse relationship history, and transform and enhance your love life if only you know how to use the power you possess to:
- Develop you own healthy boundaries
- Achieve friendship and lasting love
- Transform sabotaging core beliefs
- Move beyond past relationship patterns
- Gain control of your emotions and fears
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Manifest the Perfect Mate - Paula Langguth Ryan
Introduction
Can I speak candidly to you? Think of me as that trusted friend who is willing to share some hard truths with you about relationships. Whether we’re in relationships or seeking relationships, all too often our thoughts center on how we can get
love, attention, connection, a sense of security and so on.
I’m here to tell you that you’re not only looking for love in all the wrong places—you’re also looking for love for all the wrong reasons. (I told you I was going to be blunt!)
We’re fixated, I dare say, on getting something from someone in almost all of our relationships. We want a partner who won’t abandon us, who will help ease those places where we feel unsafe, unworthy, powerless, lacking and so on. I know the fear that drives these actions.
The fear is that if you honor yourself, speak your truth, or stand up for yourself, the other person will leave you, or stop dating you, or stop calling you. That’s the fear. We’re deeply afraid of being lonely, lonely loners
as Sid the sloth from Ice Age would say.
As a result, we expend great effort trying to be who we think someone else—our mate or potential mate—wants us to be. We lose sight of who we are, how we want to show up in relationship, and what we want in a long-term partner.
The same goes for your intended. If you give people room to be themselves and allow them to have their feelings, and not try to fix the situation, and not close down because they’re shutting down, you open up a huge opportunity to create the relationship you really want. When you close down it’s because you’re focusing on what you don’t want.
As you read this book, you’re going to change that. You’re going to remember who you are and what you want in a relationship.
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Focus on the Feeling
Are you looking to manifest a new relationship, or revitalize a current relationship? Either goal is within your reach if you’re willing to recognize and release the fears and old stories that keep you from being fully open to love.
This book will hold great value for you, for all your relationships, provided you steadfastly do the recommended activities. Before you proceed, grab something to write with, as you’ll be doing exercises that will require you to write things down.
When you are looking to manifest the right and perfect mate in your life (new or current), the first thing you need to look at is what you want the relationship to feel like, as opposed to what you want the relationship to look like.
We all get caught up in what we want our romantic relationships to look like, with all the intricate details we believe are important. And we’re so focused on the external that we completely miss the internal deal-breakers
until we’re immersed in a relationship. Instead of focusing on the external appearance—if you truly want to draw the right and perfect mate to you—focus on what the essence is that you want in your life.
What do I mean by essence?
The essence of your desired relationship refers to all those inherent, indispensable qualities in a relationship that feed your soul. What do you truly desire in a mate? I want you to make a list.
It’s often easier to make a list of what you don’t want, so start there. You want a mate who doesn’t do what? Who doesn’t get possessive? Who doesn’t put you down or make you feel small? Write it all down on your list. What don’t you want a mate to be like? You want a mate who doesn’t make you feel what?
Once you’ve made that list, look at each of the items you don’t want and ask yourself, What do I really want instead of this?
When you focus on what you don’t want in a relationship, you continue to draw those qualities to you. In order to draw the right and perfect mate to you, you need to focus on what it is you truly want instead of these unwanted attributes.
Clarity on What I Want
For example, say your list includes this statement: I want someone who doesn’t get possessive.
Write down what it is you really want regarding this aspect of your right and perfect mate: What I really want is someone who is secure enough not to be threatened by my independence. I really want someone who truly enjoys, supports and celebrates my independence.
Or maybe your list includes: I want someone who doesn’t put me down and make me feel small.
Write down what it is you really want: What I really want is someone who is loving, supportive, mature, kind, joyful, confident.
Or maybe your list includes: I want someone who doesn’t constantly need me to be strong.
Write down what you really want. What I really want is someone who is my equal; someone who complements me.
Make a list of all the attributes that resonate for you. What are all those pieces that make up the right and perfect mate for you?
Once you make that list, set it aside. We’ll get back to it in a bit.
Transform Old Relationship Issues into Gifts
Now that you’ve set into motion the energy of attraction for the essence of your relationship, it’s time